Do You Have a Friend or Foe with Misery?

A Person I Use to Know could increase sales for a profit very much easier than she could find in herself to sale her creative works of art. Her approach to self and items she created were as gifts. Tangible items her imagination created or things that had an important purpose that she felt guilty if she ever sold something that she thought of.

But if it were a mission of a job to sale, perform and reap profits - it was easy. For she believed in the mission of her work, the products that she believed in and she was simple because she did like a good value for the dollar and sharing the savings of a good deal. She knew what it take to labor, think, and give to productivity by the efforts she and the team play of others she worked with did too. To her, it was not just apart of her self she was giving away with each production or sales increased - but it was a contribution to a whole team that was doing the same.

She never could get over her insecurities, perceptions and thoughts of her own creations to profitably  sustain herself with her creativity or to be boastful that it does take in pride and security to promote sufficient sales to sustain one's self in any business manner. She could never understand why she was such a freebie of her creations and very giving to others.

Internally, she knew the difference of logic and emotions but emotions would always win. Emotions would always stop her from taking money from another, even if they had it to give without burden for services rendered or even if they didn't have it. She believed in what she did, achieved, and attempted that she felt free was more of a public service and her duty than the selfish profits she sought to obtain. The joys she gained in creating her things was a joy she wanted to only give and share which had more value than money did to her.

A very unwise and unhealthy approach indeed to any business or personal missions to seek profits. For profits and revenue can not increase in anything that one seeks to financially obtain without having a mission statement, a moral and lawful code of duty, and even the time it takes to produce, think and draft a new idea for a business; it takes logic.

Emotions have nothing to do with the equation unless you are servicing customers directly but for a person of management it takes an equal balance of both logic and emotional understanding and competency in each to give fulfilling transactions for the customer and the products they purchase from you as well as giving them stable service along with leaving them to depart with an emotional experience in addition to just a financial transaction. That's what makes for good management, business leaders, supervisors or managers or anyone that comes in contact with customers and the public.

She never could learn to apply balance to both nor could she achieve this for herself. For her emotions were her primer and her first coat of productivity that she would stamp on everything she ever done. She is now learning how to capture that stability of emotions and logic and productivity in her own life now - finally. But will she ever reproach personal sales or motivating herself to be in business for herself? Only time will tell. But this person used to be me that I knew.

I share this to enlighten and broaden the ability for others to think out of their own comfort zones as well. It's easier for people to discuss business and objectives at work than it is to admit emotional void or even self issues with emotions and the silent thoughts that we all do.

This is human nature and imperfect art that each of us are. I suppose it has always been like that.

But I have always figured that I would rather be considered a fool for speaking that which perhaps, should not have been spoken than to think of an idea and not contribute. I would rather give way to speculations or verbal assumptions that I am crazy or stupid than ever missing the chance to assist someone who may need my verbal ramblings or word gambling I do. So now to the title at hand to get a person thinking more for self.

Is Misery your friend or your foe? Is Misery healthy or unhealthy to you? Do you view you and Misery as tolerable friends that can respect one another and extend to others without inducing more pain or hurt on either? Or do you and Misery stick together like glue not to let anyone come between you and this dark emotion? Do you guide your Misery to lighter results or do you accept the darkness creations of havoc and let Misery go only when Misery finally wants to leave? Elementary questions I know but I have no shame nor pride when it comes to striking up topics that gets a person thinking for self.

My word of the day was Misery. Misery is a dark word. Misery could describe human life in general and our interactions socially and government operations too. For Misery causes, produces and enables oppressions, depressions, poverty, and darkness to linger and thrive quite possibly as the silent enemy to each life.

Misery visits everyone in life - this is equal emotion we all share.

No amount of smiles, laughter, safe comfort, or luxurious financial wealthy living can stop the emotions, feelings, or thoughts Misery provokes. The hostage of Misery demotes information of human intellect and a silent conscience that empowers the squalor of Misery that can not be stomped upon.

No water to put out the fire of speculation that Misery inflames. No amount of fact to explode or destroy the fireworks of reactive impulsive desire to force complete disintegration of this life changing and death altering thing of individual Misery that blinds the eyes to see reality. The deafening sounds of hopeful living Misery thieves. The Misery shards of metal in the mouth to cut through in the taste of blood. Leaving one to never know such filth to salivate and bubble a boil in the mouth. A smell of misery that burns and stings the face of all who witness Misery.

A contagious silent disease within the core of one that can quickly multiple into a social or family unit or a once loving relationship that has now became a match waiting to be lit of something misinterpreted when spoken because personal interpretation says it can be this or only be that - not an either/or and both. So the battle of Misery wars begins and continues to seek and prove a right, fact or a truth that each individual deserves validations, resolutions or answers too but neither will get out of Misery to resolve for it is easier to stand and fight.

Two sides get formed of who is truth. Who is lie? Who is broken? Who is whole? Who is richer? Who is poorer? Who is healthy? Who is unhealthy? Who is desolate? Who is void? Who is smart? Who is dumb? Who is wise? Who is ignorant? Who accomplished 1 effectively good deed and who destroyed 1 life because of it?

The cycle of words that spew poison leaving only Misery to smile. The venom of vocabulary in the air that torches the oxygen to give life to Misery's breath.

The chilly freeze of hardened human representation that makes a snowman jealous - all because the power to exist and stay bred for Misery was granted by one person and argued or debated by two people.

One person so alone, scared, fearful, anxious, hurting, pained, and scarred with no relief from Misery's hold on to them.

They learned how to use Misery to defend and protect their truth, facts and validate self using Misery. They never could learn to appreciate the rainbows of facts that really has created all humans equal.

For Misery visits all. Misery is the visitor and guest to each of us in life. Misery does not pick and choose to discriminate against. Misery only lives, resides, and stays in duration of time where Misery is allowed too by one individual.

It is just easier to allow Misery to be the dark guardian angel - best friend - lover- mother or father than to admit freedom from Misery can be obtained when learning how to grow away from Misery too.

