Neglect is not a word that most would intentionally not seek to understand from a logical or reasoning comprehension of. For in all honesty, at first glance, there is really no explanation that could justify neglect or abuse of a child.
But to fully capture the wide and individualized meanings of neglect and how to understand neglect in your own life and in the lives of others - one must learn the facts of neglect to form a non-biased or non-judgmental view to grasp the facts of neglect and how neglect lives and survives.
The holiday seasons is a very good time to learn about neglect. Sounds absurd I know and I do understand anyone who disagrees with my idea better than they are able to understand my important need to share this.
It is those things that we fail to speak, fail to discuss, or are too painful to talk about or understand that allows neglect to grow, produce damage and live in the life of millions of victims and survivors today. I perceive neglect and its effects as an epidemic that lives in every community, every organization, every profession and in every occupation and school system. Neglect is a civil threat that poisons the lives of every individual in the human race and the generations they will produce tomorrow.
Neglect is alive and well and healthier than we as people are in general. For neglect can occur every day in every word we speak, every action we give, or anything we do. Neglect is not just for the criminal abusers or the convicts who are serving time when they have sought hurt or committed crimes upon others. But neglect occurs even in the lawful and moral people.
When we fail to speak our errors, admit our mistakes and apologize while seeking a healthier change - we too - are the enablers and ignorantly blissful in the neglect of pain and the reality that occurs because we fail to admit our neglect to others and our self.
Most parents or caregivers are probably the most ignorant and stubbornly convicted in their individual minds that they never neglect their children or our youth or our elderly or disabled. They are the reason neglect lives on and continues on with each generation taking the lives of the once innocent with it.
The social tragedies and individual tragedies created by neglect is the most devastating effect of any civilization of human beings. The human race suffers in every aspect of life by the effects done by neglect.
A healthier change has to exist in each person to become aware of neglect. To become aware of neglect - one must be not be afraid to become aware. They too are an enabler or carrier of this silent disease of neglect. The choices we made or make, the actions we speak, the examples we give are of neglect or to stop neglect. Through nature and nurture we learn to witness and see the examples of effects of neglect directly. Their ways will become our healthy or unhealthy operations to our own life that will become our choices - if we do not seek change.
Human beings have a wonderful intellect, mental, emotional, psychological and physical layout to work with through our genetics and uniqueness of experiences that hold value for the human race in the direction we can go or what we regress too.
For we each are a puzzle piece that belongs and links up to complete the human race. Our contributions are as important as the most elite of our kind. Many will disallow such thinking because if we all thought this way - imagine the possibilities?
The child of poverty that grows up to become the President of the United States to service the human race to stop human crimes upon one another because their knowledge offers insight into a problem that only experience can know how to stop it. The criminal who makes a healthy change after prison to seek a law or official degree that changes the world of criminal profiling because we would have the factual tools of the origin of one criminal who possess the psychological profiling of finding out what a criminal is and this criminal chose to put humility aside to grow humble knowledge and healthier skills instead to give back to the service of growing our human race and no longer hurting it. Sounds extreme I know. But imagine just the same.
The teenager that suffered several generations of teen mothers in her genetic linkage due to culture of lifestyle she grew up in. She chose not to become the family tradition but sought further education to become a child advocate for other children of oppressions and depressions to teach them emotional, moral and lawfulness that she never got but choose to seek a healthier change in her own individual life to make it happen.
Imagine if adults would say I am sorry and seek to change in their actions to rebuild or gain a trust that was broken because of the neglect they had done to another in their life.
Someone I Use to Know believed that change was possible for anyone who wanted it strongly enough. Healthy versus unhealthy. Positive versus Negative. Happy versus Sad. Anger versus humility of learning. Apologize versus Hate.
This dreamer's world and beliefs were my own of Someone I Use to Know and still are. The only difference now and then is that I am gaining the peacefulness and healthiness inside that I sought to create for others that I never could because I did not know how to produce this in myself so my efforts for naught for others. It is not dissing myself or the efforts I made as they were with the best of intentions but it is admitting that I was a Peter Principle of my own intentions, motives, and actions too. For one person I would help, it would neglectfully hurt another.
I do still live with this motto of dreaming now. In my life experiences I have seen those who reach higher and keep pulling their self up by their boot straps and those who simply refuse too or can not or will not.
Even with the skills, tools and giving someone more options to solve their problems - only they can choose to use them for self - when or if - they are able. When they are truly not able - then we must be strong enough, wise enough, compassionate enough and brave enough for them to be the pioneers of the future to help them to help them selves in ways that they can and offer assistance to them what they can not do.
I guess it is truly to each their own learning and how to use new tools. I personally know every day the healthy benefits I am obtaining and feeling because my efforts to learn and apply daily what I am gaining in my life.
