To Assume is to Take for Granted

A Person I Used to Know was probably the hierarchy leader on the highest peaks of a mountain built primarily of a foundation of assumptions in this person. The assumptions climbed taller and higher every time this person's brain and internal thought processing were alert with consciousness or awake. It did not matter how many tasks this person had to do, assumptions were the closest friend, she knew to draw from in her intuitions about life. Even in sleep, she could not escape her own damaging and destructive thoughts of assumptions.

Her assumptions were rarely facts or became facts in her life. Assumptions are not facts. Assumptions are not truth. Assumptions were everything this person did or tried to achieved and the assumptions fueled this person in positivity but also created a pile of negative behaviors and unhealthy choices too. Without intention to do so, this person did treat many people unfairly. She did not treat others as individuals but as assumptions instead.

To Assume is to Take for Granted. These facts are dictionary documented. But this fact was not something this person ever gave conscious awareness too while pondering the many trails, bridges burnt and mountains climbed in her life that never seemed to end. A very destructive and long journey that failed to end.

These facts about assumptions and taking things for granted were never taught to this person and honestly - there was no desire to learn- for she felt she was OK and it was others who failed her. The validity of failing to acknowledge, know or realize this important fact escaped her ways leaving her to continue to assume and take all her life and what she had for granted.

This fact was never seen as a problem solver nor a problem creator. But the lack of knowing and sheer ignorance of her own limited intuition, survival skills and what her internal dialogue taught her was all the evidence she needed as fact in her life or so she thought. She was not a bad person but she was as immature, selfish, and as ignorant as a person could be.

One can use the excuse of ignorance once, before you knew better- but after you know and you still choose to stay ignorant; it is a choice now. Not an excuse but a blame upon one's self for having a mistake and not correcting to fix the problem. This person I Used to Know of unhealthy and fact deprivation - was me.

To assume the worst of everything or worry without proof is to deprive yourself of the happiness in front of you or taking the stability in your life for granted. Many will revolve in and out of the doors of your life in everything you do - but whose is left standing when the world silently exits out?

Who is there to stand upon the foundation of peace, quiet, serenity, and fulfillment when you look around you? Who are the factual ones that know your name only when they need you for something? Who is your negative and positive people in your life? Who uses only words to say they love you or admire you? Who actually proves their love to you in every thing they do in their actions and use not only words but do things for you?

Who is the one person that is there for you through it all in your learning lessons, your immature or ignorant ways and possesses the potential to forgive you for your mistakes but yet keeps you, to enjoy the journey of life with and your learning lessons are valued by them? Who is still there with you when you look your worst?

Who sacrifices their energy, resources, health, and well-being for you? Who is there to be medically by your side when you need someone the most? What and where does the shelter over your head represent? Who or what do you share your dwelling with?

Who is the factual person you really see when you reflect upon your self in the mirror? Is this person some one you are proud of or some one that has more to learn about self and life too?

All of these questions can help you in your life to find out the facts of your life too.

For personal evaluations are a wonderful way to progress, motivate, and encourage yourself when others dis you but it also helps to examine what is important to you and proceed forward with it.

Change is a necessity that needs to happen and occur to all of us all through out our life. We were never meant to be individuals who never change, failures to seek change, and failures that quit learning.

For when we do - we will surely become accustomed in the stationery life of who we are internally and we stall ourselves from the inside out. We become the problem creators and never problem solvers. For we fail to admit our own mistakes or have a lack of knowledge and we can never effectively solve another's problems because we keep creating our own and we dare question - WHY?

What we think or feel internally in the silence of our minds will become our actions upon others. Our interpretations and perceptions of the world will end up becoming recluse. Because we will spend more time climbing the mountains of our assumptions that we end up taking our self and those in our life for granted. We will end up pushing others from us because we stubbornly and selfishly feel and think that we know best and are experts but sometimes, we truly are not. The only person we hurt is self and those that do believe in us and support us the most. How unfair and immature is that behavior? Who do you think that has ever really benefited? No one.

We end up using all of our emotional, logical, rational intuitions and keep creating our own unhealthy thoughts by assuming with out knowing the proof or facts. Then we end up acting up on these mere assumptions that destroy our personal lives and the lives of others around us. Then we convince our self that we have nothing more to appreciate because we took it all for granted when we did have it - by wasting what healthy we do have inside that we fail to give regards too. We sabotage and provoke unhealthiness in our self because we assume. Assumption does lead to a life that is taken for granted and no respect to be found.

As a person who has experienced the high price and unhealthy medical repercussions produced by assumptions, let me tell you to learn what you can and must to help yourself.

Now that you know these facts do occur in every human being out there and the cause and effect of assumptions and taking life for granted; apply your thoughts and emotions more wisely in the actions you do. Do not be afraid to ask questions of your self first - before you seek to find the answers in others. Seek out the knowledge you need to learn to be the person you want to be and increase the quality of life you want. Seek out the resources that we do have to educate self to increase our quality of life and not deprive or take it for granted anymore.

I feel fortunate that I learned these facts of assumptions and about not taking life for granted anymore.
For many of my wasted emotions, thoughts, and self-dialogues have stopped now. The damage from these unhealthy behaviors have stopped inside as well. The symptoms of panic attacks, nervousness, anxiety, depressions and instability of emotional roller coasting has ceased to exist in me.

In learning facts about emotions - while applying the new knowledge I am still learning - I still make mistakes. I will never be a perfect person. That is not my goal. My goal is to learn and share the elementary education that many of us were never taught and it was never the curriculum of many parental styles nor was it is a part of our educational systems.

For at the core of each of us is a living, breathing, and communicating individual inside their own silent thoughts and internal mind. What we do in this activeness of our self that makes us human, unknown to others around us, is a blessing and curse depending on how we use these valuable resources we have. If you think the worst - you create the worst. If you think the best - you can create the best.

To assume is to create problems by taking life for granted and that train wreck will never climb a mountain because it only continues to grow. To stop assuming is to solve problems that allows you to enjoy the peaceful and serenity of the beauty of a valley or to climb upon a problematic mountain to appreciate its view when you finalized a problem to exist.

We are going to make mistakes. We are going to stay imperfect. We are human beings. That's our nature.
But how well we admit our own issues, deficiencies, and imperfections and work to change to better our self by learning and then applying this new knowledge in our life will increase our quality and value on the life we have or we can choose to regress, oppress and depress our selves.

I do not know about others but I have lived and survived enough survivals, traumas, circumstances beyond my control, and now it's time to learn to stop all the unhealthiness I did and keep working to create healthier ways and view and perceptions for myself. For I deserve to know what I never knew or gave thought too before and if I can help myself - then I know that I will be healthier equipped and ready to assist others who want to get over their mountain and just do not know how. I will be able to celebrate with more on top of the mountain of problem that ended because I will know how to help in effective skills and not unhealthy intuitions anymore! A win-win for self. A win-win of team sharing too.

Share. Grow. Learn. Move forward. Appreciate the journey! Isn't that all any of us could hope for in life anyways?

Assume: To take for granted; suppose, accept without proof, postulate; posit, take to be the case or to be true; accept without verification or proof - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/assume

Take for granted - to assume without checking - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/takes+it+for+granted

If you do not ask questions to get the answers you need to solve a problem - how do you expect the problem to end?

If you do not have courage to tell others how you feel or what your contributing thoughts are - then how you do expect them to know what you are going through internally?

If you do want to live in assumptions without facts, then why you do complain when your assumptions become your personal choice to stay in a life that you take for granted anyways?

If you do not want to live in assumptions anymore here are some tips to quit doing it.

Ask questions to self and evaluate your life with facts only - not judging, biased or prior judgments of old information you formerly used. Tell others how you feel. Use patience to wait until the proof comes or facts arrive of a situation. Do not ponder no longer on assuming anything.

If it has not happened - do not fret on it. What are the odds that it will happen anyways? If it occurs tomorrow, prepare today and let the rest be. If it has happened in the past and the problem can not be solved, move forward. The past will call with unhealthiness as long as you keep answering something that has nothing new to say.

