Can Medical Symptoms Increase or Decrease with Mature and Immature Awareness?

A Person I Used to Know could read information, understand knowledge with data and then take notes and learn to apply new information she gained through life to apply to her immediate life to improve it. But she also would use her new information to be as an active contributor to others in her life and around her.

These views were reasonable and logical to absorb the information for brain retention to remember information and then apply it after the information had been retained in the brain. Every one has their own way to read, absorb, retain and use new information of their life that we either gain by seeking knowledge or lessons learned thru experiences.

But for this person - it was easier to apply the logical of what she would learn but very difficult to find emotional stability and emotional maturity from the circumstances of survival in her life. This person I share of experiences was me.

My negative effects that came from erratic and emotional instabilities with emotional ignorance produced not only harm and hurt to myself that forced me to succumb to my emotions versus focusing on logical reasoning causing utter instability in everything I did or tried to do. The conflict within me was of a battle that began long before I was an adult and long before medical diagnosis had caught up to the vast diversity of symptoms I was enduring.

I became medically diagnosed as an adult with having Bipolar, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Temporal Lobe Seizures, Non epileptic Seizures and Trichiasis.

All of these conditions have plagued me with symptoms of erratic moods, behaviors, and emotions too. Not only was it hard admitting and accepting all I had wrong with me - it was even harder to explain it for others to understand that what I felt and endured was real, factual, and beyond my control.

It was difficult, hard, exhausting, and sometimes excruciating to over come the symptoms and ignorance of my life. It took me a long time as a work in progress before I could start to understand the deficiencies within myself produced by medical conditions and neglect done to me to learn maturity and immaturity with every one else.

For I could fit socially in a room of people that I did not have to know personally or professionally and could find my place of contributions or active participant to feel I could belong - but at the core of my self and in my internal psyche; I was still lacking and voided of a help that I needed to balance and stabilize like healthy people do.

I could front normal for a little while - but all it would take would be a hypomania episode of Bipolar to exhaust me with sleep deprivation that would provoke a seizure due to the high stress of my internal hurricane.

Or a PTSD flashback, nightmares, and triggers of my 5 senses that would cause emotional breakdowns or the constant crying behind closed doors and by myself - that would inflame my eyes that would cause the eye lashes to become inflamed with Trichiasis. In public, I was normal or appeared as healthy and functional as anyone else. But behind closed doors, I had all these questions of my life to answer and no one could answer them for me. I had these internal problems that I could not understand nor could any one help me solve them even with seeking medical treatment.

I could not understand to control what I needed of these voids that I was seeking in my professional life and my personal life.

I was creative, talented, and considered smart or intuitive by others - but I always felt that if I were indeed these factual descriptions that others stated from my evidence of actions and documented proof of these things - then I could surely find and heal or help my self so I could gain control of my symptoms, understand them and not let them take more from her life than they had already done.

I must say - I am now on the effective road I needed to be on along time ago.

How is that? New knowledge and new application of information. I clung to the word truth through out my life as most survivors do.  When a victim has been hurt, scarred and medically compromised by a lie of an abuser or abusers - truth is all that most can turn too for release, escape and as a healing word of recovery that gives us something back that some one else took by their crimes against us.

Through new emotional learning as teaching myself as you would teach a child about emotions - I am gaining a healthy and unhealthy distinctions of words, emotions, feelings, and able to relay and relate better with my own emotions to control them. But I am also able to understand and relate to others more by seeing the facts of feelings and emotions and what they do in a person's life including their contributions and deductions of my own life - as well as - what it does to others too.

I have listed the synonyms of mature and immature. For even smart, wise, and logical or reasonable people can be mature in the productions and active contributions of their life - but they can also be very immature and destructive by their inabilities to admit ignorance of their own life too.

To increase maturity and decrease immaturity in one's life does take a factual knowledge that we as friends, families, or associates of each other in the human race - can not give one another - only a dictionary can fill us with the scopes of facts we need to help our self.

For the dictionary does not lie. But the dictionary allows us to have options in the words we speak, how we communicate and broadens our views, interpretations and perceptions of the person we are, the life we live and all that we share in this universe of the experiences we gain.

Dictionary learning is healing education of human life.

These synonyms of Mature and Immature were taken directly from the free dictionary. com. Notice the affiliation and vast diversity characteristic traits that humans display every day in their actions and behaviors - including acknowledging your own traits of these.

Synonyms of Mature
complete
cultivated
cultured
developed
mellow
mellowed
prepared
seasoned
settled

Synonyms of Immature
childish
adolescent
babyish
crude
infantine
juvenile
raw
tender
undeveloped
unseasonable
unseasoned
untimely
youthful

Notice how Mature produces a finalized growth process. Do you think human beings can ever reach the seasoned state of being settled or developed to maximum capacity of maturity? I do not personally.

For I feel if we would reach maturity full potential in our lives than we would have nothing new to be gained, nothing to learn, nothing to grow and we would indeed become unfulfilled with no continuing destination to be achieved.

But we can keep learning to try to achieve it and use the knowledge of maturity we gain to keep improving our lives and others in our life. Maturity isn't the goal but a continuing partnership that one should seek for their self to achieve to help our brains and body and over all healthy well-being for what we can ultimately be and not what we merely are.

Admitting that factual maturity will never occur but to learn how to gain more maturity - we help our self and help others too and never get burnt out in this personal seeking to find the answers we need to solve our difficult and personal circumstances, medical conditions or heal from events that harmed us and to always solve problems that arise by using a mature active view instead of contributing harsh or detrimental consequences that immaturity causes.

Notice how Immature represents a hard core dose of reality check of your own life and the effects of life around you. Think of the difficult people you know in your life - are they medically compromised or are they merely immature in being raw, childish, untimely, or reacting in juvenile behaviors and emotional actions?

Now think of the ways and actions that you have been immature too. Do you believe that a human being can progress in life to zero out all traits, characteristics, behaviors and emotions of immaturity? Personally I think the answer once again is No.

For I feel that immaturity in responsible management of an individual can be a wonderful asset to have. Immaturity does allow us to laugh, lower inhibitions to have fun and give a healthy release of stress through laughter from the difficulties we endure when used at the appropriate, wise timing and not in an untimely matter. So immaturity has its beneficial place in our lives as well.

Maturity and immaturity do offer positive and negative effects in our life and those around us. But learning when maturity is appropriate and immaturity is not - will always be the hardest personal and professional conflicts that anyone can seek understanding to control behaviors, words, and emotions with.

I am not going to try to destroy the medical and scientific approaches of Bipolar - but I will share enlightenment of symptoms about this medical condition that I have gained to help my condition and perhaps, another to gain understanding and control of their own complex symptoms. Perhaps, this will even help those to understand Bipolar - even if they do not have it.

Some of the symptoms of Bipolar disorder are as: Manic Mood and Behavior or called Hypomania.
Euphoria
Grandiosity
Pressured speech
Impulsivity
Excessive libido
Recklessness
Social Intrusiveness
Diminished need for sleep

The brain and body chemical secretions do create these symptoms that lead to diagnosis of Bipolar. There are more symptoms of Bipolar but I will use the experiences of Bipolar that frequently have caused the most chaos in my life. I have been depressed with Bipolar but it is the hypomanic episodes that I have more frequently than any of the other symptoms.

But as a patient of Bipolar we can be taught what our individual symptoms are, what we can do to counteract our individual profile symptoms of this condition. We can learn new information to become self-aware of the Bipolar symptoms that plaque us and learn to become aware to control them.

Mind over matter is still a powerful force to heal and mend a broken body and mind as it ever was in the history pages - but it does take new skill, healthier information, ability of self-motivation to apply new knowledge on the unhealthy internal data of our bodies and actively be a healthy contributor or mature caregiver to our self and the medical conditions we have.

I present an enlightenment about the hypomania symptoms to give an illustration of the immature symptom attributes of this medical condition.

The symptoms are real and internally provoked by an instable brain that produce extra secretions of chemicals that give hyper activity to our brains and bodies when a person endures the hypomania aspects of Bipolar symptoms.

But what we learn to do with this instability and how to control it is up to each of us to do. To react maturely to help our medical condition or react immaturely that provokes more harm to us than positive, healthy behaviors and consequences.

Manic mood and hypomania behaviors of Bipolar are my most conflicting aspects of this disorder.

Euphoria - a strong feeling of happiness, confidence, or well-being; elation, ecstasy, glee, high spirits, intoxication, and jubilation.

Grandiosity - Characterized by greatness of scope or intent; grand; Characterized by feigned or affected grandeur; pompous display of ornamental speech or language, pompous or pretentious talk or writing.

Impulsivity -  Inclined to act on impulse rather than thought ; based on emotional impulses or whims; spontaneous; acting momentarily; not continuous.

Excessive libido - The psychic and emotional energy associated with instinctual biological drives; Sexual desire; Manifestation of the sexual drive.

Recklessness - Heedless or careless; Headstrong; rash;  Indifferent to or disregardful of consequences.

Social Intrusiveness - aggressiveness as evidenced by intruding; by advancing yourself or your ideas without invitation; the quality of being bold and enterprising.

