A Person I Use to Know could increase sales for a profit very much easier than she could find in herself to sale her creative works of art. Her approach to self and items she created were as gifts. Tangible items her imagination created or things that had an important purpose that she felt guilty if she ever sold something that she thought of.
But if it were a mission of a job to sale, perform and reap profits - it was easy. For she believed in the mission of her work, the products that she believed in and she was simple because she did like a good value for the dollar and sharing the savings of a good deal. She knew what it take to labor, think, and give to productivity by the efforts she and the team play of others she worked with did too. To her, it was not just apart of her self she was giving away with each production or sales increased - but it was a contribution to a whole team that was doing the same.
She never could get over her insecurities, perceptions and thoughts of her own creations to profitably sustain herself with her creativity or to be boastful that it does take in pride and security to promote sufficient sales to sustain one's self in any business manner. She could never understand why she was such a freebie of her creations and very giving to others.
Internally, she knew the difference of logic and emotions but emotions would always win. Emotions would always stop her from taking money from another, even if they had it to give without burden for services rendered or even if they didn't have it. She believed in what she did, achieved, and attempted that she felt free was more of a public service and her duty than the selfish profits she sought to obtain. The joys she gained in creating her things was a joy she wanted to only give and share which had more value than money did to her.
A very unwise and unhealthy approach indeed to any business or personal missions to seek profits. For profits and revenue can not increase in anything that one seeks to financially obtain without having a mission statement, a moral and lawful code of duty, and even the time it takes to produce, think and draft a new idea for a business; it takes logic.
Emotions have nothing to do with the equation unless you are servicing customers directly but for a person of management it takes an equal balance of both logic and emotional understanding and competency in each to give fulfilling transactions for the customer and the products they purchase from you as well as giving them stable service along with leaving them to depart with an emotional experience in addition to just a financial transaction. That's what makes for good management, business leaders, supervisors or managers or anyone that comes in contact with customers and the public.
She never could learn to apply balance to both nor could she achieve this for herself. For her emotions were her primer and her first coat of productivity that she would stamp on everything she ever done. She is now learning how to capture that stability of emotions and logic and productivity in her own life now - finally. But will she ever reproach personal sales or motivating herself to be in business for herself? Only time will tell. But this person used to be me that I knew.
I share this to enlighten and broaden the ability for others to think out of their own comfort zones as well. It's easier for people to discuss business and objectives at work than it is to admit emotional void or even self issues with emotions and the silent thoughts that we all do.
This is human nature and imperfect art that each of us are. I suppose it has always been like that.
But I have always figured that I would rather be considered a fool for speaking that which perhaps, should not have been spoken than to think of an idea and not contribute. I would rather give way to speculations or verbal assumptions that I am crazy or stupid than ever missing the chance to assist someone who may need my verbal ramblings or word gambling I do. So now to the title at hand to get a person thinking more for self.
Is Misery your friend or your foe? Is Misery healthy or unhealthy to you? Do you view you and Misery as tolerable friends that can respect one another and extend to others without inducing more pain or hurt on either? Or do you and Misery stick together like glue not to let anyone come between you and this dark emotion? Do you guide your Misery to lighter results or do you accept the darkness creations of havoc and let Misery go only when Misery finally wants to leave? Elementary questions I know but I have no shame nor pride when it comes to striking up topics that gets a person thinking for self.
My word of the day was Misery. Misery is a dark word. Misery could describe human life in general and our interactions socially and government operations too. For Misery causes, produces and enables oppressions, depressions, poverty, and darkness to linger and thrive quite possibly as the silent enemy to each life.
Misery visits everyone in life - this is equal emotion we all share.
No amount of smiles, laughter, safe comfort, or luxurious financial wealthy living can stop the emotions, feelings, or thoughts Misery provokes. The hostage of Misery demotes information of human intellect and a silent conscience that empowers the squalor of Misery that can not be stomped upon.