You can never build a new house on a foundation of sticks in a geographically weather area prone to tornadoes and hurricanes without using safe codes and new skills or new laws that will provide a safe structure to be be built in areas as these. But if a natural disaster does occur, you can always rebuild  using safer, newer, and more up to date information than previously choices given; if you choose too.
The same is fact about life.

What once maybe not known - can be learned. What once was broken - can be rebuilt with new and more up-to-date information with skills and tools to help a person.

Ignorance may sound blissful but when a tornado or hurricane arises in a person's life - it is there that you will find and know how ignorance was never really blissful.

Ignorance was a state of mind that we convinced our self to believe in so we would think we are OK as we are so we can escape our own abilities to keep learning, keep growing, keep moving forward to be the example we want to be for our self but to others as well.

Be imperfect but not ignorantly stupid. Be brave but not prideful. Share without expecting anything in return. Be humble with humility when you do wrong and make mistakes and you will. But never quit expecting as much change in your self as you demand of others. For what you do will not affect you but anyone and every one that knows you too. You deserve to live an assumption free life and to never take it for granted. Once you learn how to do it; then you can share this valuable gift with others who struggle too.

For the values of a life fulfilled within is more beneficial, healthier, and happier than anything of this world can provide to us financially or material possessions give to us. Materials and money will rise and fall in time - but the deposits of memories is truly where the real gold mines exist in each individual.

So get out of your assumptions. Go be living proof that happy memories can be created and quality of life can be increased and you will be the example of how to do it. You owe it to yourself and those in your life who do not take you for granted. Go treasure your life and those in it and create happy memories! Get out of your assumptions and start living again!

Could Religion be Simple?

Religion is a topic that every individual has a self-formed opinion on based upon the experiences of their life. Their experiences will teach them that religion is a positive asset in a person's life or it is negative, hurtful, harmful and even destruction weapons to be used against self or others.

Could Religion be Simple? I do believe if facts were told - many contemplate this personally deep question - at least once in their life. If a person has never thought about religion, then perhaps, it is your individual experiences that left you void of the subject matter or merely the unforgotten memories from childhood that can not be recalled or have intentionally been forgotten.

Personally, I do believe that Religion or spirituality or individual beliefs can be established and personally valued to asset a person's life. That one can be a good person without religious affiliation or verbal announcing of their spiritual beliefs.

For the actions of a person's life is the only facts of their real character and humanity. Not the words that one speaks but the service one gives to be respectful of self and to others.

Having a maturity to walk away or let difficult people be who will not help them self but do not seek harm to them is where maturity assists every conflicted matter in a person's life. Seek to produce more happiness in your life and share it with others. Give if you have to help others - not with money - but memory creations. A memorable gift of a lifetime that you can give them to take through life long after a moment has passed. But to each their own religious or spiritual identity and how they embark upon it; as long as they are not hurting others - isn't that all that matters anyways? To help and not hurt; when possible.

I have been incredibly busy this past week living life outside my blog, off my computer, outside of my own therapy daily devotions and spreading my actions of these learned skills.

To create happy memories. To be productive again. To assist and help others that need it locally. Sometimes, it is frustrating to me that life doesn't offer a 36 hour day or a 48 day so I get my time in for others and cater to myself as I need too.

But it all works out in the end - doesn't it? Or appears too. What may first seem as if our life will end because of sudden or severe change that we can not control - may actually be the best place or presence to happen to us.

Just as the globe rotates every day and Mother Nature churns the Four Seasons to her discretion of control; so does human life.

Where we begin in life from conception will not always be where we end up. Geographically, economically or professionally. We perhaps, could view life in a broader horizon for our self and our lives in the directions we take if we think of our self as in orbit too.

The sun and solar system faithfully and loyally do their destined paths of purpose every day. Human beings are not much different. For some, it can be more complex than others when financially strapped for comfort luxuries or if medical conditions give limitations or demands - but personal motivation or inspirations to live - can never be really taken; unless a person submits their consent to it. To accept the dismal or to not know how to change focus or increasing views to create the life they want.

History is loaded with many individuals who stood up against all oppressions and majority's cruel judgment of their individual missions and life purpose.

Martin Luther King, Jr. and Elvis Presley are truly two of my favorite icons of the past to reflect upon in their life mission that still give motivation to my own purposes today. Edgar Allan Poe would be another individual that helps fuel my compassion and respect for myself and extend to share with others.

For all these individuals had their own oppressions, religious motivations and perhaps, hypocrisy of judgments against them and someone like Edgar Allan Poe who spoke a written dialogue of the darkness about life is usually interpreted by most as one of the most depressed and possible mentally ill literate individuals of his time.

The universal language of Edgar Allan Poe, Martin Luther King, Jr. and Elvis Presley represent diversity, understanding of cultures that were the same as them - but also those who were different as they.

They all succumbed to death by the misunderstandings of others. Kurt Cobain and John Lennon both came to death to early because of the misunderstandings of others and the pressures of their own life.
To have messages of importance that are so strong within them - that they had to share - that brought on their controversy in this life; must have been pretty powerful internal movement going on in them.

For their lives, though cut short prematurely; have lasted through many decades and generations after them leaving behind a legacy that speaks a humanity and morality brought forth in their music, lyrics, written print and verbal messages that these names would probably be a topic to engage in now or debate against.

These were special and beautiful people that stayed true to self as their own gift and grew their gifts to touch the lives of others.

Many will find fault or speak unjustly against the above mentioned and to you - all I will say it is your loss of life your failures to know their works, their personal missions, and their individual progressions of contributions that increased our humanity and not hurt it. It will be your loss to understand the oppressions they faced in their day that still plaque many individuals today.

Centuries and generations later the messages these individuals gave rang as factually truthful today for individual freedom to be one's self. To be accepted by self and others. To be understood in self and by others. To share a gift or talent of identity with others who will understand the gift of their talents of their messages and purposes. They created more love than hatred. They gave more of self-sacrifice than the mission to seek understanding from others first. Articulate beautiful people who have stood the test of time in their compassionate goal to grow humanity and contribute back from the individual motivation they had.

Perhaps, each person had their own religious or spiritual beliefs - perhaps, they did not. But they all had humanity in common in each of them.

Humanity may appear as a myth or a fantasy dream that can never be accomplished or achieved for many.

It appears to be easier to wallow in the oppressions, accept the depressions and to feel powerless to personal change than to open the door of personal motivation that these individuals did.

For sometimes, the price one has to pay to be their self is a life cut short. It is not fair to anyone -- but the value that it does add to one's own life because they never failed their self - to be as they wish; will make every day of life a valuable asset; no matter how many days that a person lives. The difference between daily fulfillment and living a life with no fulfillment or purpose. These historical individuals had daily fulfillment and personal goals of purpose to give and share.

Religion or spirituality can be simple. Self-defined. Self-individualized. Self-motivated. Self-taught. Self-accepted.

A Person I Used to Know hated religion and politics. The twinge of tension would go up the spine when either of these topics would be mentioned. The forehead would produce wrinkles from an irritated and frustrated stance about these topics that produced more hurt, pain, and a false judgment than any two topics out there that this person experienced and witnessed.

This person would avoid all conversations or at least try to stay away from anyone who would forcefully speak that their candidate was the supreme leader or that their religion was the right religion. Took this person along time to cast off all prior affiliations of the nature and nurture that childhood taught her about these topics to form her own adult opinions, beliefs, and standards of what she wanted her religion, politics and individual spirituality to be as assets in her life. This person was me.

It was not until I took a personal stand and created my own individual standards of what I believed, what I did not believe, what I liked, what I disliked, what I could change and what I could not change about religion, politics, and my own spirituality that I found my own personal value and daily motivation for me. An endless faith to never give up on myself and what I believe. To assist others who wanted and needed a helping hand to motivate their self and to pick their own self up to keep their own feet moving forward. I could lift them up but I could not force nor carrying them forward - no more than any one could move me forward if I were not willing to move my own two feet forward.

As a skeptic of many things in my life experiences that taught me of facts are different than truth - that not everything is a simple right or simple wrong - that sometimes two people can be actually truthful or factual over the same topic; it can be controversial and confusing. But when a person defines their own self by their experiences and forever keeps evolving to change to better their self; regardless of circumstances, events or trauma; life will always improve. It does not matter how dismal something first may appear - time will help all to get better. To resolve major problems. To contribute assets in one's life the longer life goes on - once a person accepts, admits, appreciates, and defines every thing about their life and stays motivated to keep moving forward.