Diminished need for sleep -  (sleep deprivation - a form of psychological torture inflicted by depriving the victim of sleep)

If you view hypomania Bipolar as I do - in a sense - it is funny. Because what many pay millions of dollars for their addictions to feel the Euphoria that hypomania gives to us internally and not naturally- it's humorous and provides a laugh to say the least.

For what they want to feel of happiness, confidence, ecstasy and glees of intoxication or high spirits from substances that our brains and bodies give us in this condition. Granted this is perceived unhealthy by most - but as long as we are not immaturely hurting others or not creating our own immature instability; this feature of Bipolar can be viewed as a very motivating and inspiring quality to have when balanced and mature about it.

Grandiosity is boastful. This is a very immature trait to have. There is an appropriate time to be boastful and a mature approach to take when spewing the Grandiosity actions and contributions of your life but for many, this is one of those irritating traits that many would perceive as irritating, frustrating and it will take patience from others to understand this and a maturity in self to learn when and how Grandiosity is appropriate and when it is not to be used. I am still learning how.

Then we have the Impulsivity and Recklessness. Two peas in a pod of cause and effects when not aware of what your symptoms are and what you should maturely do with them. These two words in their self speak of immature, selfish, and harmful or hurtful effects.

Many healthy individuals have got drunk at a bar or a club and then got into their vehicle to drive drunk that either got them a DUI ticket or killed someone due to their impulsiveness to excessively consume alcohol and reckless choice to drive while intoxicated. The same of a gambler. For a gambler will impulsively become addicted to their chosen joys and recklessly give into their desires to win more money by playing immature and financially irresponsible that leads to financial devastation. When you view human behavior of the "healthy" people versus that of a Bipolar person - we are not far off from the same immature tree branches - now are we?

Excessive libido is comical to discuss and should be a very personal and private matter. But to share an enlightening point - I have learned through my experiences, my own medical issues and the sharing I have gained of others - this one is the most erratic and hardest to maturely control of Bipolar - if you suffer from spikes or continuous Excessive Libido. The urge hits you. The desire is there. You want sexual fulfillment and release when the increases and urges consume you. You become consumed in this excessive libido that feels like a storage tank that you can not fill nor empty nor stop. The thrills of libido in a stable healthy person wreaks havoc and their own carelessness when not being mature in sexual matters but with Bipolar - your brain and body hold you to a chemical sabotaging - so what can you do maturely to effectively control and release this internal demand upon you? In a person of Bipolar with this increase of internal chemicals of instability - it can be hard to control the impulse to just go out and have reckless sex and even harder to control to maintain a mature and responsible sexual relationship with any one person. For the excessive libido is a fuel of its own source that gives no discrimination to gender.

It can feel like the most controlling and most intense of symptom to have with Bipolar. But how do you really control and effectively calm or release an Excessive libido without being irresponsible, immature, impulsive and reckless in your choice? For me personally - I recommend solo masturbation with a technique that effectively works for you to release your excessive libido without creating reckless or impulsive sexual consequences of immature behavior. Sex is a very natural and healthy experience to enjoy with another human being but when we become immature with our sexual choices and exploit our own vulnerabilities or weaknesses in sex - we hurt ourselves and hurt others. So solo masturbation is the only way to counteract the negativity of this symptom without hurting your self further or any one else. It does not sound fair perhaps - but it is healthy, mature and effective when you find the masturbation that works for you to control this symptom.

For the symptom of Bipolar Excessive libido is a personal and individual symptom indeed - and without using maturity to help ease this symptom - the immature choices that maybe acted upon could not only hurt you worse - but those you do choose to have impulsive, immature or reckless sexual choices with.

It is hard for healthy people to control their libido but for an individual who has a medical condition that increases their sex drive - it will take educational knowledge to understand what is going on inside you and how to counteract the symptoms with mature effects. Most would think having an Excessive libido is a wonderful trait to have - but when trying to be a mature, responsible and give a motherly or fatherly or be a humane example - it can be one of the hardest personal aspects of dealing with a medical condition symptom as this one that occurs in Bipolar patients.

Social Intrusiveness can appear as being a difficult person in the workplace. A workaholic attribute and contribution may seem like an asset for profits - but in a person of Bipolar it is not only destructive to their health - but it will end up in devastation without having maturity, stability, routine, and continuous work ethics and focus on the job.

These qualities of being bold and enterprising can be viewed as strengths but when used immaturely or excessively - the only person you end up hurting is yourself. For every choice or assignment or detail you take in work to get ahead; ask yourself - Did they ask you to do it? Can you commit to the attendance obligations and effectively perform the job duties? What are you gaining? What are you losing? What are you maturely gaining? What will you immaturely gain? What will you maturely lose? What will you immaturely lose?

Ask your self questions before impulsively answering on anything in employment matters. There are many uneducated individuals in management positions of the work place who will pursue exploitation and promotion of your motivational drive to perform continually - but without taking care of yourself first and thinking before you act of all possible consequences to doing extra at work; Peter Principle maybe what you end up becoming. For you will escalate to a level that you can not effectively nor productively do your job requirements when you are not balanced, focused, and consistent. Quality is more important than quantity. For Social Intrusiveness can be immature, rude, and intimidating but it can also be effectively used in a healthy and mature manner to contribute to your life and those around you. Balance is key.

Diminished need for sleep creates sleep deprivation. Sleep deprivation is the most dangerous side effect of Bipolar. For with sleep deprivation - it can produce the same effects as a person under influence or intoxication would have. Inhibitions become lowered. Invincibility increases. Instabilities of rational thoughts or logical actions take a back seat to the sleep deprived state of mind and body. Emotional vulnerabilities are harder to control when exhausted. The brain's ability to routinely perform becomes exhausted with instability and the facial features will reveal the lack of sleep quicker than anything else.
Maturity is the only way to counteract this sleep deprivation. Eat healthy foods at more frequent intervals if you must to keep energy and balanced sugar fuel in the body. Exercise to release and control the hypermania episodes. Create a routine schedule to get at least 8 hours of sleep a night. Even if you are not sleepy or sleeping - at least when laying there even with your brain running rapid thoughts; your eyes and brain will be resting. Most will disagree and say that if you can not sleep due to hypomania episodes to get up and not force yourself to sleep. I disagree with this and will tell you why.

Children are the prime examples of hyperactivity and hyper moods that prevent them from going straight to sleep or wanting to go to bed at night. It takes established routines or reading rituals or even lack of television before children go to bed before their young brains and bodies of hyper activity to calm down to sleep. This mature approach helps a child to rest. Bipolar individuals who are hypomania must use the same responsible and mature approach so they can decrease their sleep deprivations and to increase routine, stability and help balance their internal brain and body.

I gave all of this to you today to represent several facts about maturity and immaturity of how these assets can be even applied to medical conditions and symptoms to deal with them in a healthy way and mature way.

Unhealthiness can be a mechanical issue in the body like a broken bone that needs a different kind of treatment than something of a chemical or software issue in the body and brain like mental illness can give a person. But healthiness of maturity can be learned and achieved to make the most of what you have to medically live with - so it does make your life no more unhealthy than it already has.

Every day I have to constantly focus and stay on top of my mature and immaturity actions - as well as be aware to my symptoms and how I interact with others and these interactions affect me. For I am learning how to view and become of their mature traits and their immature traits as well.

There is something about the values of forgiveness and increasing effective communication and the quality of life you have - when you focus on life with only a view of immature or mature only.

For it does not make something like healthy and unhealthy sound so different or abstract or unique after all. Medical symptoms can be viewed as unhealthy but in dealing with them and learning about them to control them - mature and immature is the only safe and logical way to go in controlling and managing medical symptoms to increase quality of life. It is a funny bonus to see how immature and mature others are and how they are not even medically diagnosed yet or labeled with a medical condition too. For they are healthy but just as immature or mature as we are. For we are all immature and mature human beings with individual perfections and imperfections too. Make the most of it and learn as you go. For your brain will accept anything you give it - so give it the factual good stuff already!

What Age does a Person Mature?

A Person I Used to Know was born as an adult mentally trapped in the mind and body of a child. The extreme circumstances of trauma, survival and abuse she endured left her feeling more mature and acting more maturely than the abusers and the professional adults around her represented in their actions toward her and this unhealthy life she fought to endure.

These extreme circumstances and events lead her to believe that no one is an expert. No one is ever truly mature nor an expert. That every human being out there was just as imperfect her as she was.

Each individual had their positive characteristics, skills and talents but they also possessed negative behaviors, hurtful, harmful and unhealthy decisions and choices and that not one perfect was perfect.

She came to fear no one but to try to respect every one. If she could not tolerate them nor felt safe in their presence anymore - she'd let them be.

She done this to prevent doing harm to her self or mingling with those of immaturity that hadn't progressed to her standards, beliefs, and ways of life. For she owed this life to her self for all she had endured to evaluate, witness, watch, and see their actions versus their words to get to know a person for her self. She respects her self even if no one else does. She accepted the fact that difficult people exist in this world whose problems were as equal or greater than hers. She could not change them but only accept her self for who she was and seek her changes. She could not create change for them if they were unwilling to help them self. If she could not tolerate their lifestyles that were different than hers - she let them be and kept on living her own life and to do no harm or hurt upon anyone.