Misery will stay as long as it is invited, welcomed, nourished in thoughts and emotions to do so. Until one can find a logical, rational or reasoning compromise of Misery's presence, motivations and fueling actions and reactions - Misery wins. Misery demotes. Misery voids individual validation and actively invalidates the life of a person who wears Misery on their face - speaks Misery in their words and lets Misery becomes their actions. Misery is in their tears and beats synonymously with their heart.

No human can ever give, share, care and assist in the life of one who clings to such a slow dying of choice as they do with Misery.

For whatever attempts to heal, revive, thrive in another to counteract Misery - it can not effectively be done nor work - no matter what skills, tools or gifts are given. For Misery must be learned how to conquer within.

Misery's lies are stronger in they - than your helping actions.
Misery's tales of assumptions is greater in them - than the facts of evidence you could show them.
Misery's breathe of life and rapid heart beat feeds the individual as survival.
They feel they need to cling to Misery to protect them versus the safe, unconditional, and loving comfortable life that they could have, work for, and achieve to provided their self too.

Misery seeks to destruct, destroy and really only yearns to be understood. But to understood Misery to defeat its long presence in life - one must learn how and be motivated to do just that.

It is like living in a shell of a human foundation with only 1 door or 1 window but not having both a door and a window to see the world from beneath their skin. Build. One must learn how to build what an individual needs to stop the Misery. Misery will always be a guest in one's life.

Accept. Invite. Appreciate and give thanks to Misery as Misery leaves. For the informational advice Misery gives you will add to your life or take away from it as you consent too or ignorantly go with. 

For when you learn how to build the 1 door or 1 window that you lack or are void from - you increase your options to exit Misery as fast as it came. Because you have allowed yourself to learn more exits for Misery from you and invite more life and brightness in your life because you built a door and a window that you needed that every one else shares to see the world with.

For Misery is only as controlling, manipulative, and as an unhealthy contagion as you perceive it to be.

Mind over Matter wins the war on Misery with peaceful resolution when you learn how to build new on things of old. Misery will be your familiar, uncomfortable friend or your foe - depending on what you learn and what you do about the Misery in your life. No one else can build for you - but you.

"Our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions, and not on our circumstances" (Martha Washington)

Digestion Problems Created by Emotions

I know many who find this blog - because of the title - may be disappointed as you read because the literal topic you first previewed that may have brought you to this topic; is not what you think it to be - but it could help you learn a few things to give you insightfulness and assistance to a healthier core of your self, as it has for me in learning and applying this topic of digestion and emotions.

Scientific and medical research will contribute theories of their facts of how emotions can produce unhealthiness on the digestive tract and internal digestion of food and the secretions to rid the body of waste. Even the study of mental and psychological health give their factual evidence to the conditions of Irritable Bowel Syndrome as being emotional, mental, and psychological in nature to produce bowel or digestion conditions leading to this condition.

For any person who suffers from any medical condition, the best assistance you can do about your diagnosis is to research, learn and gain as much understanding and knowledge as you can. Because even the experts and professionals of these fields can become as Peter Principles or financially motivated to gain profits instead of staying on top of the education and new research in their fields to effectively treat patients.

It can be very confusing to a patient upon any new diagnosis and many will seek second opinions when they feel they are not getting the care they need but very few will go to the core of one's self to understand, WHY, they have a medical condition. What they can do to help them self in a healthier manner with all their medical conditions or a medical diagnosis.

That's why I share this blog. Because of the experiences I have had personally for years seeking effective treatments that would fail or to gain my own comfort in helping myself to learn what a medical condition is I have, how I can protect or even prevent symptoms myself, what I can do to help my brain and body and how to increase a healthier quality of life.

Emotions and thoughts are the primary internal devices that each patient has to control. What you think and what you feel will ultimately feed, fuel and subconsciously tell our bodies or brain what to do that leads to the internal chemical secretions and electrical impulses within. The external reactions or actions is exactly as what we thought or choose to do by our emotions and thoughts.

I can not say that having new skills or healthier tools of thought perception or emotional understanding can solve all problems of medical conditions that could easily be debated as psychological in nature but it sure can not hurt to learn and form your own theory as well. I have researched for decades because of my own medical conditions. This research was to help myself so that I could obtain, achieve and gain the best quality of life that I could.

I have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and though never diagnosed with Irritable Bowel Syndrome, I do have lactose intolerance, from input of others, but I choose to drink milk and eat dairy products anyways. Just because it does taste good and the benefits to me are worth it more than the digestive issues I have. I feel the digestive and bowel issues are minor in comparison to the PTSD, Bipolar and seizure disorders I have been diagnosed with. So with that said. Let me share with you a learning about digestion and emotions that I have found.

I am learning through Dialectal Behavior Therapy focusing primary on the healthier activation of my 5 senses with emotional learning. To gain new information about emotions and learning healthier methods in my own life to increase overall a healthier quality of life by changing the unhealthy core of myself and to grow and increase the healthiest aspects I do have too. This journey has been enlightening, beneficial, motivating, encouraging, immediately rewarding and a continuing process that I do share my progress through this blog.

A Person I Use to Know is primarily about self evaluation pertaining to every aspect of a person's life especially medical factors. For what healthy we maybe in our 20s - we will not be in our 40s or 70s. A Person I Use to Know concept is about evaluations, analyzing and accepting one's self while appreciating the life you live and how you learn from others and your self too.

I use short stories or analogies of my life, experiences, nature and nurture of the surviving and living I have done to gain history of my own contributions to my health and unhealthiness I have done. To grow awareness to others that they too have options, choices and can gain new skills to help apply to their life as well.

Emotions have consistently been a factor of my life that I was ignorant about. It does not shame me nor does it bother me that most will not understand. Because for those who can be factually truthful with self to disregard pride - a person will realize and admit just how ignorant one can be in contributing to the healthiness or unhealthiness of their self too. It is easier in our social culture to talk about the external health of the human body for someone who eats healthy, exercises and take healthy physical care of their self. But the internal health of an individual is a complex and complicated matter. For we are individuals internally with our own experiences, stories, and genetics that makes it hard to say what will be healthy for one person will surely be unhealthy for another. But we each can do more internally to help our self to achieve a healthier state of emotions, thoughts, perceptions, interpretations, and actions and choices we make in life by focusing more on the inner core of health than exterior appearance of health.