For the past few Sundays, I have entertained myself in Elvis' Gospel music. Something about his vocals, arrangement of classical Gospel hymns helps to keep my own fuels and fires burning to live this life - day after day, in accepting the problematic challenges that are waiting to be solved but also to live.

Not to see only the problems but to see every second as an opportunity to create my own happiness but the happiness to share with others. It is very easy to become an adult that gets so prone to taking care of others that we forget to humor, tickle, enlighten, and lift our self up too. This music and this ritual works for me. To each their own defining of what works for their happiness, refueling and creation of motivations and individual happiness.

Religion, politics, and every controversial topic is as an individual problem waiting to be solved in a person's life. What you dislike about anything that you dislike; you can always seek to change it. Whether religion or politics are important to you or not - they are factual entities of every civilization and in society. That's a fact that we all know and share and form our own opinions of. But what might be your disgust could very well be the humanity of tool that another uses to help others. So be careful of discussing things that you really are not educated about or experienced personally. For everything that you automatically or defensively give judgment too could be the very essentials of assets you are missing out in your own life.

Have a wonderful week and give consideration to learning something new about someone you never knew before. Listen to others without a motivation to reply but to hear their words, messages or use your vision to see the actions of their life. Many times in life we spend so much time to speak to be heard that we fail to listen. Loss occurs every day in life to every one. But if you are responsible for your own loss creations - can you really blame anything else at all? Have a pondering thoughtful week and do something different that motivates you where you have never gone before or to do what you have not tried before.

Do you hate Rules or Laws?

Rules and law are two words that will never go away in life. As youth, rules are what your parents, caregivers, caretakers, teachers, principals, and every adult figure in your life will give you to follow. Laws are a common sharing that we must follow as adults. So in a person's life - they start off with rules and if they live long enough their rules will then become laws that are legal rules that we all must follow.

Children, teenagers, and adolescents can have a difficult time listening and understanding the rules that apply in their life. The consequences or discipline that occurs because the rules are or have been broken can be very hard for an adolescent to understand why their actions were wrong because they choose to break a rule.

The law can be just as confusing to adults and their complaints are just as long, childish, and sometimes, even immature or selfish - when they break the law too. For adults who exemplified a negativity toward the laws to the youth in their immediate life will create disrespectful, controversial and noncompliance to rules and the laws. It disrespecting or cursing the laws - we create controversy for our youth and that can be very confusing and damaging to them when we tell them not to do something but yet, we do it as adults.

It would be like a teacher telling you not to drink out of a toilet - but the teachers do it - so the youth do it. They do what they witness and not what they hear. They figure if it does not hurt, harm or create danger to you then they will do it too. See how that works.

When an adult breaks the laws with excessive speeding tickets and constantly pays a fine or ends up in court while verbally grumbling, complaining or cursing the law because they got the ticket with an adolescent who hears these consequences and actions of breaking the law - they will interpret the rules and laws as is not the individual at fault who commits the crimes - but it is the laws fault for catching them.

The same about rules. If you set guidelines in your home for children and teenagers and guests to follow and you do not do follow these same rules - they will take notice. They will watch you. They will sit silently not calling out your errors - until they break a rule and then the verbal war games begin.

You can argue all day long with a child or a youth about their will to speak what they have to say to justify what they do - but if you do not control the situation with boundaries that you live by of what you tell them then you will lose the battle.

You then become responsible for giving them examples of how to break rules and laws. Then you get angry at the youth for breaking a rule that you do too. Increases the Complaints. Curses. Getting angry. Getting irritated. Getting frustrated. Blaming. Pardon from punishment or discipline is enacted. Excuses are made. No consequences will be set that will teach them because you gave them a loophole that got created by your verbal disputing that the youth learn nothing about rules or the law because you broke them too. To solve the problem of rules or law breaking; one must uphold the words they speak by the actions they do. If you do act as a teacher in your actions to the youth - then you will not be effective in solving your parental problems with the youth in your home either.

A Person I Used to Know hated the law and was scared of the laws but would do anything to follow the rules of the immediate adults in her life. But she hated anyone outside of her immediate life - who would tried to tell her what the laws were and why laws were safe and why laws existed. For this person was a child abuse victim and a child abuse survivor. Without maturity, effective skills and a trusting adult to talk too - she felt like she was living on a solo island of hypocrisy all around her where people did not value truth, trust, facts or honesty.

The rules she was taught as a child at home was to respect others. But then you would curse the legal laws for they would punish criminals who broke laws and treat people badly. The controversy inside this person was difficult and damaging to endure. For she was being told one thing at home about rules and laws - but when she was out in the world - she saw their ways that seemed more right- but it was still imperfect and nothing of what she endured at home. It was confusing.

For her parents and family members were criminals. They had rules to follow in their family and at home but some of these rules and family ways of accepted life did break the legal laws. It was difficult, scary and hard for this person to trust anyone to tell them the facts of this controversial lifestyle she lived in. She was a child and then she became a teenager.  What could she do? What would she do? What were here options of right and wrong - rules and laws and how would her answers be solved? This person used to be me.

I learned through my experiences to appreciate the law and value the healthy and safe rules we have that does exist in society - even if they are imperfect - they were still healthier and safer than the surviving circumstances that I endured with my family of abusers. The abusers stopped hurting me because of these laws.

I learned how to tell on my criminal who served time in jail - for the laws he broke against me. I could not get justice for the other abusers who committed crimes against me in my life - but the main criminal who hurt me as a child and other children before me did go to jail. This helped to keep him from hurting other children and from ever hurting me again. It was not a perfect legal system and it is not now. But rules and laws should help keep a person safe and never harm them.

Rules and laws are facts of human life. Upon every continent around this globe, some one is complaining every second of every day - how this rule does not make sense or is not fair - or that law or legal boundaries is not fair.

The only way to survive the rules and laws that you do not like is to ask your self these things to determine what rules and laws are worth breaking in their consequences and which ones are not when you face a choice to follow a rule or law or break them. Think before you act.

The reason I state this as such is because there are criminals or authority figures who are law breakers every single day and their consequences of committing a crime have not occurred yet in their punishment but it will come. For all bad deeds will never go unpunished.

Take the confusions out of rules and laws. Listen to the rule and ask for it to be written on paper to help you better understand what you can and can not do. Research laws to find out the origin and where it came from and why it is there to better understand it - if you choose to follow it or not. Review the consequences of that crime if you choose to do it - before you do it - so you will know the punishment you will receive if you get caught.

Rules and laws should protect you from harm. Rules and laws should prevent you from getting hurt and keeping your home safe, clean, orderly and functional - so every one can enjoy where they live.  The rules and laws in this world are to protect and keep every one safe too.

Rules and laws help to manage financial budgets and help a person to manage their money wisely so they can pay the bills they can not afford and prevent reckless spending that leads to failures that come from not controlling money.

Rules and laws prevent homes, apartments, and buildings from getting destroyed by preventing fires, water pipe damages and everything else that could damage a place where some one lives or where they work. Rules and laws keep people safe.

Rules and laws keep you safe. Rules and laws keep every one else safe. Rules and laws keep people safe.

Rules and laws help our society, our jobs, and even our homes. Unless a person is a criminal who is hurting you by controlling you with unhealthy rules and unlawful laws that does produce harm upon you sexually, mentally, emotionally or neglectfully -  then it is time to tell some one that you know who does uphold the rules and laws and believes in them so they can help you and to help others to keep them from getting hurt or harmed by the criminal who is harming you.

Life is never be fair nor will rules and laws always be equally and fair either. But many of the ideas, thoughts, and emotions we do have about law and rules come from our youthful days before we become a legal age adult and start learning our own ideas, values and beliefs from the experiences we will control after we achieve legal age adulthood to control our destiny of beliefs and acceptances of the consequences to be endured when choosing to break a law or following it.

The world is created and operates every day by imperfect people. Some imperfect people are advanced in education, financially secure and appear to be better off - than we are - but that is not factual and appearances are deceiving.

