Most Americans would see the words - United Way - and probably think of a non-profit organization. For many more perhaps - there is no automatic association of what the words United Way are.
I want to start sharing new ways of looking and viewing at things of life. I want to give a conscience awareness about many topics that people do not daily do of real conscience thought or awareness until things becomes too late.
When uncontrollable circumstances arise or situations become directly in front of us - that's when most get motivated to do something to counteract a negative surprise with hopes to turn it into a positive solution.
Most of the time being a procrastinator or unconscious participant to life's circumstances - usually will leave you ending into negative, hurtful, and personal painful demise.
Consider my outlet & views of: A Person I Use to Know - to be as a prevention to many aspects about human nature and life as we know it. Become a conscience person that sees, speaks, feels, and emotionally thrives to grow your own understanding of self acceptance but even embracing the differences of others while you are at it.
Formal education does validate intellectual knowledge, rational thinking and promoting positive progress. But we decline to asset individual life's experiences and stories of others different than us - we deny the education that we can gain and hinder the positive potential we could have. This is especially of social matters, criminal law, judicial proceedings, economics, profits, growths and revenue increases too. The potential for progress, rewards, and endless possibilities would never cease to exist if we valued each person as an expert of their own experiences instead of simply disregarding those who are different than we are.
United Way is the personal focus I ask you to thrive for. United Way will be the end result to this mission of self-awareness and learning more about cultural lifestyles than you never would probably consciously put yourself into by choice. United Way is being personally motivated to get involved to do something for others that completely different than you do every day. To have an intution and following through with it. Share it. Grow it. Release it. The rewards you can gain are of an emotional deposit that you never knew that you could possess. We are all capable but very few motivated too.
Let's face it. The general population usually does not care about what goes in others lives of those different than they. It's a social human nature thing to not know and realize the potential of knowledge to be gained by learning and understanding others is which are different than you or your life may be.
We'll start with children. For we all have that bond in which we could even discuss with strangers about where we come - who our parents were or were not and the geography of where one lives or used or even geographical locations you may have visited that immediately make for great conversation with others. For whatever reasons, it seems these types of conversation always draw up the most friendliest and experience enhancing encounters I have ever had.
Childhood is the time of life that we believe, dream, and live the most free of our lives. Even in the hardships that childhood may give us - there is still something positive to be gained from it. Even if was just the days of school, friends at school, after hours social-get-togethers or anything else that a person did - it will never get better than those childhood days that we can never return upon.
Now - consider child advocacy and child abuse prevention. Who did you have in your life when you were a child that was your advocate? Who stood by you as an adolescent to be there for you as the only person you could trust? Who protected from you from child abuse? Who abused you?
Now - would it surprise you to know that the same childhood you had is still continuing on today in the life of a child elsewhere? Would it surprise you to know the techniques of abusers in your childhood are using the same skills with even more pronounciation and are intellectually and more educationally deceptive and maniulative with their choice of weapons they use upon children to abuse them - than they were with your abuser?
Some say - I am obessed about child abuse prevention - child abuse awareness & my advocacy to get involved as a survivor who struggles with my healing progress of complex medical conditions - I have because of my abuse. But in reality, what most do not understand with their fears is that my mission of helping others is not hurting me - but helping me to grow, gain strength, and heal in my own recovery. For every survivor who has ever told me - Thank You for understanding and seeks professional help or every victim that contacts me to help them - this is worth it! I am helping others to get their life back that someone took from them.
I disagree with all the above that people say or fear of what I do because anything of this much controversy can only be a good thing if it strikes emotions in others to create positive change and enforce others to get help they need or to help a victim come forward judicially to face their abusers. We all benefit with a safer world and become united one person at a time by reaching out to another- only one person at a time~
I am passionately motivated to help other children - in any way I can - to help children and hopefully prevent them from becoming a victim of abuse. As the headlines today - prove that children are becoming a minority of the crimes committed against them by criminals who are becoming the majority.
Would you trust a convicted computer fraud criminal to have access to your personal or profressional electronic devices? Would you trust a convicted thief to be your security guard at your home? Would you trust a convicted criminal of illegal drug abuse to be your health caretaker and be responsible for your prescription medications, medical files and records? Would you trust a convicted criminal of financial crimes to manage your checkbook, savings, credit cards or payment books or to do your taxes? Would you trust & allow a convicted child abuser to watch your child, children or grandchildren?