The facts of emotions I use come from the dictionary at:  http://www.thefreedictionary.com.

I need facts of emotions. I give no regards to accreditation of dictionaries or websites I use as long as the references of information used can be factually referenced too.

I wanted to know what emotions are in their raw forms and how they can be applied with out theories, without complex evidence debates and without the confusion that sometimes, doctors, therapists, nurses, and all medical or scientific professionals can do by making their claim or supporting their views and the way they treat their patients. I wanted raw facts and diverse views of what emotional words mean to better understand and broaden my own views about emotions.

Peter Principle is a word to know and even apply to every aspect of your life - especially when seeking medical assistance, treatment and receiving diagnosis. For one can become ignorant and incompetent in their chosen field of expertise without continuing their education. Peter Principle is a human nature factor and proven fact though it was created in theory - this word, is very evident to what occurs when a person is promoted in professions and the effects it has on others when education does not increase at the rate of promotion occur. Human lives get effected and none more detrimentally than when a medical professional reaches their level of Peter Principle.

I found that the words associated with Sad or Sadness are as diverse, extreme and as anyone could imagine of the description, actions and results that these words can cause. It is like a huge circle that continually loops or a quilt where one square connects to another and in the end, it keeps stitching back around to add more to the layers of Sad or Sadness that a person feels and ends up reacting too. Without education and healthier skills to know that emotions will and can leave you - as fast as you learn to let them go - one is surely doomed factually by emotions because of lack of proper tools to assist in the emotional process of the human brain and body.

Human nature and nurture leaves us to ponder in silent thoughts and creates internal emotions before it materializes into our actions or impulsive reactions. What we first think or first feel in emotions will become the immediate fuel of a subconscious nature to tell our brain and bodies what to do without our awareness of how to calm the core of our self which for many, like me, we have to be our intervention to the process which does take new knowledge, new information, new perceptions and new perspectives of what we know about life, our self and all we have endured.

We will not be the Person We Use to Know from 20 years so why is it so hard to conceive a new concept that we may have to learn something to help our self directly? Why must we wait upon another to try to help us when there are things we could do to help our self?

What do intestines, digestion, sadness, bile and melancholy all have in common? They all collaborate in vocabulary definitions but they also give a new perspective about the emotions and the digestive tract too.

For dejection does mean sadness of low spirits. Dejection also means the evacuation of the intestinal tract or defecation!

Melancholy -  a constitutional tendency to gloominess or depression - a sad thoughtful state of mind; pensiveness - a gloomy character, thought to be caused by too much black bile - characterized by, causing, or expressing sadness, dejection, etc.

Bile - A bitter, alkaline, brownish-yellow or greenish-yellow fluid that is secreted by the liver, concentrated and stored in the gallbladder, and discharged into the duodenum of the small intestine. It helps in the digestion of fats and the neutralization of acids, such as the hydrochloric acid secreted by the stomach. Bile consists of salts, acids, cholesterol, lipids, pigments, and water.

Black bile - a humor that was once believed to be secreted by the kidneys or spleen and to cause sadness and melancholy - One of the four humors of ancient and medieval physiology, supposed to cause melancholy when present in excess.

Ironic isn't it? I thought so and found it very laughter filled. To think and imagine the notion that the very words we use to describe the harshest, loneliness and saddest of what we feel is the same relations of the body casting off wastes. I stumbled on this learning with dejection and my word of today was melancholy which lead me right back to the black bile and bile theories of ancient and medieval physiology.

So who would have thought that emotions and digestion could be factually linked up together? What does that really say about each individual and their own perceptions of emotions and digestion as well? Could our unhealthiness of emotions and thought perceptions really be contributing to the symptoms we have in medical conditions? I challenge this to explore, research, learn and find out and would have to say - because of my experiences in new learning that Yes, to a degree, it is true.

I have read that PTSD is a Normal Reaction to Abnormal Event. However, I have learned to grow my own insight to twist it that PTSD is an Automatic Unhealthy Reaction to an Unhealthy Event. For me personally - this applies and appeals as fact and individual truth. But we all must seek that of our truth and the facts of our life.

For me, it's easier to digest all of my life's healthiest and unhealthiest by that done to me by others who harmed me but also that I did lack the healthy skills and healthier tools I needed. I was an ignorant person that did factor unhealthy choices, actions and medical consequences in my life too.

My prior views of PTSD and my 5 senses of unhealthy triggers was very hard to accept for me personally. I had survived my trauma. I was no longer a victim. But I felt as a victim because my 5 senses would emotionally, medically, mentally, psychologically cause stresses in me - that I could not stop, control and years of seeking treatment could not help me to obtain an effective form of tolerable coping. I would lose focus. I would lose the here and now I live in when PTSD and the triggers would increase. I had to find and keep looking for the tools and skills I needed to work for me.

For each of us, are genetically unique. The blueprints of our DNA are each created to who we are. We can not change that. The nature, nurture, experiences, living and surviving that we do in life contribute to the knowledge, healthy and unhealthy skills or tools we use in our life to help us or hurt us.

One must be able to admit, accept and be honest with their self as much as they are able to try to give to another. To gain the best quality of life in our healthy or unhealthy - there really is no shame, no pride, and no emotions involved. Because the emotions are only information that occurs to help us problem solve and nothing more. People complicate emotions through heritage, genetics and examples they choose to retain for their own or what they choose to learn and how to engage their emotions or deny their emotions.

So what exactly does emotions, digestion and having a constitutional tendency to gloominess or depression mean to each of us? What ever we primarily want it to mean that is it.

For math and science are only as a factual as an individual to believe it to be. Religion or spirituality is only as factual as an individual believes it to be. The same is to be said of emotions and their healthy or unhealthy influence in our individual lives and what we choose to know, perceive, and believe about them too.

I just offer a new perspective in my learning and share this. For what one person does not get - I have experienced enough in my life to know - someone else will.

For what my words may produce confusion in one - it will be the exact tool that another needs to pick up to apply in their own life to help them. That's what sharing is about.