But when you view the world as created by imperfect people - no matter who they are - you gain better understanding without feeling intimidated - by anyone who makes a rule, breaks a rule or makes a law or enforces the law.

But in everything about life there is safe limits that must be followed or people get hurt and will die if rules and laws are not followed. Accidents and loss of human life can be prevented by following rules and laws.
When a rule or law is broken then consequences will occur to keep you safe and to keep others safe. Consequences are actions that occur when a person exceeds the limits of healthy, smart, and wise choices. When a person does not think in healthy, smart or a wise way before they act - then rules and laws will get broken. To keep people safe - we must have rules and we must have laws.

The free dictionary - www.freedictionary.com helps give the facts of things about rules and law.

Governing power or its possession or use; authority
An authoritative, prescribed direction for conduct, especially one of the regulations governing procedure in a legislative body or a regulation observed by the players in a game, sport, or contest.
A usual, customary, or generalized course of action or behavior
A standard method or procedure for solving a class of problems
a rule or principle that provides guidance to appropriate behavior

A rule of conduct or procedure established by custom, agreement, or authority.
A way of life
A general principle or rule that is assumed or that has been proven to hold between expressions.
Take the law into one's own hands, to administer justice as one sees fit without recourse to legal processes.

Think of rules and laws as problem solvers or as math. Math exists to help us find a fact or a truthful answer we seek to solve the number problem we have with numbers.

Rules and laws exist to prevent, stop, and help control people problems. Without rules and laws; every one would be a criminal, law breaker and hurt other people because we would not have learned or know better on how to conduct our self and how to act. So we would have nothing in our lives. We would not be able to accomplish anything in our life. We could not live in a safe world shared by all - without rules and laws.

The good hopeful thing about rules and laws is that when you are an adult - then you will be able to change the rules and laws of your life. You will be able to create your own rules of how you live your life in your home. Laws that you do not like or disagree with can be changed - if you are willing to work to change them.

The government and political processes here in American does give American citizens the legal right to pursue changing laws by following established rules and laws in changing them. Many laws and rules are outdated that do not apply anymore but we can change them if we want too. It will take work - but it can happen - if you feel strongly enough about a law that does not suit your life.

Criminals are very good manipulators who can verbally and actively deceive many people. They will use the laws and the rules to hurt other people, harm people and destroy many lives in their choice to break laws and rules. To break a legal law is to commit a crime.

It does not matter what that law is or how stupid or wrong it is to you - if it is against the law - and you choose to do it - you will accept the consequences of your actions when you get caught.

If you get angry, mad, hurt or upset because you broke a rule or a law - think about this - before you impulsively act upon your emotions.

Did you willfully choose to participate in your actions that broke a law or a rule? Do you know that ignorance or not knowing will not save you from your consequences if you do something that breaks a law and you get caught? Did you know that what you were doing was a crime or breaking the rule & if so, why did you choose to do it? Did you know that when you break a rule or a law that you are not only affecting your self in the consequences you deal with - but you will be affecting others too & how unfair is that to the innocent people who you hurt because you choose to make a legal mistake?

Parents, adults, caregivers, teachers and every authority figure that gives an adolescent or youth a request of rules and laws not to break them does suffer too. When you do choose to break a rule or law.
For they are trying to teach you how to be safe, respectful, caring, and sharing with others by making the rules and laws for you and others to follow. They are imperfect - but you should listen to their rules and laws because it could save your life.

When you do not follow their rules, laws, and what they try to teach you that will help you - then it can hurt their feelings, make them angry, create financial expenses upon them that they can not pay for by the actions you choose to break a law. If your actions destroys material possessions, homes or safety to others - it will produce all kinds of emotions upon them too.

Sometimes, laws and rules can be more forgiving to you - but when you constantly repeat the same mistakes of breaking a rule or law without changing your actions - then life will be only become harder for you - because you failed to change to follow the rules and laws. Then that fault only belongs on you and no one else. People will help people who make mistakes and change their ways. But if you do not change your ways after a mistake or a law or rule is broken; they might give up to help you anymore.

In a government, legal laws protect and keep every one safe. Those who break these laws and rules are hurting them self and could hurt others so they must have consequences of discipline in their actions to try to help them to learn to change their legal ways to comply with the laws that protect us all.

The money that finances a government here in America is paid for by every single individual in this country that holds a job every day and pay their taxes. Their money collected from taxes finances the judicial system to allow people to go to court to prove if they are guilty or innocent when they break a law. They use collected evidence to prove facts of guilt or innocence when a law is broken. When guilt is proven, depending on the law broken, a person can go to prison or endure huge financial expenses of court costs that must pay for the crime they committed. Depending on the crime - it will be lifelong attached to this criminal's background check that will make life hard for them to get a job, have a home, have a family and they decrease their quality of life by choosing to become a criminal. The law is created to help protect innocent and lawful people so we can all live a safe life.

To curse the laws or rules is to take your freedom, liberties and your right to choose how you live for granted and the people in your life. For rules and laws keep them safe and keep you safe too.

They are not always fair - but they can be changed in your life when the time comes. So if you focus your immediate seconds or minutes on the punishment you are receiving because you broke a rule or law without changing your actions and realizing that you were imperfect and made a mistake that needs to be changed - then you will always find your self in a slump of never learning, never changing and the fault of what you do will become the blame that you do to others because you do not see you have a problem and you failed to fix your mistakes that broke a rule or the law.

Maturity will teach us in the examples of our lives of who we want to be or who we do not want to be. Maturity gives us a strength to admit our faults, accept our responsibilities for these faults and time to change our ways so we will not make the same mistake twice. Maturity helps us to realize that laws and rules are there to help us and not to hurt us.

When we hate the laws or hate the rules we have in our lives - we hate our lives and the lives of others. We disrespect our self by breaking laws and rules and take a chance on hurting others too.

Focus on a rule or the law and how you would like to change it. Focus on the rule or the law as a problem that needs to be solved. Focus on a future solution to solve the problem of rule and law to change it when you are old enough or mature enough so you can.

No one gives you rules or laws because they hate you. They give you rules and laws because they respect you and love you. Do not confuse the two because if you do - it will only be you - who you will be hurting in your life.

Are you Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired?

I am sure those who are honest can snicker out a giggle of the many times in one's life that a person will feel cycled of the: "Being Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired".

I would say, most would agree, this is a statement that is verbally made when a person is exhausted physically or mentally drained or emotionally overloaded by life's circumstances and issues.Usually this can be created by a million different reasons unique to each person who endures the "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" common bond that many of us do share at least once in our lives.

This verbal majority agreement can be provoked by the same old irritating things that occur from others who irritate another individual because they fail to see that a problem exists in their life and they blame you for it if you mention it to them. Sometimes it can cause the same conflicts, arguments or losing debates with no resolve in sight.

Family, friends, children, teenagers, and spouses are usually the triggering individuals that provoke a "Sick and Tired of Being Sick & Tired" cycling of actions. They will keep doing the same repeated mistakes or errors. They believe or argue that you are the source of their problems. That you are the only one complaining and yet they feel no need or contributions to be made by them to solve a problem. So they do not change and neither will the problem get solved either. So usually in family units, this cycling behaviors continues where one person sees room for improvement or positive change and others do not.

It also could be another problem that could exist that you can not solve alone or perhaps, the answer has not came as fast and with effectiveness as a person wants or needs in their life too.

In rural areas, the lingo of "Being Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" is a common lifestyle occurrence for many I have met and spoken with through the years. The experiences of my life that very well have aged me more than my biological age would state otherwise - surely tells me this common phrase is geographically every where too. But in the rural areas, it's a first spoken phrase for a bad or irritating stressful day.

Everything from high debt increasing payments to revenue decreasing in their income that makes financial matters difficult to discuss, manage and control in a healthy budget. Family problems, repairs they can not afford to fix with surprising breakdowns, unhappy relationships, difficult children or teenagers who do not listen or organize their material possessions or even being right down rude when others offer advice to them in trying to help guide them.
The topic that probably gets the same ineffective disgruntle going of "Tired of Being Sick & Tired " is the disrespectful or the personal stance agony of conversation differences about politics and religions. I have yet to hear two people to try to civilly discuss these matters especially if they are in opposition of who is right and why another is wrong.

