Can Happiness be Taught?

Thought provoking title question, isn't it? I thought so. A Person I Used to Know would skeptically deny that such a concept of teaching happiness could be obtained and acquired.

But now, after seeking and learning the knowledge of happiness that I personally required to help myself - I am a believer of YES!

Personal and individual happiness can be taught, obtained and this is something that no medical evidence or no medical condition can deny or take from a person. Truth be known - there is no way to medically or scientifically prove fact or denial of either.

So what does a person have to lose but happiness in trying to learn how to be happy? The Person I Used to Know - in my former self - would have dismissed, debated and even argued with anyone who would mention a notion as this. But it was personal defense that would have argued. For if I accepted a theory as this then that would mean that I would have to sit with a mirror and examine myself. Not of circumstances or events I endured. Not of what my life is now or anything that happened to me. But admit to the core of myself my own deficiencies and how I was a source of my pain of unhappiness simply because I did not know any better and had not found the right tools, skills and apply in my life to help me and not hurt me anymore.

For science and medicine has taught us that the brain is still the largest mystery organ in the human body. But yet, we as humans, become their profits; their researches; their job securities of medical and pharmaceutical profits with hopes to conquer the mission of defining, dissecting, and determining all origins of what makes a brain work and what does not work in physical, mental, emotional, logical, rational, medical, and mental aspects.

So I dare you to question and answer for your self - do you really want to give all credit of your healing, recovery, or overcoming a medical condition to the sole responsibility of a professional? Would you prefer to be a team player to your cure, the healing of your ailments, and to learn how to ease your own conflicts of emotional chaos that life and medical conditions can toss in a person's life at any unannounced time? Would you rather be a contributor to the effectiveness of your treatments, medications and therapies your self to increase your health, your emotional well-being, and your doctor's ability to help you too?

Many times I have seen and witnessed and heard so many stories of unhappiness in another's life. It's sad. It is tragic. It is deplorable of human nature and nurture at the unhappiness that can go on in person's life based upon circumstances and deficiencies to simply not know any better nor have individual desire to seek learning or healthier changes to help one's self. Ignorance can appear to make for a blissful life but when each individual in the Human Race is in the silence of their own minds, thoughts, and emotions - is that ignorance really blissful?

Are you happy? Do you know how to fulfill your time in a healthy, fun, and enlightening manner or do you simply suffer in silent misery? Do your emotions contribute or withdraw from your ability to be happy? Do you have hobbies that you enjoy? Do you do so much for others that you do not know what happy is to you when you are by yourself and have no one around? Does the silence of your mind consistently focus on an old reel of an old time long gone but still inflicts pains of unhappiness upon you now?

The good thing about doing a blog is that I can ask questions to readers to let them answer for them self. For these are even questions I have asked and answered for myself too.

My team effort of this venture is to give advice that has effectively helped me and continues too. But also to produce individuals to think for their self and respond honestly with their self too.

Give consideration to the unhealthy and healthy aspects of one's own life. To enlighten with hope to produce a positive or healthier change for others by the experiences I have survived and the knowledge I have obtained and am still currently obtaining to produce more positive and healthier thoughts, emotions, and activities in my personal life as well. So it's not as if I am teaching but rather participating in the process of what I write too.

In reading all I have shared from the www.freedictionary.com of the word of unhappiness - what causes a person to be unhappy and sad - it is easy not to read some of these and realize; this used to be me or to get lost in focus of those faces of ones I knew and care for that have endured or survived these things below.

Equality exists in each of us on an emotional level. Even if we all are in different appearance - it gets easy to be deceived or distracted by the appreciable and lustful qualities of another. But at the core of each - is a feeling human being before anything else. They too are just an emotional being as well.

Individuals who cry. Individuals who smile. Individuals who laugh. Individuals who hurt. Individuals who fear. Individuals who question life in the silence of their thoughts. Individuals who feel deeply to belong. Individuals who feel intense emotion to be accepted for who they are. Individuals twho want to be happy and not unhappy.

That's the factual core of the invisible that exists in each of us. Even if the shedding of external unhealthy layers could exist for humans - as it does in the nature of healthiness of a snake - it would not matter.

People would still be mean, vindictive, cruel, unaccepted, and disregarding to others. People who can not see the emotional beauty expressed upon a person's face of happiness or sadness would surely over look and still not focus on a person's emotional face to realize what and who they are. Even if humans were visual snakes with the ability to shed our unhealthy emotional skins - we in our primitive defend or offend nature - would still miss the potentials for our Human Race in our survival or living choices we make. We would still fail at seeing in others or our own self that we are just emotional creatures of equality.

Perhaps, if we could spend more time learning about the hard core stuff of our self and gaining healthier views within our self - we could learn the compassion and respect of self inside. To have compassion and respect for self takes motivation, knowledge, courage, bravery, honor, individuality and a resilient persistence that only you could give or teach your self to have. Would it not be worth it to experience peacefulness, happiness, and healthier contentment when alone? So perhaps, when you are with others - you could see the world and faces in this world as a new existence.

Unhappiness is usually caused and produced by a problem waiting to be solved and seeking for the answers to solve that problem. To ease the symptoms of medical complications that unhappiness produces in a person - it has been taught - that it will usually take prescription medicine to achieve this due to our cultural pharmaceutical addictive social morality we live in. But what if it truly does not have to be this way?