That's why learning is still valuable regards of the topic, the profession or the unprofessional. Learning without ceasing is only as helpful to you as you allow your self to believe and what you are willing to do with new information on the old topics or issues of your life and how you apply new information to help yourself or hurt yourself.

So the next time you feel emotionally overwhelmed - go have a bowel movement and laugh while giving imagination to the emotions being ejected from your body and flush them away! I did not create this. I only applied old words from an old dictionary and found an enlightening way to think of the body functions and emotional enlightening found through humor and healthier learning application.

A Blanket of Loneliness

Tangible or material items that we can touch, hear, see, taste and smell are easier to accept for the brain and body as fact. You can literally describe many aspects of tangible or material possessions and even people without judging. The height, width, color, textures, hard, soft, smooth, rough, smiling, laughing, and  rough are a few of factual details about people and items.

Describing emotions or the use of our 5 senses is not so easy to do, even for the most centered person of the core of self. For most - through ignorance and even culture - does teach us about the physical, mental, emotional, psychological and medical symptoms we feel first - before we tend to get to the root of the problem; even if the core problem of self is in their limited emotional perceptions and unhealthy uses of their 5 senses interpretations.

I expect most to perceive this as harsh, cruel, cold or even mean to say as this. But a person can tell you that they have butterflies in their stomach from nervousness or that they have a rapid heart beat and erratic pulse that signals a panic attack to them. Others will tell you their palms get sweaty when they are in a crowd and prefer not to be socially engaged. Others will tell you that they feel lonely, alone or even out of place - with people they have spent most of their life with, money with, and a home with too. But how many can tell you the intuitions of what they feel or think in silence that preludes the eruption of the physical reactions in the brain or body?

For they can tell you the problems that have been caused but very few can go back to the root of it or are even aware of it. But if we could learn new healthier skills to apply new perceptions or effective healthier skills about the root of what you feel or think - more than just the focus of solving the physical problems - how much more could medical or even science do to accommodate and help our lives of the many unhealthy people out there?

With human beings it is not as simple to go back to a root of anything in the human brain and body and especially the intuition a person has or their silent thoughts or silent emotions.

It is easier to focus on that problem - in the present - than to get to the root of an issue. Evidence and facts sometimes are very hard individually to extract - depending on what a person has lived or survived in their life through experience and even the nature and nurture of one's life will become the foundation they develop from. These earliest sources of information, education and subjection will become the root of a person. Many want change but very few know how to produce the change they want, need or seek in their life.

If a person internally or externally is subjected to the unhealthiness at an early age then wouldn't it be fair to say that they - perhaps do not have a medical disease or disorder - but what they actually have is a pile of symptoms that were created from an unhealthiness ignorance that has tarnished with them for so long in their way of life as they know it; that until they find that source or root of the problem - the root can not be eliminated but only the problematic symptoms to be treated without ever healing or curing the root?

Science teaches us the basic roots of chemicals properties to give structure to problem solve but also allows the ability to give creation or invention to potentially solve new problems through the Periodic Table.

Mathematics teaches a broadened horizon of math skills with the basic roots of numbers so letters can be combined to solve the most complex of math issues when a person knows the root of these numbers. 

Perhaps, if we could educationally construct the same principle format that these valuable and necessary tools of math and science demonstrate to us - then medically, scientifically and morally or socially - emotions and the 5 senses could be used for as the valuable and factual information they were intended to be in our lives and as healthy data to input into our lives with simple knowledge as these educational entities of science and math have already taught most of us to do.

Loneliness is that one emotion and all of its synonyms that tag with it - can be a unhealthy or healthy resource in a person's life. Depending on their individual perceptions, facts, ignorance, and experience; this emotion will become as they believe it to be in their life.

It can either be a complex symptom that produces many unhealthy reactions in the brain, body and thoughts or loneliness that can actually be a very healthy fulfilling emotion where being alone is something to never fear or hate or be angered and bitter at again. Loneliness does not have to end up in the worst of depression unless a person fuels it and allows it from within the core of individual self.

Skeptics exist every where. Humanity and the human race were created and motivated with as much skepticism to prove others wrong as it was to give purpose, function, order and ability to problem solve in our civilization. The history pages are loaded with those who were skeptics or feared change of the unknown concepts of those who believed in something greater than what they had ever been told or ever seen with their own eyes.

If skeptics had truly won - we would never would have had electricity, indoor plumbing, automobiles, tools and know how to use those tools, computer, Internet, mobile devices, telephones, cell phones and every aspect of life - as we know it - was built upon one person who believed in a passion or idea of their own self and willing to not let skeptics or assumptions or speculations get to them to move forward with an objective and plan of focus they had. The most beneficial tools we use today were created by one person who gave no fear to skeptics, disbelievers or those who could not comprehend what they were seeking to achieve in their creations. Perhaps, if we applied more intuition into the psyche of individual development and realized that we are all imperfectly deficient in something of self - we'd all realize how equal we are beneath our exteriors.

I have opened discussion many times about emotions and the 5 senses with others since starting my DBT therapy and even reflecting back into the Person I Use to Know in self like my own history of learning to supplement anything of research that I could learn from others. For this self-evaluation is as important to the healthier change I want to gain - as well as it is to merely expecting another to do for me, what I can only do and achieve for myself.

For the experience, survival and living that a person does with their actions and consequences of life choices holds essentially valuable information and gives lessons to draw and gain from and to learn from.

Not from what others tell you or what you been formally taught in education or from others - but a reality from within that can not come from anywhere else. Opinions and facts are nice when we need quick advice to solve problems from others but primarily, I believe, many answers to questions about life and what we have experienced or problems we have do - these answers and their roots exist within us and it is a personal responsibility to extract these answers our self.

Primarily, the emotion of loneliness is a great starter focus of that in which I share. Do you hate loneliness? Do you feel unloved, uncomfortable, unsupported or have dread in the time you are alone? Do you hate to feel isolated, desolate and do not know what to do with your time or your emotions when loneliness is at the spike of the feeling when you are alone and the reactions it produces within you?