To evaluate a person by their actions and not merely their words was her motto and still is. To enjoy the world and all individuals in it as human beings. To see society as team players and everything she actively done or participated into was a contribution for the team objectives.

Oh the pain, heartache, hurt, harm and constant vicious cycle of unhealthiness she provoked and brought on herself with her childish yet mature ways of viewing. This person was me.

Which leaves me to socially ask the question - What Age does a Person Mature?

Many would speak intellectually through science or medicine of what the internal brain and body is doing to reach maturity. Personally, I do not feel a person ever reaches a full maturity age until they die for their balance of mature and immaturity must be recognized from with in and change sought to create a balance of both. For some, death will never find them with maturity.

For the brain and body are so much more than mere instruments to be understood of the chemical, blood, and computer processing that lies beneath the skin.

For each process that occurs in the brain or body has a cause and effect that disrupts the mental, physical, psychological, emotional, rational, and logical actions that a person does or what they think to them self in the silence of their conscience thoughts.

So with that said - we are all internally imbalanced with our mature and immaturity too. Until we seek out that of our deficiencies and learn how we are defective or not mature in our ways or thoughts - then and only then - may we seek to grow a maturity balanced.

I have met and enjoyed many colorful, vibrant, adventurous, entertaining and wonderful qualities of fun and happiness in others through out my life.

Adults who were younger than me or even older than me that were matured in their professional lives but their personal lives were in chaos - more so than my own life and history were.

For their levels of development in their childhood and youth may have offered them finances or luxuries or opportunities that I was never afforded but they were void inside too. Deficient and defiant with immaturity even when fronting as a mature professional. I guess that is why there were a hoot. Because we all had the same immature and mature ways that fronted very well. But inside, we were a pile of individuals that had more going on underneath the skin that we cared to admit too or discuss. Sometimes, sharing is even off limits to those closest to us. For if fun or happiness can be increased versus solving a problem - most will take the fun happiness instead as their first choice.

These individuals were honestly immature about their professional and personal life as I was. A rainbow of clueless people who only wanted to escape the unhappiness or stress of their life - as I did - when pursuing fun.

Immaturity of attending school days make it fun to skip out on attendance obligations for young ones that skip school. Adults who escape or skip out on their adult responsibilities, obligations, or their priorities from their children or their spouses or families; do the same thing. Immaturity follows us in different ways. Actions tell what those immature ways are.

You could say the company we will keep and are usually drawn close too are those who share our own personalities, characteristic traits, talents, skills and levels of maturity and immaturity too. In an immature or mature way - the association we keep will deepen the human bond or relationships we feel for those we have closest to us but at the same time - these close bonds can create havoc, produce immature choices and destroy not only your life but others in your life as well.

When close associates of friends, family or partner do advance in maturity or chooses to regress to immaturity in the choices and actions of their life - then relationships, friendships, and even families divide, separate, or forever destruct because of immaturity and maturity issues. Not health. Not finances. Not economical losses. But many actions or choices makes and creates are done with an invisible force known only to be described by facts to be immature or facts of maturity in their actions.

Immaturity and maturity look very different in each person and can only be distinguished by their actions. For what they may excel with maturity and choices that reflect wise, logical, or rational actions could very well be - the immaturity of their emotions, impulsiveness, reckless and careless choices that demise them in life.

When one views immaturity - it should be stated as an unhealthiness. For immaturity makes mistakes and never learns from them.

However, maturity teaches to be aware to the mistakes created and work to solve these problems - so they do not become repeated thus making an individual healthier and the choices they make as well.
Their balance comes from a healthy dose of maturity to counteract the unhealthiness of their immaturity and working or seeking to change this to solve their problems or correct their mistakes.

Once again I refer to the free dictionary online again for facts. Facts of a dictionary give the presentation of words. Not affiliations of words through heritage, history,opinion, biased or prior knowledge learned  through nature and nurture or experiences of our lives. But the dictionary breathes new life on old words to give a person a new view, evaluation, and application of these words to use in a healthier way but to give relief for the many definitions a word represents but also to help assist in solving problems.

Let's look at the Facts of Mature= http://www.thefreedictionary.com/mature
Having reached full natural growth or development
Composed of adults
Having reached the limit of its time; due
To evolve toward or reach full development
Relatively advanced physically, mentally, emotionally, etc; grown-up
To make or become mature
Fully developed in body or mind.
Develop and reach maturity; undergo maturation
Accept and make use of one's personality, abilities, and situation
Grow, progress, unfold, or evolve through a process of evolution, natural growth, differentiation, or a conducive environment

Now, let's look at the Facts of Immature= http://www.thefreedictionary.com/immature
Not fully grown or developed
Marked by or suggesting a lack of normal maturity
Deficient in maturity; lacking wisdom, insight, emotional stability, etc
Not mature or ripe.
Emotionally undeveloped; juvenile; childish.
In an early period of life or development or growth

The medical and scientific industry would have a person to believe that they are mentally ill, medically sick or deficient in their body, brains, and imbalanced so it require medications, therapy or expensive treatments to correct or heal or recover from ailing symptoms.

But what if it only comes down to maturity or immaturity in a person? What if the real symptoms an individual feels or possesses is not an actual symptom but a lack of knowing better how to deal or cope or manage their brain, thoughts, emotions, and these immature deficiencies give production to the body to produce the initial symptoms?

Does this sound extreme or wrong? Does this sound impossible? Well you tell me.

For I know my stance of what I feel about myself. I understand all that I have been medically diagnosed with in my life. I understand the mechanical failures of the human brain, body and chemical imbalances.
But I also admit, accept, and realize how nature, nurture, family heritages, history, biased, old information and my experiences has taught me valuables lessons of who I want to be and who I do not to be. I am learning about my own maturity and admitting my own immaturity to change it.

These personal analysis contributes to the process of what an individual person is and who they become too.

Do you seek insight into yourself by asking questions of your own life? Do you seek out information you want to know in others by their opinions or biased comments or do you seek facts to solve the problems of your life? Are you a contributor to your own happiness and production factors to how you live your life or do you merely accept it as such - never feeling like an individual but only a spawn into another's wishes for you and about you?

Maturity and immaturity are very facts about all human life. The questions now left is to ask is: "What ways are you mature? What ways are you immature?" Only you can answer these. Now what do you need to change about your immature ways?

How mature were you yesterday or last year or in the Person You Used to Know of yourself? How immature were you yesterday or last year or what changes or creation would you like to do to become the Person You Want to Be ?

We seek support and others to solve our problems or give us answers that we need to help us. What many fail to be aware of is that usually the answers you seek are already in you but you are afraid or do not ask the right questions of your self and others.

When inquiring of questions to seek answers too - many adults fail to understand the importance of asking questions.

For questions engage. Questions maybe viewed by many as immature or admitting that you do not know something. But in fact, asking questions is maturity growing, progressing, and contributing to the process of individual advancement. Not producing regressions, oppressions or depressions that accepting answers only produce.

Instead of viewing people as healthy or unhealthy with their medical conditions or the issues they speak of - instead - focus on their actions. Are their healthy actions producing maturity in them to help their conditions or are they merely unhealthy contributors to their unhealthy medical conditions in handling their diagnosis with immaturity complicating their life?

Medical diagnosis have evolved and increased over the last few decades due to research, technology, and the expenses has escalated with it. The knowledge of gaining medical and scientific information has not only improved individual lives but it has also created a market for profit.

The prescription drug abuse has escalated with it as well. So be careful. Ask questions. Seek yourself for the answers you require and never be afraid to ask or speak up for yourself.

No one is exempt from being mature or immature - even professionals, documented experts and those you feel intimidated by. We are all immature and mature human beings who process life by our own internal workings and the thoughts and emotions we use to fuel our actions.

No one is perfect. All are imperfect. When you view others in this manner - you can learn how to fear no one while respecting every one and gain who you are and what you will tolerate or will not in your life. You become who you want and not what others wish you to be.

You are the ultimate physician to how well you take care of your self maturely or immaturely. So learn the facts. A dictionary is the only source I would recommend for factual information that you seek answers to about the questions you have of your life and no topic is off limit in the dictionary too.

To Assume is to Take for Granted

A Person I Used to Know was probably the hierarchy leader on the highest peaks of a mountain built primarily of a foundation of assumptions in this person. The assumptions climbed taller and higher every time this person's brain and internal thought processing were alert with consciousness or awake. It did not matter how many tasks this person had to do, assumptions were the closest friend, she knew to draw from in her intuitions about life. Even in sleep, she could not escape her own damaging and destructive thoughts of assumptions.

Her assumptions were rarely facts or became facts in her life. Assumptions are not facts. Assumptions are not truth. Assumptions were everything this person did or tried to achieved and the assumptions fueled this person in positivity but also created a pile of negative behaviors and unhealthy choices too. Without intention to do so, this person did treat many people unfairly. She did not treat others as individuals but as assumptions instead.

To Assume is to Take for Granted. These facts are dictionary documented. But this fact was not something this person ever gave conscious awareness too while pondering the many trails, bridges burnt and mountains climbed in her life that never seemed to end. A very destructive and long journey that failed to end.