Now if you have a legit medical condition that has been accurately diagnosed and the patient feels assured and accepting of this pronounced condition - it can be even harder to juggle that feeling, unhealthiness, lifestyle or chaos that "Being Sick & Tired of Sick & Tired" usually comes with the diagnosis, trial and errors of failed treatments or medications, stigmas, biased, rude, cruel, mean and uneducated remarks or comments that can come with a new diagnosis. Finding proper support, effective treatments, and educating others can be very hard to do for a patient especially if their health limits, restricts or cycles them daily with difficult symptoms of their conditions.

Exhaustion. Exhausting. Exhausted.

These three words are the primary contributors to the: "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" cycling action that occurs when a person feels like there is no resolve or end in sight. Then there is no effectiveness to solve a problem that they need help with then the cycle continues.

Thanks to the www.freedictionary.com - we can know what the facts of exhaustion are and what exhaustion can do.

By broadening one's definitions of the words or cycling phrases we use as the "Tired of Being Sick & Tired" - we can learn new views on how to deal with the problems that seem to never end.

* Extreme tiredness; fatigue
* The condition of being used up; consumption
* The act of exhausting or the state of being exhausted
* The state of being exhausted
* The act or process of exhausting

* To drain of resources or properties; deplete
* To use up completely
* To draw out the contents of; drain
* To let out or draw off
* An apparatus for drawing out noxious air or waste material by means of a partial vacuum

Many motors have an apparatus that is called the exhaust for drawing out noxious air or waste material by means of a partial vacuum. Taking out the unclean, dangerous or toxic air to leave clean air behind.
Think of the exhaust in a vehicle. It works so the inside of the transportation does not suffocate or poison the passengers from gasoline or diesel fueled motors. An exhaust fan in the bathroom or kitchen will pull out the steam, mists, and circulate air so that mold and mildew will not build up inside a dwelling.

The same can be said of human beings. When we get "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" - we need an apparatus awareness to help us to release our noxious air or waste inside so it does not deplete our healthy resources and internal stability too.

For some, they are very skillful to know when their battles are worth to pursue and when it is not an issue for them - so they go on and may never endure the cycling action of dealing with a difficult person and unresolved situations or events. For others, we may have to learn new skills or new healthier ways to perceive life and how we impulsively react. When exhausted or stressed a person can be more vulnerable or become easily agitated or conflicted inside that it can cause impulsiveness that only prevents resolution and increases controversies. Problems can not be solved or handled this way especially when dealing with difficult people who fail to listen to what you have to save too.

For others, it can drain their physical, mental, emotional, logical and rational healthy reasoning to problem solved. For the person is under extreme stress or tired of speaking and never being heard that it can take an inner toll on  their health, create financial recklessness, immature behaviors, or verbal hurtful words that a person does mean but they say it anyways - hence impulsive reactions that occur that one problem even worse. You can not avoid problems. No one can. To create a temporary escape that is not a healthy solution will only add to the problems of woe.

When our inner consumptions of our resources are spent in time arguing, debating and controversy over our right or wrong personal takes of our individual views then we lose the ability to see past the immediate pain or frustrations we feel. We can not effectively find a compromise or tolerable solution. With some people, I do believe they are too difficult and they will deny problems and refuse to change. When this occurs, then you must seek the change you need for your own healthiness and well-being.

A Person I Used to Know constantly lived in a professional and personal unhealthy cycling of this "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" lifestyle. It was a constant problem with the same immature, dominant, unhealthy, unwise, disrespectful and argumentative people.

Some were family. Some were friends. Some were associates and even supervisors and managers who were bosses. This person could tolerate or submissively be compromising to them to force the peace but the internal damage felt was worse than trying to speak how I felt too.

For if a person wants you to listen respectfully to them; they should give you the same respectfulness to you, especially in matters to solve problems.  But not many view the world as a "You could be right & I might be wrong OR or we both could be right OR we could be wrong." This person did and tried to extend it to others but it was not always so and it can be difficult to do it.

But it took this person in losing and gaining a lot from learning in her experiences through personal and professional adult growth development - but she finally learned for herself what she needed to stabilize her self, increase her own peace and medical stability - but it took skills and new learning to achieve it.

She finally learned how to speak up for her self. She learned to compromise - where she could when it did not produce harm to her or others. She learned to speak up for herself to keep from increasing adverse medical symptoms or damage to her health. She learned that she had to use her voice and be extended the courtesy as she extended to others for her own  well-being and to increase and achieve her peace of mind & sanity.

She learned and still is learning to let many things roll off of her back and now chooses her battles wisely and humanely by speaking what she feels needs to be said and done to correct problems. By learning how to refocus and change what she could, accept what she could not but never to stop living her life to gain more experiences and knowledge.

For her focus and ideas or anything she shares is with a "Take it or Leave it approach" to problem solving now. It's not a personal attack to her when she can not win every time a problem is solved a different way than what she wanted. She does not always get emotionally caught up in being now if she has to wait for a problem to be solved. The impulsiveness she used to do to escape the same old problems that never ceased to end with difficult people stopped too.  She now does not seek approval from others of what she needs in her self. For she is building new information upon old processes. She finally learned to value and respect her self by being able to realize that we all are imperfect and she is too. Maturity can help a person a whole lot to solve the "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired." This person used to be me and I am still learning maturity and skillful lessons and new knowledge to help me.

Many of the emotional impulses and phrases or statements that we use frequently to describe our lives were passed down from one heritage to another or culture peer involvement. For some these experiences can help us but for others; it can hurt and do lifetime damage. Because the statements, opinions or beliefs we have that are truly not our own but only borrowed information because old, out-dated, and will prove to be fruitless and not beneficial to us.

How many prisoners sit in jail because their parents or a sibling or a family member was in jail prior to them? How many have dropped out of high school because their parents did? What about teen pregnancy? How many teen mothers today were born to teen mothers? How many adult addicts have offspring that possess the same addictions as their parents did?

Heritage, history, social cultures, family cultures, lifestyle comfort, geography, economics, finances, pregnancy, occupational choices, college attendance at specific colleges, the value of education, religion, and politics are only some of the issues that get carried from Generation A to Generation B.

When these vicious exhausting systems of problems keep increasing down the line - the "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" - has and will continue to infect society with out individuals taking responsibility and creating effective changes to prevent social tragedies and individual morale deprivations continue to decline in society.

We do have to pick and choose our battles wisely. Is the problem we seek to solve worth enacting our pride so we can hurt those we love the most? Is there room for compromise - so all involved in the problem solving - can assist as active participates in the resolution process? Are you in immediate danger, harm or a involved with a criminal in a relationship? Depending on why you are "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" - will affect what you must do or can do to assist in the problem solving. But if you request a change from a difficult person that they are not willing to compromise then perhaps, it is you that must change to solve the problem.

Many will push their daily time until they have no minutes or seconds for their own well-being. When you feel your self becoming rattled from the same old processes that you have not found an effective solution for - step back from the situation. Ask yourself does this absolutely have to be solved now? Is it worth it to be exhausted or fatigued and crying over again or even screaming and yelling with out resolve? Ask your self if a difficult person cares enough for you to respect you enough to help you compromise and create an effective resolution for all involved or will they only debate the problem so they can keep from solving it? Do you feel respected by others when you must problem solve? You should. If you do not, seek a different change or perspective on a problem and then come back to it when you have learned a better way to solve it.

If we start off difficult  problem solving topics by asking questions then we can increase participation by engaging all parties involved into the conversation to not only add their input but listen to yours as well.

In asking others questions before we give them our requests to solve a problem then we give them and our self a healthier foundation of focus by asking questions that will contribution to a problem solved by compromising in an engaging conversation versus the old debates or arguments that did nothing but create personal conflict.

By constantly rambling on the same old situation with no end in sight for solution - the process continues.

But when we ask questions of self and others when facing problematic situations - then we can not only be heard but hear what they say too. A win-win for all. Plus the exhaustion list of Being Sick & Tired will not come anymore over the same issue and no more complaining about the problem but the engaging conversation of inquiries can be achieved to finally solve it.