Personal perception and healthiness of loneliness can be learned how to not let alone, solo or solitude give you fear, depression, or scare you anymore or leaving you in depressed state of health. But learning knowledge does takes personal motivation and an individual desire to apply what you learn for it to become beneficial or healthier in your life. In learning new skills about emotions and even a healthier approach or perceptions about the use of our 5 senses - can be achieved,  but each individual has to want it. They have to be truthful about the facts of their life.

Many, including myself, have clung to the word truth as the only armor known in life to be freed or attempting to escape from internal baggage of hurtful, damaging, unhealthy and dangerous situations or relationships an abuse survivor leaves or someone in traumatic events or circumstances tries to heal from. Truth protects, defends and gives freedom. But truth is individual and personal. Truth is not always fact nor can evidence be given to prove truth so facts and truth are completely different things after all.

The facts of truth is that facts can be proven externally to others in the cause and effects of events - as in a court case that prosecutes and convicts someone guilty of a crime or proves them innocent by a jury of their peers. Not a perfect system but still one that attempts to prove facts in a case and not truth.
The facts in the case presented will supply enough evidence from two separate stories of who is trying to tell the truth of the matter versus someone who feels their truth should win. So truth in a sense is nothing more than an individual or personal perception. Just because the truth maybe evident or not to others, a person knows the core of their truth of what they touch, see, hear, smell or taste in their life.

Facts can give new informational insight in a dose of healthiness about accepting and moving forward past anything for a person who feels unhealthy or damaged by their truths. Facts and truths are really two different entities.

Though socially perceived as twins - with truth and facts - they are tangibly not. Facts give and provide the tangible. Truth can not always do that. Truth can only try to describe without judging. Facts can describe with evidence and give judgment based upon tangible entities.

Even in the worst cases of human abuse or tragedies upon the human race - logically and rationally it makes for healthier sense to view these words of truth and facts as two separate entities when dealing with human emotions, teaching about intuition and healthier individual thoughts and perceptions or interpretation of the life a person lived and survived.

Quotes to display how truth and facts are two separate words and actions. These quotes give detail to the processes of healthiness and unhealthiness produced by conflicting the definition of the words we use in facts and truth.

The aspect of a case at law comprising events determined by evidence. - A truth verifiable from experience or observation.

Pure truth, like pure gold, has been found unfit for circulation, because men have discovered that it is far more convenient to adulterate the truth than to refine themselves —Charles Caleb Colton

The truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch … you may kick it about all day, like a football, and it will be round and full at evening —Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

The truth kept wandering in and out of her mind like a lost child, never pausing long enough to be identified —Margaret Millar

Truth, like a gentle shower, soaks through the ears and moistens the intellect —Anon

Truth, like a suit of armor, stubbornly resists all attempts to penetrate it —Robert Traver

All the durable truths that have come into the world within historic times have been opposed as bitterly as if they were so many waves of smallpox —H. L. Mencken

Many times, individuals want someone to put a blanket on their loneliness.

For their individual truth of their perceptions, speculations or assumptions have nothing to do with others in their views because they become accustomed to just accepting the familiar, similar and hurtful road or unhealthy habits with thoughts and emotional individual engagement as they know it.
They find it easier and quicker to want someone to put comfort or support or encouragement to them based upon the truths of their lives of never receiving this or perhaps, to lash out at others who do appear to have what they do.

Many people in our current human race - I believe - do seek out in others that of which they can not find, fulfill, heal or cure the root of the problem in self. Criminals are primarily the individuals who can not healthy solve their problems so they retaliate by seeking hurt or harm upon those individuals who do appear to be better problem solvers than they.

Even in solving problems, envy and jealously can be as much as unhealthy contributors to social disorder as much as anything personally an individual endures too. Skeptics and those who are comfortable or ignorant in their culture or lifestyle do not like any one or anything that rocks the boat of comfortable balance they have.

But if a person can not find the root of their own problems, they can never solve them either, now can they? Admitting one's own emotional, mental, logical, rational, psychological, and educational limitations will be the hardest feat for anyone to admit, accept and work to overcome the unhealthiness in their self to accomplish a healthier life. For the deficiencies we all carry in our lack of knowledge, perceptions, assumptions, speculations, ignorance and views does limit the healthy we could learn to obtain and promotes and prolongs our own unhealthiness.

We can allow others to blanket our loneliness or other emotions that distraught or hurt us. But we must never seek so long in the journey of our lives to find in others - that what we can not learn to fulfill in our self first by seeking out to not only the problem but the root of that problem, even if that source of root, is primarily self.

Generation after generation carries so much baggage and creates and brings the problems of yesterday with it.

It's human nature. It's human nurture. It's geography. It's economy. It's community. It's familiar. It's foreign. It's strange. It is ironic is what it is.

Because we all tend to focus on the problems of our lives than seeking the root of our individual problems that have increased problems with others in our lives and then we wonder why individuals are becoming more unhealthy, more chaotic, less social functioning and escalating into people who can not get along humanely in a safe and healthy environment for us all.

A root exists in all life and every tangible and intangible item, material, or human being. The Earth has a root. The ground has a root. The clouds have a root in the sky. Humans have a root.

But until we view social order, social function and the way we treat human beings and individuals and take awareness of accountability for rooting deficiencies too - we will continue to be generation after generation where history repeats itself.

Unhealthiness will continue to increase and healthiness will only be something future generations will read about. You can not give vaccinations to emotions. You can not use the 5 senses, brain or body to stop the unhealthy effects that events and circumstances of traumas produce in a person but you can be your own vaccine and medication to your 5 senses after trauma or unhealthy events in your life by learning healthier focus and effective education to apply directly to the core of yourself.

Each individual can choose to learn how to not focus on the symptoms of the problem but instead go back to the root of that problem. To gain a new healthier perspective. New knowledge that could be beneficial in undoing damage from others but also the damage one does to self as well.

Not all medical conditions can be solved and fixed or healed and cured because of the tangible evidence of the facts of cancer, diabetes, organ failures and other conditions that give to mechanical failure of the brain and body.

But in many conditions, the prelude that begins the symptoms that are experienced begins internally with silent thought, emotions, and what a person does those few seconds before their symptoms occur.
Even with healthier education, it may not completely release a person from all their unhealthiness within depending on their medical conditions and the symptoms they will experience but it will logically and rationally create a more stable environment of healthiness for the individual brain and body to reside in.