These facts about assumptions and taking things for granted were never taught to this person and honestly - there was no desire to learn- for she felt she was OK and it was others who failed her. The validity of failing to acknowledge, know or realize this important fact escaped her ways leaving her to continue to assume and take all her life and what she had for granted.

This fact was never seen as a problem solver nor a problem creator. But the lack of knowing and sheer ignorance of her own limited intuition, survival skills and what her internal dialogue taught her was all the evidence she needed as fact in her life or so she thought. She was not a bad person but she was as immature, selfish, and as ignorant as a person could be.

One can use the excuse of ignorance once, before you knew better- but after you know and you still choose to stay ignorant; it is a choice now. Not an excuse but a blame upon one's self for having a mistake and not correcting to fix the problem. This person I Used to Know of unhealthy and fact deprivation - was me.

To assume the worst of everything or worry without proof is to deprive yourself of the happiness in front of you or taking the stability in your life for granted. Many will revolve in and out of the doors of your life in everything you do - but whose is left standing when the world silently exits out?

Who is there to stand upon the foundation of peace, quiet, serenity, and fulfillment when you look around you? Who are the factual ones that know your name only when they need you for something? Who is your negative and positive people in your life? Who uses only words to say they love you or admire you? Who actually proves their love to you in every thing they do in their actions and use not only words but do things for you?

Who is the one person that is there for you through it all in your learning lessons, your immature or ignorant ways and possesses the potential to forgive you for your mistakes but yet keeps you, to enjoy the journey of life with and your learning lessons are valued by them? Who is still there with you when you look your worst?

Who sacrifices their energy, resources, health, and well-being for you? Who is there to be medically by your side when you need someone the most? What and where does the shelter over your head represent? Who or what do you share your dwelling with?

Who is the factual person you really see when you reflect upon your self in the mirror? Is this person some one you are proud of or some one that has more to learn about self and life too?

All of these questions can help you in your life to find out the facts of your life too.

For personal evaluations are a wonderful way to progress, motivate, and encourage yourself when others dis you but it also helps to examine what is important to you and proceed forward with it.

Change is a necessity that needs to happen and occur to all of us all through out our life. We were never meant to be individuals who never change, failures to seek change, and failures that quit learning.

For when we do - we will surely become accustomed in the stationery life of who we are internally and we stall ourselves from the inside out. We become the problem creators and never problem solvers. For we fail to admit our own mistakes or have a lack of knowledge and we can never effectively solve another's problems because we keep creating our own and we dare question - WHY?

What we think or feel internally in the silence of our minds will become our actions upon others. Our interpretations and perceptions of the world will end up becoming recluse. Because we will spend more time climbing the mountains of our assumptions that we end up taking our self and those in our life for granted. We will end up pushing others from us because we stubbornly and selfishly feel and think that we know best and are experts but sometimes, we truly are not. The only person we hurt is self and those that do believe in us and support us the most. How unfair and immature is that behavior? Who do you think that has ever really benefited? No one.

We end up using all of our emotional, logical, rational intuitions and keep creating our own unhealthy thoughts by assuming with out knowing the proof or facts. Then we end up acting up on these mere assumptions that destroy our personal lives and the lives of others around us. Then we convince our self that we have nothing more to appreciate because we took it all for granted when we did have it - by wasting what healthy we do have inside that we fail to give regards too. We sabotage and provoke unhealthiness in our self because we assume. Assumption does lead to a life that is taken for granted and no respect to be found.

As a person who has experienced the high price and unhealthy medical repercussions produced by assumptions, let me tell you to learn what you can and must to help yourself.

Now that you know these facts do occur in every human being out there and the cause and effect of assumptions and taking life for granted; apply your thoughts and emotions more wisely in the actions you do. Do not be afraid to ask questions of your self first - before you seek to find the answers in others. Seek out the knowledge you need to learn to be the person you want to be and increase the quality of life you want. Seek out the resources that we do have to educate self to increase our quality of life and not deprive or take it for granted anymore.

I feel fortunate that I learned these facts of assumptions and about not taking life for granted anymore.
For many of my wasted emotions, thoughts, and self-dialogues have stopped now. The damage from these unhealthy behaviors have stopped inside as well. The symptoms of panic attacks, nervousness, anxiety, depressions and instability of emotional roller coasting has ceased to exist in me.

In learning facts about emotions - while applying the new knowledge I am still learning - I still make mistakes. I will never be a perfect person. That is not my goal. My goal is to learn and share the elementary education that many of us were never taught and it was never the curriculum of many parental styles nor was it is a part of our educational systems.

For at the core of each of us is a living, breathing, and communicating individual inside their own silent thoughts and internal mind. What we do in this activeness of our self that makes us human, unknown to others around us, is a blessing and curse depending on how we use these valuable resources we have. If you think the worst - you create the worst. If you think the best - you can create the best.

To assume is to create problems by taking life for granted and that train wreck will never climb a mountain because it only continues to grow. To stop assuming is to solve problems that allows you to enjoy the peaceful and serenity of the beauty of a valley or to climb upon a problematic mountain to appreciate its view when you finalized a problem to exist.

We are going to make mistakes. We are going to stay imperfect. We are human beings. That's our nature.
But how well we admit our own issues, deficiencies, and imperfections and work to change to better our self by learning and then applying this new knowledge in our life will increase our quality and value on the life we have or we can choose to regress, oppress and depress our selves.

I do not know about others but I have lived and survived enough survivals, traumas, circumstances beyond my control, and now it's time to learn to stop all the unhealthiness I did and keep working to create healthier ways and view and perceptions for myself. For I deserve to know what I never knew or gave thought too before and if I can help myself - then I know that I will be healthier equipped and ready to assist others who want to get over their mountain and just do not know how. I will be able to celebrate with more on top of the mountain of problem that ended because I will know how to help in effective skills and not unhealthy intuitions anymore! A win-win for self. A win-win of team sharing too.

Share. Grow. Learn. Move forward. Appreciate the journey! Isn't that all any of us could hope for in life anyways?

Assume: To take for granted; suppose, accept without proof, postulate; posit, take to be the case or to be true; accept without verification or proof - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/assume

Take for granted - to assume without checking - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/takes+it+for+granted

If you do not ask questions to get the answers you need to solve a problem - how do you expect the problem to end?

If you do not have courage to tell others how you feel or what your contributing thoughts are - then how you do expect them to know what you are going through internally?

If you do want to live in assumptions without facts, then why you do complain when your assumptions become your personal choice to stay in a life that you take for granted anyways?

If you do not want to live in assumptions anymore here are some tips to quit doing it.

Ask questions to self and evaluate your life with facts only - not judging, biased or prior judgments of old information you formerly used. Tell others how you feel. Use patience to wait until the proof comes or facts arrive of a situation. Do not ponder no longer on assuming anything.

If it has not happened - do not fret on it. What are the odds that it will happen anyways? If it occurs tomorrow, prepare today and let the rest be. If it has happened in the past and the problem can not be solved, move forward. The past will call with unhealthiness as long as you keep answering something that has nothing new to say.

You can never build a new house on a foundation of sticks in a geographically weather area prone to tornadoes and hurricanes without using safe codes and new skills or new laws that will provide a safe structure to be be built in areas as these. But if a natural disaster does occur, you can always rebuild  using safer, newer, and more up to date information than previously choices given; if you choose too.
The same is fact about life.

What once maybe not known - can be learned. What once was broken - can be rebuilt with new and more up-to-date information with skills and tools to help a person.

Ignorance may sound blissful but when a tornado or hurricane arises in a person's life - it is there that you will find and know how ignorance was never really blissful.

Ignorance was a state of mind that we convinced our self to believe in so we would think we are OK as we are so we can escape our own abilities to keep learning, keep growing, keep moving forward to be the example we want to be for our self but to others as well.

Be imperfect but not ignorantly stupid. Be brave but not prideful. Share without expecting anything in return. Be humble with humility when you do wrong and make mistakes and you will. But never quit expecting as much change in your self as you demand of others. For what you do will not affect you but anyone and every one that knows you too. You deserve to live an assumption free life and to never take it for granted. Once you learn how to do it; then you can share this valuable gift with others who struggle too.

For the values of a life fulfilled within is more beneficial, healthier, and happier than anything of this world can provide to us financially or material possessions give to us. Materials and money will rise and fall in time - but the deposits of memories is truly where the real gold mines exist in each individual.

So get out of your assumptions. Go be living proof that happy memories can be created and quality of life can be increased and you will be the example of how to do it. You owe it to yourself and those in your life who do not take you for granted. Go treasure your life and those in it and create happy memories! Get out of your assumptions and start living again!

Could Religion be Simple?

Religion is a topic that every individual has a self-formed opinion on based upon the experiences of their life. Their experiences will teach them that religion is a positive asset in a person's life or it is negative, hurtful, harmful and even destruction weapons to be used against self or others.

Could Religion be Simple? I do believe if facts were told - many contemplate this personally deep question - at least once in their life. If a person has never thought about religion, then perhaps, it is your individual experiences that left you void of the subject matter or merely the unforgotten memories from childhood that can not be recalled or have intentionally been forgotten.