It is never fun nor entertaining when a person is so exhausted by problems - that they can not help them self much less help anyone else. But if we all find our rooms to breath from within to let our vicious churning processes in a healthy and mature manner - then we become enlightened to what we can effectively do to solve our repeated problems but also are able to get others in on the process to help us when we need it most too. Equal respect. Equal problem solving. Team effort.

Changing one's view does not mean that a person will lose their self; it only means that the view they will now be able to see and focus upon will be the beautiful, serene and peacefulness they hoped to achieve and finally to lay at rest that: "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" feeling.

Do You Feel Like You Live in a Vacuum?

Vacuum is an interesting word. How many know the facts of vacuum? How many describe their life or how they feel by using this word vacuum?  How many more wish they could break the cycle and constant repeat of their life because of the vacuum one feels confined too?

A feeling of a vacuum can occur for many reasons. Health issues probably create a life of vacuum feeling more than anything else endured because medical symptoms can and will change a person's life. Addictions can make a person feel trapped in a vacuum that they can not break. Circumstances, events and trauma can also produce a vacuum feeling.

If a person is not happy with their life circumstances or the consequences that occurred beyond a person's control then vacuum is a very insightful and accurate word to use to describe how a person feels or thinks about their life. But what can be done to stop the vacuum?

In knowing what a vacuum is or does in a person's life - most of us - will only use old data of information from our direct experiences we endured to form our facts or truths about associations of word and descriptions we give.

How can a person effectively break out of a vacuum when they are only using old information or old techniques to correct a problem but they do not change the way they associate their words, their meanings and the descriptions they use? They keep using old vocabulary words with the same old meanings to solve a problem based upon old information.

A Person I Used to Know felt like a living vacuum. The internal processing was like a broken record that would skip on the same songs, same situations, same conflicts, same problems, same unresolved issues, same geography concepts, same 5 senses of processing, same damaging thoughts and emotions within.

The mental, physical, emotional, and medical toll that it was taking on this person was horrific, exhausting, tumbledown, and quickly spiraled this person's life in a downward spiral that seemed to have no end in sight except the trail of devastation that kept repeating itself in mistakes, hard lessons, and experiences that were chosen but were happening just the same. An internal vacuum that would not end.

To stop this vicious internal vacuum of damage - done to this individual's core and life - this person realized through skillful learning and research - that perhaps, the contributions and examinations of her old life were still factors and facts that escalated the vacuum process within.

To break this vacuum would take a new perspective of learning facts and not merely relying on her own intuition and old knowledge anymore. But she needed new knowledge and new insightfulness of facts to help her break out of her own vacuum state of mind, emotions, thoughts and to live her life again by building new information and not relying on her old information anymore. This person was me. This is what I am doing and have done now and it is working effectively and medically too.

* To clean with or use a vacuum cleaner
* A space relatively empty of matter
* A state of emptiness; a void
* A state of being sealed off from external or environmental influences; isolation.

These are a few dictionary facts about vacuum courtesy of the www.freedictionary.com.

It can be very painful & energy draining & difficult when living & breathing daily in a medically compromised brain & body. It is like being in a vacuum. Sometimes, the only way out of that vacuum is to find a new healthier way of cleaner coping or to use this vacuum in a different way.

State of mind is like geography. People move from one location to another so they can live or survive where they want. They do this to achieve the landscape they want to see or prosper in employment opportunities they wish to gain and many other positive reasons to seek geography of changes.

The state of internal mind, emotions & thoughts can be viewed as its own individual geography too. By  changing or learning how to change personal perceptions of viewing old landscaping of self, life,  issues or medical conditions with circumstances - achievement and gaining is what we want to help us endure life. We can break out of our own vacuum.

Even with complications - an internal healthier change can occur in our self-vacuum processes by inputting new information that will be inserted upon the old information of what we are used to doing and learn a new way to do it instead to break the cycle of vacuum.

Facts can help to increase new healthier perspectives & decrease pains of what was previously felt.

It is not easy to break out of a personal vacuum. But it can happen & is possible. We can never give up in finding what we need to help us to break out of our vacuum. This mini-technique is what I do by using new facts about my old internal information of my life to help myself.

When we seek support from others, many generally want another to solve their problems, ease their symptoms or expect others to find a resolution for them. But most fail to be aware that they have to be a contributor to the process of problem solving for anything to be effective and to become resolved permanently.

Victims, survivors, & individuals who submerge in pity-parties are usually the hardest individuals to convince or give illustration or set examples of how to achieve this for their self.

For the pain, hurt, scars, wounds, & medical unhealthiness produced by circumstances beyond a person's control in their life - has exhausted them, drained them & exhausted them because of the hard journeys they endured to survive their traumatic & horrific ordeals.

I was as stubborn & exhausted as anyone else too. For I participated in my own pity-party, stubbornness, & continued exhaustion of survival - that it did take away from my ability to focus beyond surviving to only living so I could increase my quality of life. It just seemed like more work that I was unwilling to do for myself because I had did so much work just to endure and survive that work or contributing for myself to reap healthier benefits was the hardest obstacle in myself that I had to get over.

For me personally,  it did take new skills and a new healthier perception of facts for me to do this. Ironic how it was my surviving exhaustions of my life - as a victim and a survivor - that gave me my conflicts but it was also in being exhausted and tired of living in a vacuum anymore that I began to learn and break free. Instead of saying - this will not work - I began to say: "What if this could & would work instead?What did I have to lose in trying one more thing?" You know what, it has helped me tremendously to benefit my life and my health.

Maybe you could evaluate the Person You Used to Know in your self too. Have a long examination of an internal talk with your self. Find out if you are more exhausted from living the same old broken processes or if you are too tired to keep living in a vacuum and you want to work to change it now.

We can not control what we endure but we can control how we view or perceive it. For some of us, it takes learning what is perceived as elementary skills to achieve this. There is no shame in changing one's self to be the person you want to be and achieve the quality of life that you want.

The only person that has to understand you - is YOU. Do you understand you? Are you satisfied with you? Are you content with your quality of life? Are you tired of living in a vacuum? Do you want to seek change to get out of your vacuum? Only you can answer this, no one else can. No one else can do the work for you. Only you can.

Winter Tips to Dressing Warm for Work or Play

The winter has barrelled down on many now that 2014 has arrived in a wintry blast. Snow or wet, frigid and dangerous slick conditions can be terrible to be out in.

When you throw in a constant blowing arctic air then you could literally become a freeze pop waiting to emerge without proper clothing and winter attire. I share these tips to help someone living on a tight financial budget and perhaps, enlighten others what techniques can be done to be weather proofed at all times - no matter what falls from the sky.

Prevention from sickness and protection must be taken to survive the harsh winter weather. If you are out in it, then you will know what I am speaking of and if you do not have to be out in it - you will know what you are not missing either.

The icicle breezes that sticks to your lungs as a traumatic case of immediate throat freeze while the air in and out of your nose even stings to breath it. As if the winter brisk air is the worst dose of reality that humans have that we are not as strong as we think we are.

Especially when the weather winds can offer a pleasant flavor on a nice warm day versus that of a chilly and pending taste of death with terrible coughing and runny noses symptoms. Depths that only a winter freeze of not being properly dressed for winter does give to a person unprepared.

A Person I Used to Know was always a weather dresser before a fashion appeal. Many would have been surprised to know this was done because this person looked fashionably presentable but was always weather proofed underneath the exterior of clothing.

If it were raining, there had to be a cute rain coat or hat or ball cap on. There always had to be a scarf around the neck for fashion but warmth to breathe through in the brisk winter air. If it were cold winter wet chills - kind of day, there had to be insulation under the exterior fashion to serve in warmth and wind-proof for the many miles of walking with a USPS mail carrier this person used to do.

Not only that - but if this person wanted to fish in the drizzle rain or a mild rain shower or even play in the snow - the cold, damp, moist and wet had to stay out to stay dry and have fun while preventing sickness. In having fun in the hobbies outdoors or for work purposes one must be prepared. This person was me and still is.

But another person I Used to Know would kick back the moisture from the sky from wetting her hair or getting moisture in her ears from a blowing rain or snow by using a head technique - I saw no one else do and still haven't seen anyone do.