Very few people will sit down with their children to teach them how to deal, cope and work through their emotions in a healthier manner. Why is this? Well, now recall upon self - who sit down with you as a child and talked to you about your own emotions or the use of your 5 senses too?

The humanity we seek to build with our tools, knowledge, skills and foundation of life that creates society to sit upon as a foundation is commendable indeed with the luxuries and necessities we have today in our homes and our communities.

But until we view people as individuals before harmful classifications and as quick solutions to problem solving or medical condition fixes - we will only to continue to decline in morality and the human race will continue following the problems, putting a band-aid on the problem and never realizing the effectiveness of root extraction that we can do and achieve through learning healthier skills to take care of the source of our problem. If factual educational learning of root could be applied to psyche of human understanding and individuality development, where could we excel our human race too? What kind of humanity of equality could we really achieve? What more could we develop in our economics, science, math and profits when we realize the importance of root extractions in individual human beings?

Perhaps, this is my wishing concept and my beliefs as a hope to achieve if only in my own dreams. But anything that plants a seed to potentially grow a new root of a healthier or beneficial way of life for others - is still worth it for me to attempt, share, and keep on dreaming.

Many hurt, solo, and lonely people are out there unhappy in the silence of their self. But options and choices can grow through education, learning and applying healthier skills. Mind over matter is still the most unused resource we each have to apply to our lives and our healthiness and multiply in our human race.

To Blog or Not To Blog

A blog is usually a daily commitment or something of print that each author, writer or freelancer chooses to be. Whether a focus on specific interests, hobbies or writing about the lives of others, pretty much for any who has ever blogged one question frequently arises in self - "To Blog or Not to Blog?" Whether wanting to decide to blog or choosing to commit to time of when to blog - there is no right or wrong answer here. A blog is the facts of whatever the blogger wants it to be in their print, their message and their words.

When a blog is of leisure without marketing intentions or sales promotions, most choose blog print that will be published in routine. Others have created content in blogs that give them more control of what  days, entries, and purpose or mission statement can be and a more varying schedule.

To each their own schedule by what the owner wants their blog to be is how I feel about it. I have read some very good, productive, informative and funny blogs but there are not consistent writers and that works for me as I am never dedicated to specific times online but the content is still available when I am ready to read. 

I never read content to make sure periods are in the precise location or words are used correctly and sentences are formed to literacy standards.

I personally give no regards to this as a reader or blogger or writer of any content online. Professional or personally shared content in blogs, articles, or websites where information is displayed is of no concern to me either. I do not care of the validity of correctness as long as the factual information they reference too - that is not opinion - is linked with the source for proving facts represented. That's as much for my own research on topics, if I choose as it is to help others to gain clarity, if they wish when writing upon facts versus personal opinions, personal experiences  when sharing life in print.

But much of the websites or blogs are about literacy, grammar, and format that do take priority over the message content from readers. But I fear many valuable lessons do get lost in the value of the Internet today because we teach literacy perfections but yet we use so many social websites where language isn't important. Talk about writing, reading and general confusion that the Internet can be to many people in the way they perceive what they read but when people take a verbal statement and twist it to whatever - why would a blog or print content bother anyone right? 

I blog as I feel and what I feel around the wide subject of A Person I Use to Know because every day, in my life, with my living and surviving experiences - I could reflect the happenings of every day of my life and be able to find something in today - that occurred differently than it did yesterday in me or around me - because of that Person I Use to Know. Consider it growing a deeper perception of self and perhaps even a different view or insight in self and the world abroad. For the person you will be today was not the person you were 20 years ago or even 5 years ago and probably you won't be the same person in 5 or 20 years from the person you are now either. So this title and mission is of sharing content that I feel most could relate too if they stop in to read this blog.

Whether in myself personally of changing my views, perceptions, and interpretations about interactions of life and those in it or just witnessing how others do change in time - a daily reflection of A Person I Use to Know could occur every day.

Personally for me, routine, consistency, and stability do matter but it's not in the validity or importance that most place priority upon daily. It's good and healthy to be focused, planned and scheduled but it's also healthy to be open - so all your time isn't catering to demands or what you feel as important that you never have nor make time to appreciate surprises too.

I have never been streamlined as that and hope I do not get so stuck in the rut of my own daily conformity or daily procedures or schedules that I lose the thrills, surprises and shocks that come along in the minutes of the day - from  an unexpected guest dropping in or a surprise phone call from someone I hadn't spoke to in a while or any other surprises that are not planned that can occur as this.

I have met many who would call uninvited guests dropping in on them as a surprise as the guest being rude, mean or not respecting their busy daily life. They complain so much about the visit - that was not planned for - that I do wonder if they ever appreciated the guest who surprised or sudden shocked them with change of plans with those they were visiting with.

I have tried the two fold of planning only scheduled visitors or guests to come to my home and those surprise visitors that still popped in, even when I would tell them personally, that I would appreciate a phone call or email or text ahead of time - but to no avail.

But I understand why some do this? But in facts -  their lives maybe complicated, time consumed, and time limited as my own can be and has been in time passed too. But would anyone really miss out on a second or minutes with another just because it wasn't planned for - as so?

The same kindly with a blog. Unless the money is being made from it - then it isn't so much as joy anymore but a means to a financial way to gain. For me, I try to blog every day but if I do not, it is by choice and that I am living outside the computer, off the blog, off of Facebook and appreciating the joys of my life.

Every individual who feels compelled to put something in print to give as their message or summary of their day in text or email or anything of electronic print can be valuable daily assets for the person sharing as well as the person reading.

But we all should never get so conformed in anything of our lives that we lose the ability to keep our self open, our computer or electronic lines free from data transfers and give our fingers a break from typing too. We shouldn't focus so long on the wrong of any matter - that we forget to appreciate the facts and find in another what the person intended to say, even if it different or opposite of what we are.

Family units are the greatest prime examples of that which I am trying to relay about being irritated about the little things they do occur that we tend to forget the bigger focus of what and who they are or mean to us.