Personally, I do believe that Religion or spirituality or individual beliefs can be established and personally valued to asset a person's life. That one can be a good person without religious affiliation or verbal announcing of their spiritual beliefs.

For the actions of a person's life is the only facts of their real character and humanity. Not the words that one speaks but the service one gives to be respectful of self and to others.

Having a maturity to walk away or let difficult people be who will not help them self but do not seek harm to them is where maturity assists every conflicted matter in a person's life. Seek to produce more happiness in your life and share it with others. Give if you have to help others - not with money - but memory creations. A memorable gift of a lifetime that you can give them to take through life long after a moment has passed. But to each their own religious or spiritual identity and how they embark upon it; as long as they are not hurting others - isn't that all that matters anyways? To help and not hurt; when possible.

I have been incredibly busy this past week living life outside my blog, off my computer, outside of my own therapy daily devotions and spreading my actions of these learned skills.

To create happy memories. To be productive again. To assist and help others that need it locally. Sometimes, it is frustrating to me that life doesn't offer a 36 hour day or a 48 day so I get my time in for others and cater to myself as I need too.

But it all works out in the end - doesn't it? Or appears too. What may first seem as if our life will end because of sudden or severe change that we can not control - may actually be the best place or presence to happen to us.

Just as the globe rotates every day and Mother Nature churns the Four Seasons to her discretion of control; so does human life.

Where we begin in life from conception will not always be where we end up. Geographically, economically or professionally. We perhaps, could view life in a broader horizon for our self and our lives in the directions we take if we think of our self as in orbit too.

The sun and solar system faithfully and loyally do their destined paths of purpose every day. Human beings are not much different. For some, it can be more complex than others when financially strapped for comfort luxuries or if medical conditions give limitations or demands - but personal motivation or inspirations to live - can never be really taken; unless a person submits their consent to it. To accept the dismal or to not know how to change focus or increasing views to create the life they want.

History is loaded with many individuals who stood up against all oppressions and majority's cruel judgment of their individual missions and life purpose.

Martin Luther King, Jr. and Elvis Presley are truly two of my favorite icons of the past to reflect upon in their life mission that still give motivation to my own purposes today. Edgar Allan Poe would be another individual that helps fuel my compassion and respect for myself and extend to share with others.

For all these individuals had their own oppressions, religious motivations and perhaps, hypocrisy of judgments against them and someone like Edgar Allan Poe who spoke a written dialogue of the darkness about life is usually interpreted by most as one of the most depressed and possible mentally ill literate individuals of his time.

The universal language of Edgar Allan Poe, Martin Luther King, Jr. and Elvis Presley represent diversity, understanding of cultures that were the same as them - but also those who were different as they.

They all succumbed to death by the misunderstandings of others. Kurt Cobain and John Lennon both came to death to early because of the misunderstandings of others and the pressures of their own life.
To have messages of importance that are so strong within them - that they had to share - that brought on their controversy in this life; must have been pretty powerful internal movement going on in them.

For their lives, though cut short prematurely; have lasted through many decades and generations after them leaving behind a legacy that speaks a humanity and morality brought forth in their music, lyrics, written print and verbal messages that these names would probably be a topic to engage in now or debate against.

These were special and beautiful people that stayed true to self as their own gift and grew their gifts to touch the lives of others.

Many will find fault or speak unjustly against the above mentioned and to you - all I will say it is your loss of life your failures to know their works, their personal missions, and their individual progressions of contributions that increased our humanity and not hurt it. It will be your loss to understand the oppressions they faced in their day that still plaque many individuals today.

Centuries and generations later the messages these individuals gave rang as factually truthful today for individual freedom to be one's self. To be accepted by self and others. To be understood in self and by others. To share a gift or talent of identity with others who will understand the gift of their talents of their messages and purposes. They created more love than hatred. They gave more of self-sacrifice than the mission to seek understanding from others first. Articulate beautiful people who have stood the test of time in their compassionate goal to grow humanity and contribute back from the individual motivation they had.

Perhaps, each person had their own religious or spiritual beliefs - perhaps, they did not. But they all had humanity in common in each of them.

Humanity may appear as a myth or a fantasy dream that can never be accomplished or achieved for many.

It appears to be easier to wallow in the oppressions, accept the depressions and to feel powerless to personal change than to open the door of personal motivation that these individuals did.

For sometimes, the price one has to pay to be their self is a life cut short. It is not fair to anyone -- but the value that it does add to one's own life because they never failed their self - to be as they wish; will make every day of life a valuable asset; no matter how many days that a person lives. The difference between daily fulfillment and living a life with no fulfillment or purpose. These historical individuals had daily fulfillment and personal goals of purpose to give and share.

Religion or spirituality can be simple. Self-defined. Self-individualized. Self-motivated. Self-taught. Self-accepted.

A Person I Used to Know hated religion and politics. The twinge of tension would go up the spine when either of these topics would be mentioned. The forehead would produce wrinkles from an irritated and frustrated stance about these topics that produced more hurt, pain, and a false judgment than any two topics out there that this person experienced and witnessed.

This person would avoid all conversations or at least try to stay away from anyone who would forcefully speak that their candidate was the supreme leader or that their religion was the right religion. Took this person along time to cast off all prior affiliations of the nature and nurture that childhood taught her about these topics to form her own adult opinions, beliefs, and standards of what she wanted her religion, politics and individual spirituality to be as assets in her life. This person was me.

It was not until I took a personal stand and created my own individual standards of what I believed, what I did not believe, what I liked, what I disliked, what I could change and what I could not change about religion, politics, and my own spirituality that I found my own personal value and daily motivation for me. An endless faith to never give up on myself and what I believe. To assist others who wanted and needed a helping hand to motivate their self and to pick their own self up to keep their own feet moving forward. I could lift them up but I could not force nor carrying them forward - no more than any one could move me forward if I were not willing to move my own two feet forward.

As a skeptic of many things in my life experiences that taught me of facts are different than truth - that not everything is a simple right or simple wrong - that sometimes two people can be actually truthful or factual over the same topic; it can be controversial and confusing. But when a person defines their own self by their experiences and forever keeps evolving to change to better their self; regardless of circumstances, events or trauma; life will always improve. It does not matter how dismal something first may appear - time will help all to get better. To resolve major problems. To contribute assets in one's life the longer life goes on - once a person accepts, admits, appreciates, and defines every thing about their life and stays motivated to keep moving forward.

For the past few Sundays, I have entertained myself in Elvis' Gospel music. Something about his vocals, arrangement of classical Gospel hymns helps to keep my own fuels and fires burning to live this life - day after day, in accepting the problematic challenges that are waiting to be solved but also to live.

Not to see only the problems but to see every second as an opportunity to create my own happiness but the happiness to share with others. It is very easy to become an adult that gets so prone to taking care of others that we forget to humor, tickle, enlighten, and lift our self up too. This music and this ritual works for me. To each their own defining of what works for their happiness, refueling and creation of motivations and individual happiness.

Religion, politics, and every controversial topic is as an individual problem waiting to be solved in a person's life. What you dislike about anything that you dislike; you can always seek to change it. Whether religion or politics are important to you or not - they are factual entities of every civilization and in society. That's a fact that we all know and share and form our own opinions of. But what might be your disgust could very well be the humanity of tool that another uses to help others. So be careful of discussing things that you really are not educated about or experienced personally. For everything that you automatically or defensively give judgment too could be the very essentials of assets you are missing out in your own life.

Have a wonderful week and give consideration to learning something new about someone you never knew before. Listen to others without a motivation to reply but to hear their words, messages or use your vision to see the actions of their life. Many times in life we spend so much time to speak to be heard that we fail to listen. Loss occurs every day in life to every one. But if you are responsible for your own loss creations - can you really blame anything else at all? Have a pondering thoughtful week and do something different that motivates you where you have never gone before or to do what you have not tried before.

Do you hate Rules or Laws?

Rules and law are two words that will never go away in life. As youth, rules are what your parents, caregivers, caretakers, teachers, principals, and every adult figure in your life will give you to follow. Laws are a common sharing that we must follow as adults. So in a person's life - they start off with rules and if they live long enough their rules will then become laws that are legal rules that we all must follow.

Children, teenagers, and adolescents can have a difficult time listening and understanding the rules that apply in their life. The consequences or discipline that occurs because the rules are or have been broken can be very hard for an adolescent to understand why their actions were wrong because they choose to break a rule.

The law can be just as confusing to adults and their complaints are just as long, childish, and sometimes, even immature or selfish - when they break the law too. For adults who exemplified a negativity toward the laws to the youth in their immediate life will create disrespectful, controversial and noncompliance to rules and the laws. It disrespecting or cursing the laws - we create controversy for our youth and that can be very confusing and damaging to them when we tell them not to do something but yet, we do it as adults.

It would be like a teacher telling you not to drink out of a toilet - but the teachers do it - so the youth do it. They do what they witness and not what they hear. They figure if it does not hurt, harm or create danger to you then they will do it too. See how that works.

When an adult breaks the laws with excessive speeding tickets and constantly pays a fine or ends up in court while verbally grumbling, complaining or cursing the law because they got the ticket with an adolescent who hears these consequences and actions of breaking the law - they will interpret the rules and laws as is not the individual at fault who commits the crimes - but it is the laws fault for catching them.