It was the funniest sight I ever saw. If something does work to keep you warm and dry during the worst of weather - then why would strange looks or perceptions really bother a person of what others would think of them? Is it better to take a chance of getting laughed at for prevention methods from freezing half to death or getting a chilling wet soak to the bone or to seek approval from what you wear so you only end up sick? Something for each individual to think about in adverse weather conditions.

My grandmother is who I speak of in this second scenario. For she would walk miles in the rain, sleet, hail, snow and all kinds of weather when she was able.

She enjoyed her walks to the post office and to deliver her Blair items she sold to her neighbors. For my entire life, this lady did not believe in wearing pants. Only dresses and skirts as her religion beliefs forbid her to wear pants.

But in extreme weather, she would put on a pair of pants underneath her skirt or dresses for insulation and put on a thick weather proof jacket to go trudging through all weather conditions.

A scarf she would wear around her neck but she refused to wear head coverings that would not keep her hair from getting wet and the wind out of her ears. She never owned a jacket with a hood on it - even though she had some - so she made her own winter proof hood and wet proof hat out of recycling.

She was a recycler and hoarder. If something could be kept to be used for another purpose, she'd keep it or find a way to use it. She was a recycling hoarder given the financially strapped budgets and lifestyle cultures of survival she endured through her experiences.

Her kitchen had a designated plastic shopping bag recycling shelf. All the plastic grocery shopping bags she would get when shopping would get saved and reused. From small waste baskets as trash bags to overnight bags for grand kids when they stayed to keep up with their stuff or shipping bags for Blair products when others would ordered or separating Christmas gifts to families in these bags or treat bags at her church for holiday fruit and candy giving.  My favorite recycled bag use she had was her plastic bag toboggans.

I preferred a more approved fashion exterior in the worst of weather by concealing my insulation underneath my clothes. Tights, panty hose and long johns made the perfect accessory to wear underneath one's clothing to stay warm, wind-proof and dry no matter what the winter was blowing around.

I also recommend the plastic like material of insulated offering in athletic pants and jackets. These make for the best windbreakers if employment dress codes accommodate for such an attire. But most will not allow such an attire but I still use these wind and wet proof athletic garments for drizzling days of fishing in the rain, walking in the rain or even to go over top of my denim jeans and sweat shirts to walk in the snow. Sounds layered and it is but it works. If you could laugh at winter and win - this is how to do it!

But my grandmother's plastic recycled toboggans gave me a perfect idea for my nieces too as they do not like hats, caps, toboggans or anything on their head that could prevent them from playing or seeing accurately and they just don't like any head gear that becomes a nuisance to them.

But I learned through my grandmother's plastic bag recycling experience to do something for my nieces. My grandmother would roll and tuck the bag to fit her head as if it had an invisible stitched seam in it that you could not see but it would get that perfect fit size every time. Then she would pull all of her hair back. Slip the bag on her head and use a rubber band to bind her hair and the bag in place. Covering her ears and hair and head completely.

Many days, I watched my grandmother walk in the weather or I would walk with her and snicker when viewing this lady that I loved dearly who looked like a bag lady upon some weathered street with her bundled exterior, pants and dresses on with those Wal-Mart or Save-A-Lot logos on her head.

But even in the experiences of her unique ways, it taught me many things about fashion. Fashion does not matter externally when it comes to staying warm and dry when preventing sickness and to disregard visual appearance when surviving the elements of bad or harsh weather. I learned kindly to mix the two up for my own now but she never did for she was warm, dry and did as she saw comfortable and appealing to her. I had to admire her for the giggling fun I had in witnessing her beliefs and the valuable lessons she taught me about dressing for the task of surviving all weather elements.

I applied these lessons last night when my daughter and nieces wanted to play in the darkness of falling snow. The wind was howling. The cold air could be felt here in the house as this place isn't sheltered by trees or close neighbors in its third of an acre field. So I knew it was cold but not too cold for fun when bundled and layered up properly.

I will never deny a child to play and have fun in the weather as long as they are not sick and will adhere to my strict dressing codes to stay warm, dry , wet-proof and wind-proof.

They laughed when I told them how they would they would have to dress. They never heard such fashion rule breakers before.

But they wanted to play out in the falling snow with darkness around them so they would listen to my advice. If I had enough weather proofed clothing and wasn't cutting quilt patches, I would have joined them.
For it is in these qualities of fun that only children could produce that most logical or rational person would never consider doing. But children often reminds us why we should never be too mature and forget the littlest of joy factors of life - as these little ladies were about to have.

So I got out my fishing wind proof and wet proof jackets and pants. They had on their own jeans and sweaters. I made them put my jackets and pants on. I have yet to meet a kid that couldn't wear them.

The pants can be rolled up and the sleeves on these material clothing to help make them a one size to fit all - regardless of their actual sizes or the height differences. So they got all layered up on the outside of their regular clothing with my plastic clothes and then put on their winter jackets. Then the gloves and scarves. Then came the fun of sharing the customized fittings of the plastic bag toboggans with them.

My daughter is a teenager and would rather freeze and be immature by seeking fashion first instead of staying warm and dry in bad weather. As a toddler and child, she was not like this. My daughter has laughed at me for years because I wear long johns, tights, or pantyhose under my pants when outdoors and yet she chooses not too. But my nieces have not reached that teenager state of mind yet - as they are not quite the age as my daughter - so they are still submissive and obliging to advice. As long as they can play - that is their only objective before fashion or appearance anyways.

After I got them bagged up on their heads and covered their ears - they were suited up to be wind-proofed, wet-proofed, and outside for dark snow falling fun they went and had a blast.

I took harsh feedback with laughter from this family tradition I had shared and learned from my grandmother long ago. But I'd rather give an opportunity for a child to have fun and experience the outdoors elements of all weather seasons while I can - using all techniques I know - before the standards of mature guidelines settle in or fashion acceptable attire take precedence over the young ones versus having fun.

In having fun and staying warm and dry to do - is a win for win for all involved when children want to go outdoors and play. My nieces were hilarious looking and appeared almost as mini versions of my grandmother from back in the day. I did not take pictures as these shots may have embarrassed in their future days as teenagers and besides, some memories are best kept to one's self as my grandmother's weather fashion attires taught me.They were cute and did have a blast winter playing.

There is something to be said of the wisdom of our generations before us. From the struggles of the Great Depression, World War II and the Vietnam Wars that taught others how to survive and how to live. How to appreciate the blessings you have with those in your life and how to help others by sharing the experiences to help a person to get over a hurdle. Where the world knew only others as brothers or sisters and even strangers could be friends to borrow a loaf of bread from or share recycled material and products that was one person's trash and another treasures. Where you could always know your neighbors by the sound of their laugh or the emotions they experienced by their vocal tones and where every thing was in deep struggle to survive some how they made their way to living beyond diversity by sharing, existing and surviving together to live and enjoy life no matter come what may.

Today, these communities, heritages, and traditions seem to be passing us by now in our fast paced electronic world where we may do more speaking but less are communicating and really listening. The sounds of laughter or even vocal tones of emotions are not heard nor shared anymore. The luxuries of materials and necessities have crossed definitions creating antonyms of one another. What use to be valued as important is becoming the lesser of humanity and progression is only viewed as valuable if profits are created and grown. Sad really.

But in this post today, perhaps, you will find some humor, recollection of your own giggling moments that make you feel good and help you realize how perceptions and interpretations of others do not matter at all with what you do with your life.

When the weather teaches us what survival or living through these experiences are in our lives -  then may be listen and be respectful. Respectful to enjoy nature's beauty but also to do it without embarrassment to embrace the fun of nature's best seasonal offerings too.

Winter can make us or break us in our abilities to survive and the quality of life we live. Even when living on a cloud 9 high above the struggles that the majority of us know with our financial budgets, limited time on our side or medical complications - winter will prove that we are only human beings. We will never be stronger than the elements of the weather unless we are smart, survivors, wise, brave, and have courage to share, be practical and use a little imagination of intuition to go a long way to conquer all weather conditions to help us through life too.

Wear scarves. Buy appropriate winter jackets that keep you dry and wind-proof. Layer your clothing underneath to conquer winter or harsh weather conditions.