No water to put out the fire of speculation that Misery inflames. No amount of fact to explode or destroy the fireworks of reactive impulsive desire to force complete disintegration of this life changing and death altering thing of individual Misery that blinds the eyes to see reality. The deafening sounds of hopeful living Misery thieves. The Misery shards of metal in the mouth to cut through in the taste of blood. Leaving one to never know such filth to salivate and bubble a boil in the mouth. A smell of misery that burns and stings the face of all who witness Misery.
A contagious silent disease within the core of one that can quickly multiple into a social or family unit or a once loving relationship that has now became a match waiting to be lit of something misinterpreted when spoken because personal interpretation says it can be this or only be that - not an either/or and both. So the battle of Misery wars begins and continues to seek and prove a right, fact or a truth that each individual deserves validations, resolutions or answers too but neither will get out of Misery to resolve for it is easier to stand and fight.
Two sides get formed of who is truth. Who is lie? Who is broken? Who is whole? Who is richer? Who is poorer? Who is healthy? Who is unhealthy? Who is desolate? Who is void? Who is smart? Who is dumb? Who is wise? Who is ignorant? Who accomplished 1 effectively good deed and who destroyed 1 life because of it?
The cycle of words that spew poison leaving only Misery to smile. The venom of vocabulary in the air that torches the oxygen to give life to Misery's breath.
The chilly freeze of hardened human representation that makes a snowman jealous - all because the power to exist and stay bred for Misery was granted by one person and argued or debated by two people.
One person so alone, scared, fearful, anxious, hurting, pained, and scarred with no relief from Misery's hold on to them.
They learned how to use Misery to defend and protect their truth, facts and validate self using Misery. They never could learn to appreciate the rainbows of facts that really has created all humans equal.
For Misery visits all. Misery is the visitor and guest to each of us in life. Misery does not pick and choose to discriminate against. Misery only lives, resides, and stays in duration of time where Misery is allowed too by one individual.
It is just easier to allow Misery to be the dark guardian angel - best friend - lover- mother or father than to admit freedom from Misery can be obtained when learning how to grow away from Misery too.
Misery will stay as long as it is invited, welcomed, nourished in thoughts and emotions to do so. Until one can find a logical, rational or reasoning compromise of Misery's presence, motivations and fueling actions and reactions - Misery wins. Misery demotes. Misery voids individual validation and actively invalidates the life of a person who wears Misery on their face - speaks Misery in their words and lets Misery becomes their actions. Misery is in their tears and beats synonymously with their heart.
No human can ever give, share, care and assist in the life of one who clings to such a slow dying of choice as they do with Misery.
For whatever attempts to heal, revive, thrive in another to counteract Misery - it can not effectively be done nor work - no matter what skills, tools or gifts are given. For Misery must be learned how to conquer within.
Misery's lies are stronger in they - than your helping actions.
Misery's tales of assumptions is greater in them - than the facts of evidence you could show them.
Misery's breathe of life and rapid heart beat feeds the individual as survival.
They feel they need to cling to Misery to protect them versus the safe, unconditional, and loving comfortable life that they could have, work for, and achieve to provided their self too.
Misery seeks to destruct, destroy and really only yearns to be understood. But to understood Misery to defeat its long presence in life - one must learn how and be motivated to do just that.
It is like living in a shell of a human foundation with only 1 door or 1 window but not having both a door and a window to see the world from beneath their skin. Build. One must learn how to build what an individual needs to stop the Misery. Misery will always be a guest in one's life.
Accept. Invite. Appreciate and give thanks to Misery as Misery leaves. For the informational advice Misery gives you will add to your life or take away from it as you consent too or ignorantly go with.
For when you learn how to build the 1 door or 1 window that you lack or are void from - you increase your options to exit Misery as fast as it came. Because you have allowed yourself to learn more exits for Misery from you and invite more life and brightness in your life because you built a door and a window that you needed that every one else shares to see the world with.
For Misery is only as controlling, manipulative, and as an unhealthy contagion as you perceive it to be.
Mind over Matter wins the war on Misery with peaceful resolution when you learn how to build new on things of old. Misery will be your familiar, uncomfortable friend or your foe - depending on what you learn and what you do about the Misery in your life. No one else can build for you - but you.
"Our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions, and not on our circumstances" (Martha Washington)
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