The same about rules. If you set guidelines in your home for children and teenagers and guests to follow and you do not do follow these same rules - they will take notice. They will watch you. They will sit silently not calling out your errors - until they break a rule and then the verbal war games begin.

You can argue all day long with a child or a youth about their will to speak what they have to say to justify what they do - but if you do not control the situation with boundaries that you live by of what you tell them then you will lose the battle.

You then become responsible for giving them examples of how to break rules and laws. Then you get angry at the youth for breaking a rule that you do too. Increases the Complaints. Curses. Getting angry. Getting irritated. Getting frustrated. Blaming. Pardon from punishment or discipline is enacted. Excuses are made. No consequences will be set that will teach them because you gave them a loophole that got created by your verbal disputing that the youth learn nothing about rules or the law because you broke them too. To solve the problem of rules or law breaking; one must uphold the words they speak by the actions they do. If you do act as a teacher in your actions to the youth - then you will not be effective in solving your parental problems with the youth in your home either.

A Person I Used to Know hated the law and was scared of the laws but would do anything to follow the rules of the immediate adults in her life. But she hated anyone outside of her immediate life - who would tried to tell her what the laws were and why laws were safe and why laws existed. For this person was a child abuse victim and a child abuse survivor. Without maturity, effective skills and a trusting adult to talk too - she felt like she was living on a solo island of hypocrisy all around her where people did not value truth, trust, facts or honesty.

The rules she was taught as a child at home was to respect others. But then you would curse the legal laws for they would punish criminals who broke laws and treat people badly. The controversy inside this person was difficult and damaging to endure. For she was being told one thing at home about rules and laws - but when she was out in the world - she saw their ways that seemed more right- but it was still imperfect and nothing of what she endured at home. It was confusing.

For her parents and family members were criminals. They had rules to follow in their family and at home but some of these rules and family ways of accepted life did break the legal laws. It was difficult, scary and hard for this person to trust anyone to tell them the facts of this controversial lifestyle she lived in. She was a child and then she became a teenager.  What could she do? What would she do? What were here options of right and wrong - rules and laws and how would her answers be solved? This person used to be me.

I learned through my experiences to appreciate the law and value the healthy and safe rules we have that does exist in society - even if they are imperfect - they were still healthier and safer than the surviving circumstances that I endured with my family of abusers. The abusers stopped hurting me because of these laws.

I learned how to tell on my criminal who served time in jail - for the laws he broke against me. I could not get justice for the other abusers who committed crimes against me in my life - but the main criminal who hurt me as a child and other children before me did go to jail. This helped to keep him from hurting other children and from ever hurting me again. It was not a perfect legal system and it is not now. But rules and laws should help keep a person safe and never harm them.

Rules and laws are facts of human life. Upon every continent around this globe, some one is complaining every second of every day - how this rule does not make sense or is not fair - or that law or legal boundaries is not fair.

The only way to survive the rules and laws that you do not like is to ask your self these things to determine what rules and laws are worth breaking in their consequences and which ones are not when you face a choice to follow a rule or law or break them. Think before you act.

The reason I state this as such is because there are criminals or authority figures who are law breakers every single day and their consequences of committing a crime have not occurred yet in their punishment but it will come. For all bad deeds will never go unpunished.

Take the confusions out of rules and laws. Listen to the rule and ask for it to be written on paper to help you better understand what you can and can not do. Research laws to find out the origin and where it came from and why it is there to better understand it - if you choose to follow it or not. Review the consequences of that crime if you choose to do it - before you do it - so you will know the punishment you will receive if you get caught.

Rules and laws should protect you from harm. Rules and laws should prevent you from getting hurt and keeping your home safe, clean, orderly and functional - so every one can enjoy where they live.  The rules and laws in this world are to protect and keep every one safe too.

Rules and laws help to manage financial budgets and help a person to manage their money wisely so they can pay the bills they can not afford and prevent reckless spending that leads to failures that come from not controlling money.

Rules and laws prevent homes, apartments, and buildings from getting destroyed by preventing fires, water pipe damages and everything else that could damage a place where some one lives or where they work. Rules and laws keep people safe.

Rules and laws keep you safe. Rules and laws keep every one else safe. Rules and laws keep people safe.

Rules and laws help our society, our jobs, and even our homes. Unless a person is a criminal who is hurting you by controlling you with unhealthy rules and unlawful laws that does produce harm upon you sexually, mentally, emotionally or neglectfully -  then it is time to tell some one that you know who does uphold the rules and laws and believes in them so they can help you and to help others to keep them from getting hurt or harmed by the criminal who is harming you.

Life is never be fair nor will rules and laws always be equally and fair either. But many of the ideas, thoughts, and emotions we do have about law and rules come from our youthful days before we become a legal age adult and start learning our own ideas, values and beliefs from the experiences we will control after we achieve legal age adulthood to control our destiny of beliefs and acceptances of the consequences to be endured when choosing to break a law or following it.

The world is created and operates every day by imperfect people. Some imperfect people are advanced in education, financially secure and appear to be better off - than we are - but that is not factual and appearances are deceiving.

But when you view the world as created by imperfect people - no matter who they are - you gain better understanding without feeling intimidated - by anyone who makes a rule, breaks a rule or makes a law or enforces the law.

But in everything about life there is safe limits that must be followed or people get hurt and will die if rules and laws are not followed. Accidents and loss of human life can be prevented by following rules and laws.
When a rule or law is broken then consequences will occur to keep you safe and to keep others safe. Consequences are actions that occur when a person exceeds the limits of healthy, smart, and wise choices. When a person does not think in healthy, smart or a wise way before they act - then rules and laws will get broken. To keep people safe - we must have rules and we must have laws.

The free dictionary - www.freedictionary.com helps give the facts of things about rules and law.

Governing power or its possession or use; authority
An authoritative, prescribed direction for conduct, especially one of the regulations governing procedure in a legislative body or a regulation observed by the players in a game, sport, or contest.
A usual, customary, or generalized course of action or behavior
A standard method or procedure for solving a class of problems
a rule or principle that provides guidance to appropriate behavior

A rule of conduct or procedure established by custom, agreement, or authority.
A way of life
A general principle or rule that is assumed or that has been proven to hold between expressions.
Take the law into one's own hands, to administer justice as one sees fit without recourse to legal processes.

Think of rules and laws as problem solvers or as math. Math exists to help us find a fact or a truthful answer we seek to solve the number problem we have with numbers.

Rules and laws exist to prevent, stop, and help control people problems. Without rules and laws; every one would be a criminal, law breaker and hurt other people because we would not have learned or know better on how to conduct our self and how to act. So we would have nothing in our lives. We would not be able to accomplish anything in our life. We could not live in a safe world shared by all - without rules and laws.

The good hopeful thing about rules and laws is that when you are an adult - then you will be able to change the rules and laws of your life. You will be able to create your own rules of how you live your life in your home. Laws that you do not like or disagree with can be changed - if you are willing to work to change them.

The government and political processes here in American does give American citizens the legal right to pursue changing laws by following established rules and laws in changing them. Many laws and rules are outdated that do not apply anymore but we can change them if we want too. It will take work - but it can happen - if you feel strongly enough about a law that does not suit your life.

Criminals are very good manipulators who can verbally and actively deceive many people. They will use the laws and the rules to hurt other people, harm people and destroy many lives in their choice to break laws and rules. To break a legal law is to commit a crime.

It does not matter what that law is or how stupid or wrong it is to you - if it is against the law - and you choose to do it - you will accept the consequences of your actions when you get caught.

If you get angry, mad, hurt or upset because you broke a rule or a law - think about this - before you impulsively act upon your emotions.

Did you willfully choose to participate in your actions that broke a law or a rule? Do you know that ignorance or not knowing will not save you from your consequences if you do something that breaks a law and you get caught? Did you know that what you were doing was a crime or breaking the rule & if so, why did you choose to do it? Did you know that when you break a rule or a law that you are not only affecting your self in the consequences you deal with - but you will be affecting others too & how unfair is that to the innocent people who you hurt because you choose to make a legal mistake?

Parents, adults, caregivers, teachers and every authority figure that gives an adolescent or youth a request of rules and laws not to break them does suffer too. When you do choose to break a rule or law.
For they are trying to teach you how to be safe, respectful, caring, and sharing with others by making the rules and laws for you and others to follow. They are imperfect - but you should listen to their rules and laws because it could save your life.

When you do not follow their rules, laws, and what they try to teach you that will help you - then it can hurt their feelings, make them angry, create financial expenses upon them that they can not pay for by the actions you choose to break a law. If your actions destroys material possessions, homes or safety to others - it will produce all kinds of emotions upon them too.

Sometimes, laws and rules can be more forgiving to you - but when you constantly repeat the same mistakes of breaking a rule or law without changing your actions - then life will be only become harder for you - because you failed to change to follow the rules and laws. Then that fault only belongs on you and no one else. People will help people who make mistakes and change their ways. But if you do not change your ways after a mistake or a law or rule is broken; they might give up to help you anymore.