If efforts were a visual million dollar bill that could be handed out - every one would stand in line to get theirs. But when it comes to invisible or intangible healthy productions in the human body, brain, emotions and thoughts - it is not quite so simple to do and understand a journey that belongs only to those who choose, commit, and dedicate time to growing what they did not know but wanted to.
When a person has a question to ask and no one can answer them - then how can they answer that question that may solve their problem? When society can not answer - when professionals can not answer - when family or friends or partners or any person answer can not answer that which you need to know to solve your problems - sometimes - you have to admit and accept that you do not know everything and you may just have to pick up a new tool for your self and learn how to do it.
Without learning and educating and gaining new tools or skills to live and survive life - you live as you were and become just as you choose to be based upon the old processes you accept that leads to ignorantly bliss or self destruction. A life of cycling internally within of your emotions, thoughts and actions that can not and never will be solved because you didn't realize or weren't aware that sometimes the bootstraps you need to pick your self up and go on - are within you to learn how to change; not just externally.
Please read about the facts of neglect as this was my word of the day.
The Federal Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA Reauthorization Act of 2010) defines child abuse and neglect as, at minimum:
"Any recent act or failure to act on the part of a parent or caretaker which results in death, serious physical or emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitation; or an act of failure to act which presents an imminent risk of serious harm."
Neglect is the failure of a parent, guardian,
or other caregiver to provide for a child’s
basic needs. Neglect may be:
Physical (e.g., failure to provide necessary
food or shelter, or lack of appropriate
supervision)
Medical (e.g., failure to provide necessary
medical or mental health treatment)
Educational (e.g., failure to educate a
child or attend to special education
needs)
Emotional (e.g., inattention to a child’s
emotional needs, failure to provide
psychological care, or permitting the
child to use alcohol or other drugs)
Sexual abuse includes activities by a
parent or caregiver such as fondling a child’s
genitals, penetration, incest, rape, sodomy,
indecent exposure, and exploitation
through prostitution or the production of
pornographic materials.
Sexual abuse is defined by CAPTA as “the
employment, use, persuasion, inducement,
enticement, or coercion of any child to
engage in, or assist any other person to
engage in, any sexually explicit conduct
or simulation of such conduct for the
purpose of producing a visual depiction
of such conduct; or the rape, and in cases
of caretaker or inter-familial relationships,
statutory rape, molestation, prostitution,
or other form of sexual exploitation of
children, or incest with children.”
Emotional abuse (or psychological abuse) is a pattern of behavior that impairs a child’s
emotional development or sense of self-worth. This may include constant criticism,
threats, or rejection, as well as withholding love, support, or guidance. Emotional abuse
is often difficult to prove, and therefore,child protective services may not be able
to intervene without evidence of harm or mental injury to the child. Emotional abuse
is almost always present when other types of maltreatment are identified.
Abandonment is now defined in many States as a form of neglect. In general, a child is considered to be abandoned when the parent’s identity or whereabouts are
unknown, the child has been left alone in circumstances where the child suffers
serious harm, or the parent has failed to maintain contact with the child or provide
reasonable support for a specified period of time. Some States have enacted laws—often
called safe haven laws—that provide safe places for parents to relinquish newborn
infants.
Substance abuse is an element of the definition of child abuse or neglect in many
States. Circumstances that are considered abuse or neglect in some States include the
following:
Prenatal exposure of a child to harm due to the mother’s use of an illegal drug or other substance
Manufacture of methamphetamine in the presence of a child
Selling, distributing, or giving illegal drugs or alcohol to a child
Use of a controlled substance by a caregiver that impairs the caregiver’s ability to adequately care for the child.
Signs and Symptoms of a Child The Child:
Shows sudden changes in behavior or school performance
Has not received help for physical or medical problems brought to the parents’ attention
Has learning problems (or difficulty concentrating) that cannot be attributed
to specific physical or psychological causes
Is always watchful, as though preparing for something bad to happen
Lacks adult supervision
Is overly compliant, passive, or withdrawn
Comes to school or other activities early, stays late, and does not want to go home
Is reluctant to be around a particular person
Discloses maltreatment
The Parent:
Denies the existence of—or blames the child for—the child’s problems in school or at home
Asks teachers or other caregivers to use harsh physical discipline if the child misbehaves
Sees the child as entirely bad, worthless, or burdensome
Demands a level of physical or academic performance the child cannot achieve
Looks primarily to the child for care, attention, and satisfaction of the parent’s emotional needs
Shows little concern for the child
Now that you have read about neglect - go back to each. Ask yourself - what was done to you in your life that made you feel neglected personally? Now, analyze yourself - what have you done to others or your own children or the youth of your life that could have left them feeling neglected by the choices or examples that you made? Something to think about how we are all have given neglect as much as we have received neglect - isn't it? What are you going to do to learn how to change neglect in your life and those that you have neglected? -
https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/whatiscan.pdf#page=2&view=How%20Is%20Child%20Abuse%20and%20Neglect%20Defined%20in%20Federal%20Law?
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