Use caution. For even in the most advanced state of science and medicine - it is still theories and speculations that do produce symptom control or symptom side effects in medications. The professionals speculate or assume that neurotransmitters are over firing or under firing in the brain chemistry that causes productions to affect a person. But if you asked them to show you in a brain scan, MRI, MEG or PET scan exactly where your brain chemistry is deficient or to give you a blood test to show you factually - 9 out of 10 times - they could not - for even medicine and science are not always factual either.

For decades, the evolution of medical and scientific research has been based upon theories and Peter Principles of practice. Look at the evidence in America.

What about the economy? What about the financial matters of America that impact all our of survival and living? How many Americans are truly healthy, happy and content? How many Americans are factually unhealthy, unhappy and live miserably in discontent? How many could say they really live a financially healthy life as they do a personal healthy life? How many can factually say that they believe and trust others before they pursue and seek self intuitions first to obtain a healthier and more positive life?

I do not know honestly too many that could say that Yes - they have a healthy fulfilling and unconditionally loving home. Yes - they make wise, healthy and financial choices in their life of luxuries and necessities. Yes - they feel as great externally in appearance as they do internally in their health and silence of self.

Human beings were not designed to be perfect. Nor will we ever be capable in our knowledge, techniques, skills and tools that we will be able to 100% affirm in facts to answer all the mysteries that makes a human being an individual person.

Genetics, medical genetics, heritage, history, nature, nurture, knowledge, survival, and living through experiences, circumstances, and events will continue to make each of us unique to who and what we are - internally and externally.

But what we do to help our self within and externally - is for each of us to decide, choose and act upon accordingly. Life comes down to a viewing of healthy or unhealthy for self. If you do not define your own healthy and unhealthiness - how can anyone else help you choose the course of treatment to help you when you can not even admit what you do to your self too!

We can not snap our fingers to make another's unhappiness go away. There are no magic pills to stop the pain of unhappiness. For whatever substances are used to ease the pain - when it wears off or dejects from the body - the pain and unhappiness will still be there. The substance abuses or prescription medications levels will continue to increase or decrease based upon theories that they work but in reality - dependency is the only solution to these problems that we socially accept. What if it really does not have to be this way?

How many vicious cycles does a person have to endure and years get wasted and money get spent- before a person simply gets too tired to thrive anymore or even care about self much less asking them to care for others who share the same globe as they do? How much chaos will a person do to their Fight or Flight Response system to cope in life before the system crashes from occurrences in their lives or by the raw choices they make to mend or cope in unhealthy ways?

Examine. Evaluate. Be honest and real with your self. Create what you want of your unhealthiness to change it. Learn how to obtain the healthy that you want to keep. Learn how to change your unhappiness within. Explore growing your happiness externally only after you admit your own unhealthy within and seek to change this first. For what unhealthy ripples inside you will be evident in all those around you too.

There are many self-help tools on the Internet that a person can cater their own learning with of healthier tools and skills to apply to one's life and one's own health. Your answers are out there but you must seek to find them. I can only share so much of my journey with others for mine has been catered to me, by me. You must admit your problems and seek the solutions to mend, heal, and help your self to obtain the happiness you seek.

No one can spend your time for you. No one can tell you how to spend your life. Only you can help your self. For no matter how many good intentioned and true people that a person has in their life - it is still those moments or hours of silence that define each of us - in our healthy happiness or unhealthiness of unhappiness. Only you can learn and change your life to make it what you want in the silence of your thoughts, emotions, and sense of self.

un·hap·py 
1. Not happy or joyful; sad or sorrowful: unhappy over his friend's departure.
2. Not satisfied; displeased or discontented: unhappy with her raise.
3. Not attended by or bringing good fortune; unlucky.
4. Not suitable; inappropriate: an unhappy choice of words.

the experiencing of affective and emotional states
sadness caused by grief or affliction
persisting sadness
a feeling of thoughtful sadness
a feeling of intense unhappiness
sadness resulting from being forsaken or abandoned
sadness expressed by weeping
an emotion of great sadness associated with loss or bereavement
sadness associated with some wrong done or some disappointment
a feeling of dreary or pessimistic sadness
sad feelings of gloom and inadequacy
the state of a person's emotions
the state of being embittered; "the embitterment that resulted from the loss of his job never left him"
the state of being sad

"He felt the loyalty we all feel to unhappiness - the sense that that is where we really belong" [Graham Greene The Heart of the Matter] -

Every one can make the conscience and silent intuition to be happy. In all honesty - for some - it will take knowledge, healthier skills and learning to achieve this. But happiness or unhappiness is the partnership you are willing to make for you and what you do to apply to your life. No one has to settle for unhappiness - unless they choose too.

"Unhappiness is best defined as the difference between our talents and our expectations" [Edward de Bono]

You are not perfect. You do have imperfections. Ease upon your self too. Set realistic talents. Set realistic and factual expectations of your self too. The stresses of unhealthiness we bring upon our own self is in the silence of each individuals mind.

But knowing that you are imperfect as every one else and that you can only do so much of your own expectations and what other's expect of you - can go along way in achieving a healthier, happier life versus the constant tail chasing of an unhealthy and unhappy life produced by internal cycles that seem to never end.

No one should choose to live that. No one. We each are worth a new internal birth when we admit, accept, and realize in self - that we are imperfect and are not as smart as we display socially. Because in the silence of our self is where the truth and facts are of each of us and what or who we really are. This is something that we equally share and a source of our individuality that only we can find and grow as we choose.