In a government, legal laws protect and keep every one safe. Those who break these laws and rules are hurting them self and could hurt others so they must have consequences of discipline in their actions to try to help them to learn to change their legal ways to comply with the laws that protect us all.

The money that finances a government here in America is paid for by every single individual in this country that holds a job every day and pay their taxes. Their money collected from taxes finances the judicial system to allow people to go to court to prove if they are guilty or innocent when they break a law. They use collected evidence to prove facts of guilt or innocence when a law is broken. When guilt is proven, depending on the law broken, a person can go to prison or endure huge financial expenses of court costs that must pay for the crime they committed. Depending on the crime - it will be lifelong attached to this criminal's background check that will make life hard for them to get a job, have a home, have a family and they decrease their quality of life by choosing to become a criminal. The law is created to help protect innocent and lawful people so we can all live a safe life.

To curse the laws or rules is to take your freedom, liberties and your right to choose how you live for granted and the people in your life. For rules and laws keep them safe and keep you safe too.

They are not always fair - but they can be changed in your life when the time comes. So if you focus your immediate seconds or minutes on the punishment you are receiving because you broke a rule or law without changing your actions and realizing that you were imperfect and made a mistake that needs to be changed - then you will always find your self in a slump of never learning, never changing and the fault of what you do will become the blame that you do to others because you do not see you have a problem and you failed to fix your mistakes that broke a rule or the law.

Maturity will teach us in the examples of our lives of who we want to be or who we do not want to be. Maturity gives us a strength to admit our faults, accept our responsibilities for these faults and time to change our ways so we will not make the same mistake twice. Maturity helps us to realize that laws and rules are there to help us and not to hurt us.

When we hate the laws or hate the rules we have in our lives - we hate our lives and the lives of others. We disrespect our self by breaking laws and rules and take a chance on hurting others too.

Focus on a rule or the law and how you would like to change it. Focus on the rule or the law as a problem that needs to be solved. Focus on a future solution to solve the problem of rule and law to change it when you are old enough or mature enough so you can.

No one gives you rules or laws because they hate you. They give you rules and laws because they respect you and love you. Do not confuse the two because if you do - it will only be you - who you will be hurting in your life.

Are you Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired?

I am sure those who are honest can snicker out a giggle of the many times in one's life that a person will feel cycled of the: "Being Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired".

I would say, most would agree, this is a statement that is verbally made when a person is exhausted physically or mentally drained or emotionally overloaded by life's circumstances and issues.Usually this can be created by a million different reasons unique to each person who endures the "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" common bond that many of us do share at least once in our lives.

This verbal majority agreement can be provoked by the same old irritating things that occur from others who irritate another individual because they fail to see that a problem exists in their life and they blame you for it if you mention it to them. Sometimes it can cause the same conflicts, arguments or losing debates with no resolve in sight.

Family, friends, children, teenagers, and spouses are usually the triggering individuals that provoke a "Sick and Tired of Being Sick & Tired" cycling of actions. They will keep doing the same repeated mistakes or errors. They believe or argue that you are the source of their problems. That you are the only one complaining and yet they feel no need or contributions to be made by them to solve a problem. So they do not change and neither will the problem get solved either. So usually in family units, this cycling behaviors continues where one person sees room for improvement or positive change and others do not.

It also could be another problem that could exist that you can not solve alone or perhaps, the answer has not came as fast and with effectiveness as a person wants or needs in their life too.

In rural areas, the lingo of "Being Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" is a common lifestyle occurrence for many I have met and spoken with through the years. The experiences of my life that very well have aged me more than my biological age would state otherwise - surely tells me this common phrase is geographically every where too. But in the rural areas, it's a first spoken phrase for a bad or irritating stressful day.

Everything from high debt increasing payments to revenue decreasing in their income that makes financial matters difficult to discuss, manage and control in a healthy budget. Family problems, repairs they can not afford to fix with surprising breakdowns, unhappy relationships, difficult children or teenagers who do not listen or organize their material possessions or even being right down rude when others offer advice to them in trying to help guide them.
The topic that probably gets the same ineffective disgruntle going of "Tired of Being Sick & Tired " is the disrespectful or the personal stance agony of conversation differences about politics and religions. I have yet to hear two people to try to civilly discuss these matters especially if they are in opposition of who is right and why another is wrong.

Now if you have a legit medical condition that has been accurately diagnosed and the patient feels assured and accepting of this pronounced condition - it can be even harder to juggle that feeling, unhealthiness, lifestyle or chaos that "Being Sick & Tired of Sick & Tired" usually comes with the diagnosis, trial and errors of failed treatments or medications, stigmas, biased, rude, cruel, mean and uneducated remarks or comments that can come with a new diagnosis. Finding proper support, effective treatments, and educating others can be very hard to do for a patient especially if their health limits, restricts or cycles them daily with difficult symptoms of their conditions.

Exhaustion. Exhausting. Exhausted.

These three words are the primary contributors to the: "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" cycling action that occurs when a person feels like there is no resolve or end in sight. Then there is no effectiveness to solve a problem that they need help with then the cycle continues.

Thanks to the www.freedictionary.com - we can know what the facts of exhaustion are and what exhaustion can do.

By broadening one's definitions of the words or cycling phrases we use as the "Tired of Being Sick & Tired" - we can learn new views on how to deal with the problems that seem to never end.

* Extreme tiredness; fatigue
* The condition of being used up; consumption
* The act of exhausting or the state of being exhausted
* The state of being exhausted
* The act or process of exhausting

* To drain of resources or properties; deplete
* To use up completely
* To draw out the contents of; drain
* To let out or draw off
* An apparatus for drawing out noxious air or waste material by means of a partial vacuum

Many motors have an apparatus that is called the exhaust for drawing out noxious air or waste material by means of a partial vacuum. Taking out the unclean, dangerous or toxic air to leave clean air behind.
Think of the exhaust in a vehicle. It works so the inside of the transportation does not suffocate or poison the passengers from gasoline or diesel fueled motors. An exhaust fan in the bathroom or kitchen will pull out the steam, mists, and circulate air so that mold and mildew will not build up inside a dwelling.

The same can be said of human beings. When we get "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" - we need an apparatus awareness to help us to release our noxious air or waste inside so it does not deplete our healthy resources and internal stability too.

For some, they are very skillful to know when their battles are worth to pursue and when it is not an issue for them - so they go on and may never endure the cycling action of dealing with a difficult person and unresolved situations or events. For others, we may have to learn new skills or new healthier ways to perceive life and how we impulsively react. When exhausted or stressed a person can be more vulnerable or become easily agitated or conflicted inside that it can cause impulsiveness that only prevents resolution and increases controversies. Problems can not be solved or handled this way especially when dealing with difficult people who fail to listen to what you have to save too.

For others, it can drain their physical, mental, emotional, logical and rational healthy reasoning to problem solved. For the person is under extreme stress or tired of speaking and never being heard that it can take an inner toll on  their health, create financial recklessness, immature behaviors, or verbal hurtful words that a person does mean but they say it anyways - hence impulsive reactions that occur that one problem even worse. You can not avoid problems. No one can. To create a temporary escape that is not a healthy solution will only add to the problems of woe.

When our inner consumptions of our resources are spent in time arguing, debating and controversy over our right or wrong personal takes of our individual views then we lose the ability to see past the immediate pain or frustrations we feel. We can not effectively find a compromise or tolerable solution. With some people, I do believe they are too difficult and they will deny problems and refuse to change. When this occurs, then you must seek the change you need for your own healthiness and well-being.

A Person I Used to Know constantly lived in a professional and personal unhealthy cycling of this "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" lifestyle. It was a constant problem with the same immature, dominant, unhealthy, unwise, disrespectful and argumentative people.

Some were family. Some were friends. Some were associates and even supervisors and managers who were bosses. This person could tolerate or submissively be compromising to them to force the peace but the internal damage felt was worse than trying to speak how I felt too.

For if a person wants you to listen respectfully to them; they should give you the same respectfulness to you, especially in matters to solve problems.  But not many view the world as a "You could be right & I might be wrong OR or we both could be right OR we could be wrong." This person did and tried to extend it to others but it was not always so and it can be difficult to do it.

But it took this person in losing and gaining a lot from learning in her experiences through personal and professional adult growth development - but she finally learned for herself what she needed to stabilize her self, increase her own peace and medical stability - but it took skills and new learning to achieve it.

She finally learned how to speak up for her self. She learned to compromise - where she could when it did not produce harm to her or others. She learned to speak up for herself to keep from increasing adverse medical symptoms or damage to her health. She learned that she had to use her voice and be extended the courtesy as she extended to others for her own  well-being and to increase and achieve her peace of mind & sanity.

She learned and still is learning to let many things roll off of her back and now chooses her battles wisely and humanely by speaking what she feels needs to be said and done to correct problems. By learning how to refocus and change what she could, accept what she could not but never to stop living her life to gain more experiences and knowledge.

For her focus and ideas or anything she shares is with a "Take it or Leave it approach" to problem solving now. It's not a personal attack to her when she can not win every time a problem is solved a different way than what she wanted. She does not always get emotionally caught up in being now if she has to wait for a problem to be solved. The impulsiveness she used to do to escape the same old problems that never ceased to end with difficult people stopped too.  She now does not seek approval from others of what she needs in her self. For she is building new information upon old processes. She finally learned to value and respect her self by being able to realize that we all are imperfect and she is too. Maturity can help a person a whole lot to solve the "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired." This person used to be me and I am still learning maturity and skillful lessons and new knowledge to help me.