Families or close friends can sometimes be a thorn in our side that will never cease to stop causing prick pains - while at the same time - there is no other - that you can sit with and talk about things that you would never tell or share with another soul. There has to be something of value to that somewhere in its complexities, difficulties, and experiences together.

Just don't ever forget from time to time to enjoy the positives instead of only the negatives of someone or their unhealthy versus their healthy or their additions and deductions of your life and what they mean to you.

It may never solve all problems or find quick fix solutions when facing problems, surprises or anything shocking that occurs in life - but it will help find solid ground through any issue a person could face because you see can recall factually on paper all of your own entities in self and others - who you enjoy but get irritated at.

Just as you can do when you read some one's else content that you may not always easily understand, grasp nor get. Not every word spoken is directly formed to be used against you or is about you and not every thing you read is a message for you anyways but keep an open mind, just the same.

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” - Stephen Covey said it best in this quote.

Twitter, Facebook, MySpace and every social media website promotes poor grammar, misinterpreted messages and quick responding readers who assume or speculate with judgment before really observing - describing without judging - what they read and then choosing to participate without impulsively putting in print something they will come to regret later.

One of the wisest quotes I ever read was “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” Stephen Covey - The same can be factual of readers. 

To Blog or Not to Blog is still a service to all who enjoy blogs, sharing information, and if you make profits off of it - go for it.

But for millions who do choose to blog - it is like sharing a message, poetry, information or  enlightenment because we know - that even if - millions may read it - that as long as one person gets it; the blogging mind will keep on printing and bring words to life - just because they enjoy having the tool of the Internet to do this and for no other reason.

Use words and emotions wiser in your life than those before you. Think before speaking. Break the impulsiveness to judge.

And if you do make time to read content - read to gain from it and not to always decrease from it. Some one took minutes or hours from their day to give something valid to another. So to judge harshly upon the blog art is to judge the person who made time to share content in which you read too.

For what you may curse today - that you do have in your life - it could easily be gone tomorrow.

The Fear Factors of Isolation

Today's word, Isolation, is my new word of the day. These DBT sessions of learning Mindfulness and being Present daily with Observe, Describe without Judging, and active Participation give my every day a joyful focus and objectives to set, tasks to meet and a healthier way to accomplish my daily.

Each day, while doing these 30-60 minutes sessions - I am gaining effective skills of learning how to apply my 5 senses in a different view of engagement. I call this learning a new approach to reprogram my unhealthy 5 senses produced by PTSD into learning a new healthier perception of them and how to activate them.  I am also enhancing a healthier literal emotional understanding with this new education that does proves to be like an "Awe Ha!" moment every day. It grows my own awareness but also toward others too without being this ball of roller coasting emotions that could set off fireworks, as I have done in time past from not knowing better.

This is why I share. Perhaps, hoping to provide a little new insight upon words, emotions, and to those who suffer with their 5 senses in survival struggles that Post Traumatic Stress Disorder can produce upon a person.

A Person I Use to Know, primarily in self, while learning new skills is like casting off my own personal bad behaviors, negative or hurtful thoughts to self and emotional roller coaster by finding a healthier liberation and relief of my medical symptoms.

The mind is truly more powerful and healing over matter - than probably medical or science can clearly answer. Perhaps, it is having a personal belief in doing something like this of what one feels or is logical reasoning that makes an effective difference today too.

In the word of isolation - I found the vast and wide factual dictionary meaning of this word. The application of cause and effect or actions from productions of isolation - is more extensive than this blog will allow me to document. So I will summarize the best I can. In sharing of new words or my experience - I am learning from my own unique destination techniques to obtain a healthier life, mind, brain, emotions and my 5 senses. I only wish the same for others to find the tools, skills or assistance they need to overcome their own medical complications or personal issues in their life as well.

Isolation can occur every where at any given time of the day, where a person is at, whatever they are doing or speaking - and one does not even know it - without conscious awareness and logical reasoning that isolation is breathing and living.

Isolation and avoidance usually goes hand-in-hand with PTSD - depending on the severity of the PTSD and what an expert rationalizes as the safest and most effective treatment for patients and the general public.

It's hard to use avoidance actively for patients of PTSD without patients feeling at times, of isolation. Especially when the "expert", appears to know best what a patient needs. It's all in good advisement to protect the patient from becoming too stressed or increasing the 5 senses triggers that contribute to nightmares, flashbacks and other side effects. But in a complex disorder that PTSD can be - it makes it difficult for those who knew a person before PTSD and to know them after the diagnosis and course of treatment. PTSD can make a stranger out of one's closest loved one or family or associate - but it doesn't have too entirely. Patient choice. Medical effective treatment and sometimes, it takes a patients own desire to learn what PTSD is and how it directly impacts their life and why and where to proceed in healing from this disorder.

For decades, I have personally researched, advocated and been on my own personal mission of every medical diagnosis I have - along with the circumstances and genetics that have contributed to my conditions to learn how to effectively manage, treat, and function in life with these items of my life that I can not deny. For me, this is my normal and I have no shame nor should I feel isolated anymore because others do not understand. I have always found that more will understand when we get over our own fears of speaking about difficult topics than saying nothing at all. My life has benefited more in talking about the difficult topics than the fear of saying nothing at all. People are more equal in the basics of our human entities - than we expand our beliefs to accept.

It was through my own research that I have gained and learned the valuable skills - I needed to be productive in life, when I was able, and to safely care for myself knowing my boundaries of healthy and unhealthiness - I have had but also to never fear in keep learning to help myself.

Even when at times, many times - through my life; the misunderstandings, perceptions and interpretations of others about my behaviors, actions or choices has left me feeling very isolated or on a path by myself; I move forward in progress.

Every day, I am a work in progress. Most do not function as this and I understand this and respect them for that. For their stability, order, routine, function and consistency is something that I do not have. I have not had it since my first seizure back in 1995. But I acceptance this. I always figured with my health that it doesn't matter what others believe or even with the best of intentions of doctors, therapists or my medical resume of seeking help that I have compiled in my life - if it works safely for me - it's only stupid, if it does not work.