NOW - What would you do - if you found out these facts - out after you got to know someone that you called a friend or family? Where would your trust be in them - after the fact? Would you fire them? Would you retain them on payroll? Would you continue on unconsciously even after you knew the facts of their convictions?
In reading a Facebook news article about Pedophilia - I read how an attorney was pursuing to change legal laws so pedophiles and convicted child abusers could have their "human rights" restored so they could legally adopt & supervise children in the United Kingdom.
I know from my personal experience of my own case of child abuse - that my abuser had sexually abused a total of 14 minors including reoffending me twice. When I went to a court of law to prosecute him - 12 people wrote letters of Chacter Reference upon his behalf. Zero wrote letters for my behalf or to support me as his victim.
What kind of equations are this? Where is the justice in this for underage minors? Why do the numbers of supporters for criminals increase while the victim numbers of supporters decrease? Can someone tell me this?
Where mathematically does this equation give justice? Where are the truthful statistics of this public data? There is none. Because unless victims come forth of their abuse - there is no documentation and there is no public truth to the statistics of victims and crimes committed against them either.
It goes back to having Conscience Awareness and Conscience Prevention. It is about creating a United Way to stop things before they start. It is about being motivated to take action before the damage is done or escalates into a problem that we can not solve anymore.
It is about doing something every day for someone else besides ourself and the life we are safe or comfortable in. United Way is the only way concept that I know of to call it where we can ever reverse the pain caused by preventable problems. United Way is the only way to hope to grow the community we want that extends beyond any geographical boundary we live in.
Children's playgrounds, dreams, and life soar beyond any geographical location or educational perspective or conventional limitations that adults have. Children teach us to have no stranger danger until someone wrongs them and then it is too late for that child dreamer because they have became a victim stripped of their legal right to be free. Instead they become afraid to trust anyone or how to rebuild trust when legal laws deprive them of this trust. Children of abuse suffer undeniable medical & scientific brain and body damage due to the trauma that abuse does inflict upon them.
What would you do to get involved to help children before they become a victim? What would you say if a child you loved was your victim to help? What would you do if someone came to you and told you they were a victim? How would you help them?
The silence around these topics produce stigmas that are not truthful nor complete in statistical data. For every one victim or survivor that comes forward - there will more who never will.
I have nothing to lose and everything to gain in my mission to help other people especially children. Most adults choose what they will or won't do to help and change their lives. Children are not capable of making conscience choices of their best interests without everyone helping to ensure their rights, legal protections and giving them a safe world to live in. They are all of our tomorrow.
How dare we as a society ever curse that which we have today. Our present today clearly defines the treatment we have given to the children before us? What will that teach us about our tomorrow of what we need to do or not to do as lessons of experiences learned as well? Does anyone ever consider that?
I follow my own intution of a question to guide me in life. "What would I have wanted someone to do for me?" & I just do it for others ~ especially children.
I constantly keep asking this question to myself today as I did when I was a child trying to get away from my abusers - who the law said I was legally bound too. Asking and answering this question daily still gives me strength to move forward, keep hoping in the most distress of circumstances and gives me reason to smile each and every day.
What is your mission of "What would you have wanted someone to do for you?" - Answer that and there you will you find your obsessive compassion to help others too.
I guess all these scars that trauma did give to me has motivated me without fear to do for other children of what I wished someone would have done for me.
When we view the wrongs of our lives done to us by others - and start noticing those wrongs to make right and work at it to help another - we mend. We heal. We unite.
We create our United Way - one person at a time. This theory of mine as I have explained before can be applied in everything about life. Do not wait until the tragedy is before you before you decide to get involved. For then, it will be too late. Do something extra ordinarily different now on the mission of your choice.
I choose to help children because I want to protect as many as I am able even if only in writing an email or voicing my concerns to the officials who have the authority to produce change. I wish this same compassion upon others to not only think of the best solution but feel the best solutions in heart - because those are truly the most rewarding in everything you can do in life.
Don't you think it is about time we did more emotional heartfelt deposits in each other versus merely making money to put in a bank?
This is the article you can read. If you would like to join in my advocacy to help children retain their legal right to protection and safety against convicted criminals - then please read this article.
Then email these two ladies who are considering making this law official. Do not be naive. What will become law in other countries will surely be law in America tomorrow?
Best wishes on building your own United Way mission of doing for others - what you wished someone would have done for you:)
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/politics/conservative/8201521/Sex-offenders-including-paedophiles-should-be-allowed-to-adopt-Theresa-May-told.html
Helen Reece - H.Reece@lse.ac.uk
Honorable Theresa May - mayt@parliament.uk
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