Many of the emotional impulses and phrases or statements that we use frequently to describe our lives were passed down from one heritage to another or culture peer involvement. For some these experiences can help us but for others; it can hurt and do lifetime damage. Because the statements, opinions or beliefs we have that are truly not our own but only borrowed information because old, out-dated, and will prove to be fruitless and not beneficial to us.

How many prisoners sit in jail because their parents or a sibling or a family member was in jail prior to them? How many have dropped out of high school because their parents did? What about teen pregnancy? How many teen mothers today were born to teen mothers? How many adult addicts have offspring that possess the same addictions as their parents did?

Heritage, history, social cultures, family cultures, lifestyle comfort, geography, economics, finances, pregnancy, occupational choices, college attendance at specific colleges, the value of education, religion, and politics are only some of the issues that get carried from Generation A to Generation B.

When these vicious exhausting systems of problems keep increasing down the line - the "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" - has and will continue to infect society with out individuals taking responsibility and creating effective changes to prevent social tragedies and individual morale deprivations continue to decline in society.

We do have to pick and choose our battles wisely. Is the problem we seek to solve worth enacting our pride so we can hurt those we love the most? Is there room for compromise - so all involved in the problem solving - can assist as active participates in the resolution process? Are you in immediate danger, harm or a involved with a criminal in a relationship? Depending on why you are "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" - will affect what you must do or can do to assist in the problem solving. But if you request a change from a difficult person that they are not willing to compromise then perhaps, it is you that must change to solve the problem.

Many will push their daily time until they have no minutes or seconds for their own well-being. When you feel your self becoming rattled from the same old processes that you have not found an effective solution for - step back from the situation. Ask yourself does this absolutely have to be solved now? Is it worth it to be exhausted or fatigued and crying over again or even screaming and yelling with out resolve? Ask your self if a difficult person cares enough for you to respect you enough to help you compromise and create an effective resolution for all involved or will they only debate the problem so they can keep from solving it? Do you feel respected by others when you must problem solve? You should. If you do not, seek a different change or perspective on a problem and then come back to it when you have learned a better way to solve it.

If we start off difficult  problem solving topics by asking questions then we can increase participation by engaging all parties involved into the conversation to not only add their input but listen to yours as well.

In asking others questions before we give them our requests to solve a problem then we give them and our self a healthier foundation of focus by asking questions that will contribution to a problem solved by compromising in an engaging conversation versus the old debates or arguments that did nothing but create personal conflict.

By constantly rambling on the same old situation with no end in sight for solution - the process continues.

But when we ask questions of self and others when facing problematic situations - then we can not only be heard but hear what they say too. A win-win for all. Plus the exhaustion list of Being Sick & Tired will not come anymore over the same issue and no more complaining about the problem but the engaging conversation of inquiries can be achieved to finally solve it.

It is never fun nor entertaining when a person is so exhausted by problems - that they can not help them self much less help anyone else. But if we all find our rooms to breath from within to let our vicious churning processes in a healthy and mature manner - then we become enlightened to what we can effectively do to solve our repeated problems but also are able to get others in on the process to help us when we need it most too. Equal respect. Equal problem solving. Team effort.

Changing one's view does not mean that a person will lose their self; it only means that the view they will now be able to see and focus upon will be the beautiful, serene and peacefulness they hoped to achieve and finally to lay at rest that: "Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired" feeling.

Do You Feel Like You Live in a Vacuum?

Vacuum is an interesting word. How many know the facts of vacuum? How many describe their life or how they feel by using this word vacuum?  How many more wish they could break the cycle and constant repeat of their life because of the vacuum one feels confined too?

A feeling of a vacuum can occur for many reasons. Health issues probably create a life of vacuum feeling more than anything else endured because medical symptoms can and will change a person's life. Addictions can make a person feel trapped in a vacuum that they can not break. Circumstances, events and trauma can also produce a vacuum feeling.

If a person is not happy with their life circumstances or the consequences that occurred beyond a person's control then vacuum is a very insightful and accurate word to use to describe how a person feels or thinks about their life. But what can be done to stop the vacuum?

In knowing what a vacuum is or does in a person's life - most of us - will only use old data of information from our direct experiences we endured to form our facts or truths about associations of word and descriptions we give.

How can a person effectively break out of a vacuum when they are only using old information or old techniques to correct a problem but they do not change the way they associate their words, their meanings and the descriptions they use? They keep using old vocabulary words with the same old meanings to solve a problem based upon old information.

A Person I Used to Know felt like a living vacuum. The internal processing was like a broken record that would skip on the same songs, same situations, same conflicts, same problems, same unresolved issues, same geography concepts, same 5 senses of processing, same damaging thoughts and emotions within.

The mental, physical, emotional, and medical toll that it was taking on this person was horrific, exhausting, tumbledown, and quickly spiraled this person's life in a downward spiral that seemed to have no end in sight except the trail of devastation that kept repeating itself in mistakes, hard lessons, and experiences that were chosen but were happening just the same. An internal vacuum that would not end.

To stop this vicious internal vacuum of damage - done to this individual's core and life - this person realized through skillful learning and research - that perhaps, the contributions and examinations of her old life were still factors and facts that escalated the vacuum process within.

To break this vacuum would take a new perspective of learning facts and not merely relying on her own intuition and old knowledge anymore. But she needed new knowledge and new insightfulness of facts to help her break out of her own vacuum state of mind, emotions, thoughts and to live her life again by building new information and not relying on her old information anymore. This person was me. This is what I am doing and have done now and it is working effectively and medically too.

* To clean with or use a vacuum cleaner
* A space relatively empty of matter
* A state of emptiness; a void
* A state of being sealed off from external or environmental influences; isolation.

These are a few dictionary facts about vacuum courtesy of the www.freedictionary.com.

It can be very painful & energy draining & difficult when living & breathing daily in a medically compromised brain & body. It is like being in a vacuum. Sometimes, the only way out of that vacuum is to find a new healthier way of cleaner coping or to use this vacuum in a different way.

State of mind is like geography. People move from one location to another so they can live or survive where they want. They do this to achieve the landscape they want to see or prosper in employment opportunities they wish to gain and many other positive reasons to seek geography of changes.

The state of internal mind, emotions & thoughts can be viewed as its own individual geography too. By  changing or learning how to change personal perceptions of viewing old landscaping of self, life,  issues or medical conditions with circumstances - achievement and gaining is what we want to help us endure life. We can break out of our own vacuum.

Even with complications - an internal healthier change can occur in our self-vacuum processes by inputting new information that will be inserted upon the old information of what we are used to doing and learn a new way to do it instead to break the cycle of vacuum.

Facts can help to increase new healthier perspectives & decrease pains of what was previously felt.

It is not easy to break out of a personal vacuum. But it can happen & is possible. We can never give up in finding what we need to help us to break out of our vacuum. This mini-technique is what I do by using new facts about my old internal information of my life to help myself.

When we seek support from others, many generally want another to solve their problems, ease their symptoms or expect others to find a resolution for them. But most fail to be aware that they have to be a contributor to the process of problem solving for anything to be effective and to become resolved permanently.

Victims, survivors, & individuals who submerge in pity-parties are usually the hardest individuals to convince or give illustration or set examples of how to achieve this for their self.

For the pain, hurt, scars, wounds, & medical unhealthiness produced by circumstances beyond a person's control in their life - has exhausted them, drained them & exhausted them because of the hard journeys they endured to survive their traumatic & horrific ordeals.

I was as stubborn & exhausted as anyone else too. For I participated in my own pity-party, stubbornness, & continued exhaustion of survival - that it did take away from my ability to focus beyond surviving to only living so I could increase my quality of life. It just seemed like more work that I was unwilling to do for myself because I had did so much work just to endure and survive that work or contributing for myself to reap healthier benefits was the hardest obstacle in myself that I had to get over.

For me personally,  it did take new skills and a new healthier perception of facts for me to do this. Ironic how it was my surviving exhaustions of my life - as a victim and a survivor - that gave me my conflicts but it was also in being exhausted and tired of living in a vacuum anymore that I began to learn and break free. Instead of saying - this will not work - I began to say: "What if this could & would work instead?What did I have to lose in trying one more thing?" You know what, it has helped me tremendously to benefit my life and my health.

Maybe you could evaluate the Person You Used to Know in your self too. Have a long examination of an internal talk with your self. Find out if you are more exhausted from living the same old broken processes or if you are too tired to keep living in a vacuum and you want to work to change it now.

We can not control what we endure but we can control how we view or perceive it. For some of us, it takes learning what is perceived as elementary skills to achieve this. There is no shame in changing one's self to be the person you want to be and achieve the quality of life that you want.

The only person that has to understand you - is YOU. Do you understand you? Are you satisfied with you? Are you content with your quality of life? Are you tired of living in a vacuum? Do you want to seek change to get out of your vacuum? Only you can answer this, no one else can. No one else can do the work for you. Only you can.