If you are really brave and want to recycle - create your own plastic bag toboggan and showcase your favorite logo on your head too. It may appear stupid - but - only if you believe it to be so.

Also ask yourself - would you choose a judgment from majority as something being stupid to take a chance on becoming sick? Or would you choose fashion that is not weather proofed and might make you sick? Or would you rather be your own person in all weather surviving conditions to prevent sickness and teach others a thing or two of how to do it? I think I have shared enough experience to ponder on for today, don't you?

Share Education as a Daily Resolution in 2014

Education is a word that we all have our own individual biased, experiences, and general judgment of.

Education is an action that gives a silent validity to who we are and what we have done in life based upon the education we choose to receive or not to receive.

We do not need to declare who we are because the efforts of our lives will be witnessed and evidenced  by what we each choose to receive as a gift it is to self or merely to be disregarded as a valuable asset that the human creation of education is to our current day society.

But no denial or debates can ever be given about education because education is a contributor to your immediate daily life because all that you have, own and possess in your life is because of the education some one else received to benefit our humanity and your home and life directly too!

Education is a hidden asset in every day life - whether it is acknowledged individually as such or not.

A Person I Used to Know clung to education. Education was as a saving grace for this person.
Education allowed this abused child and abused teenager to escape from the horrors of a dysfunctional, immoral and unlawful people. The only contact of people she knew in her youth life was a criminal family and those in the education of public school.

Every day at school to this person was a relief of momentary escapes from the hell this person faced at home. From the earliest of this person's childhood memories until she held that high school graduation certificate - this person knew that education had saved her life and did help to ease all the traumas of the abuse she endured. Abuse she held within of silence for almost 2 decades of her life. But her learning of education was far from over to be the person and obtain the quality of life that she desperately sought to get past surviving to merely living. But she never forgot to apply education to her daily life to provide quality to it that she received no other way. The silent gift that she gave her self that would not only save her through her most difficult times but would give enhancement to the rest of her life too.

This person I Used to Know was me. I never lost the value of education in my life that once was a survival skill that has now became a pleasurable, peaceful and wonderful daily asset to my life even now.

Do I make a lot of money? No. Do I own several homes or am rich? No. So what possibly could education benefit me - you ask - and what can education do for you and others in your life?

Think about it. Problems arise every single day in every individual life out there.

Your experiences of your life are an education of living and surviving that another person will never know how to solve - unless you share your experiences with them. Their experiences you can never be taught or know from a book - no matter the subject content - without knowing their individual and personal struggles, hardships, achievements and accomplishments of their survivals and living.

Education of the experiences of others who are different than we are - is still the most valued education we can give and share with others. For none of us are experts - but we can become experts when we admit our problems, seek solutions to our problems and work together to solve those problems so others will not ever know these problems as their own. See how does the experiences of people guide us to become educators of humanity?

Think about it. Parents try to teach their children based upon the data of their lives and the experiences they endured without giving regards to the social, electronic, economic, geographical and environmental changes or difference that their children and their youth endure today.

But how many generations of adults follow into the heritage of occupations based upon their own family or generations before them? How many parents were teen parents or high school drop outs will make the necessary sacrifices of work to ensure their children or youth do not follow their own mistakes they made? Now, how many of these individuals will actually just follow the same first appearing comfortable paths of dysfunction, immorality or unlawfulness of their heritages or family traditions? How many are actually raised and rendered to be their own person of individuality in families - even if is not acceptable or per the wishes of their parents?

We are each imperfect individuals. In our imperfections - each individual mistakes does give us a humane way to become educated by these problems from another experiences - so we can each be a contributor to solve the problems for good.

If we perceived each individual as a teacher, mentor or educator of their own culture lifestyle and respected the different experiences of their survival and living - then how much more could we do in assisting this slow process of solving society and civilization problems?

Would you ever intentionally strike up a conversation with some one different than you? Would you really listen to a homeless person or a drug addict or a drunk or anyone who you felt uncomfortable around to hear what their experiences taught them to help others in prevention or awareness to solve future homelessness, harmful addictions, alcoholism or anything other ailment of choices that others make? Would you listen to use their words to prevent or stop future occurrences? 

Would you know of a way to intervene that would help troubled individuals to help them self so that they could become as contributors to solving the social problems - without producing dependants - that many of our programs in use do - instead of creating permanent solutions - to the problems we have today that are ineffective at solving the problem but only enable it?

Individuality is a beautiful educational dose of solving problems that formal education can not teach about survival and living that each of us has done.

Until we can get past the external appearances of those we see and simply stop to converse and assist others different than us - nothing will change. For every one problem solved - there will be another to rise because the individual invalidation processes continue that only reap future generations of these same multiplying issues.

Each problem in humanity equally shares and holds a common property. It does not matter what social, economic, scientific, geographical, medical, mathematical, emotional or financial status a problem holds - they all still have the same equal property.

This equality is a root of origin where the problem began for it to exist, thrive, and survive. Once we perceive a root of a problem in the origin of where it begins - that we can gain the education needed to solve that problem. The problems of all people do have an origin of where their problems began. The solutions to these problems of individuality are held in the experiences of their education of origin that comes from their living and surviving experiences. But until each person is viewed, valued and accepted as an educator too - nothing in humanity will ever truly grow or prosper for regression will always be the circle jerk that plaques all generations in future or past times. We learn nothing. We solve nothing. We produce nothing effective for individuals in society and keep using fast solutions and creating and enabling dependencies.

What we have in society is a ripple effect of decades of history in heritages at work every single day. Some of these individual origins of educational experience are at work contributing to increase the quality of our lives that benefit us all daily.

For many tho, individuals are deducts based upon their origins of educational experiences because they simply do not know how to do any better for their life or they really have no options because the only solutions that exist are that of dependency, ignorance and heritages of family history that fail them so they stay on the course of their own experiences 'cause it is all they have.

Effective communication takes a listening ear. A slow response to understand their origin of their problems and using the experiences of formal education and the educational experiences of living and surviving of others to create positive solutions.

America is a wonderful country with deep financial pockets, talks of impossible dreams that could be achieved and a hope that we are united. There is nothing farther from the truth and facts of American lives than this. But until we really learn how to bridge the uniting of our diverse citizens, we are just a country segregated by the problems we curse in another but do nothing to seek their input to help assist in the process of solving these problems.

So in the year 2014- seek every day to share your experiences of living and surviving educational experiences that you learned from your own survival and living experiences.

For what you may first perceive as something not valuable - that you endured - it could very well be the knowledge that another needs to increase their quality of life, health, medical, financial or economical status.

I learned many lessons the hard way because of my choices that produced trial and error the hard way. Formal education goes along way in securing the financial comfort that a person wants to achieve in life - but it was the formal education of my school years that gave me a fire to learn more, grow more, explore more and be more than anything I witnessed in my youth. This value is personally more important to me than financial gain as what I deprived of and learned to gain was a moral and humane way of life that money could never take away from me nor be used to define me.

It was through my listening, hearing, and seeking to grow understanding through the diversity and differences of others in their living and surviving educational experiences that came from their hard knock school of life that I gained my most valuable qualities that I have always tried to share.

It was through their sharing with me - that we solved many problems for myself and with others. We  became contributors to others who were struggling with their own problems and these educational experiences of others life and their input directly that I learned that humanity could be obtained, achieved, and even hoped for and reasons to believe that it does live and exist every single day.

For humanity is not a one person job to make better nor any expert to do solo - but it takes every one doing their own small part every day to believe, grow, explore, learn and appreciate the differences in others' experiences as a valued education that gives us legit and logical reasons to witness, be a part of, and to share and enjoy a humanity that we all deserve to receive and achieve. To not only acknowledge individual problems exist from an origin but help our self and them to move on beyond their problems so they can be resolved and progress us all together in a humane unity that I know we all could use a little bit more of this good stuff in our lives.

For humanity is only really a dream for believers unless there are active contributors to the process to factual.

So for 2014 - think of your self and the experiences you endured as an educator or mentor to share and give to another. Not as an arrogant professional or a formal educated expert but as a person of compassion, understanding and to giveback daily and receiving daily as a contributor to the humane process of life.

For the knowledge you have - can solve another problems and what they could share with you - could also solve your problems as well.