I'd never been able to accomplish and got to live all I have - without the efforts I have made of my own research. In this DBT tweaking of focus on 5 senses healthy reprogramming and emotional learning - I am gaining a new healthier daily application to my emotions and overall general health.

Many symptoms of medical, psychological, emotional, and general healthiness or unhealthiness - all stem from an origin - of our own silent thoughts, internal processings of those things we feel or say secretly to self when no one is around. This center of core that lives in each of us will become the actions and exterior appearance of who we are, what we do in life and how we live our life. But there is so much more to it beneath our skin, than I fear most, would care to indulge and learn about.

The dread, fear, anxiety, worries, frustrations, hurt, pain, and scars we carry as unhealthy baggage are a ripple effect of the knowledge, logic, reasoning, and understanding of acceptance we have about our self image, reflection, and the secrets of our lives and survivals we carry.

Many times when I worked in a profressional environment in time past - I discussed many issues of life with many associates who were friends. Their personal lives were hidden in chaos versus the profressional I witnessed doing a great, productive community service every day.

The hidden addictions of harmful alcoholism, domestic violence, child abuse survivors, religious affiliations, political party, illegal marijuana use, prescription pill abuse and even just unhappy marriages were all many aspects of private conversations that others would share with me.

For being a lady of so much experience of survival and living life - I can not say I am wiser beyond my years - but I can emphathize with others and do make an effective listener, I always have.

Because there isn't too much any one can do or say to me - that I haven't already witnessed or survived or lived it. I have no shock factors of people and the actions they do either. Experience is a teacher and what we do with the lessons we are given can contribute to our overall healthiness or unhealthiness too.

But in working and through the years that I did not work outside the home and even now - isolation plays a daily role in the background of many lives. I speculate that many are not even aware of it. If they truly were aware of it; then this word would be dialectically spoken more.

The fear or anxieties and worries that people do because they are afraid of what others will say or how they will be publically perceived is a threat to be prevented about in some regards - but not one a person should exhaust self in over emotions or silent thoughts of self-dialogue that it causes one to lose focus of their goals in the moment now or to wasted resources of worrying about in a cause and effect that has not happened nor chances ever will.

Our fears of isolation or being alone or outcast because of the facts of our choices has probably threatened and damaged many in their lives or even events or circumstances that occurred to them.
Stresses of fear in pending lay-offs, getting fired, terminated, demoted, cast from social or religious organizations or even social scenes or associations of family and friends are all factual elements of life that can create momentary chaos and produce isolation in a person's life.

Anything that threatens or silences a person because of fear that produces an action of withdrawal, in cases, of isolation whether by personal choice or having no other option to protect one self's but through isolation - can be life altering and changing. Medical issues can be the biggest reasons why a person would feel isolated or extra cautious when changing their life from the Person They Use to Know and who others knew in them to the person they are today.

Just as laws, politics, and social or economical factors do not change as fast as the crimes increase, social desires financiallly escalate, hobbies or even to increase financial gains or recoupe financial losses - so do most individuals - do not change unless something makes them or forces change upon them.

We do excel in a fast paced world around us that is globally linked; but in each individual person - we are almost stationary in who we are internally and externally. Our beliefs, our experiences, our lifestyles, our geography, our emotional witnessing, formal education versus the school of hard knock life culture survivals, and everything we choose or how we choose to live all play a factor in what we will do, won't choose to do, and what we allow others into view of our life.

I have never gave regards to other's assumptions or speculations or opinions about me. For this is my life, and we only live it and survive once. I feel that by constantly learning, I am gaining. Even if the only accomplishment I receive is a healthier state of mind, emotions and overall general health internally or externally - I do this for my medical life to survive it with hopes to achieve the best quality of healthier life for me.

The rotation of the Earth travels around the sun every day at a faster pace of speed than most humans ever will to be open too or optimistic of, or self-seekers, self-motivators and self-helpers. For it is easier to be stationary in everything we do as witnesses - then actually be out there in it or contributing to it or even changing our own ways to achieve a healthier perception, interpretation and increase our options in life.

Isolation is a daily contributing factor of millions of lives. Survivors or victims know this word personally and the hardship of isolation's survival. The trauma or event of circumstances will change a person. Any medical diagnosis can and will produce unhealthy results in a person's mind, body and even with emotions. I can not say that we can ever stop the pain of isolation or the hinderance this nasty side effect can be in a person's life after enduring something terrifying, medically, profressionally, educationally of life alteraction or horrific circumstances. But it can not hurt to try to achieve healthy past factually reality of change.

No one should ever feel isolated by their own choices they made or their medical conditions or financial status and any other reason that causes them to feel less than adequate or out of place or alone.

But it does happen every single day of every single second. But in learning how to be aware that isolation does exist, does live, and survive upon the faces of probably every one we meet or talk too - it kindly gives a new compassion upon others I would think. It should also help a person to realize that they are not the only one enduring the feelings of loneliness, a secret, a bad mistake or harmful choice.

Humanity has alot to learn in interacting with others who are different than they. For it is easy to teach a child to grow up, be a good person, go to college, and achieve a healthy financial status with responsibility as a contributor to society. But the humanity can be lost as time, history and family unit heritages prove over and over again - that the factual truths of humanity and general healthiness of people come not from the comfort or conveinance of one's lifestyle but that in which we do or experience that is different. Many will use differences against a person as a controlling or manipulation tool and even to bully others that they simply fail or do not care to understand. This occurs every day in the work force. But it also happens in every corner of our communities too.

Learning how to be friends or at least respectful with those who are completely different than we are in biological age, gender, financial status, geography, religions, political parties, and even race or sexual orientation. It is through our ability to change, progress, and move forward in a different life than those before us that we create, grow, and enhance a healthier social environment that we all do live and share  in and will lead to contributions to one another.

For individuals retired or disabled are some of our greatest teachers that we invalidate. They have their own specific experiences or knowledge to share. They have lived a life that could detail the differences of their generations like no other class of people.

Their history of experiences is our present and our tomorrow. Their teachings offer input of where we truly have been, what they have witnessed, survived, endured and how they live. Their medical input, feedback and experinces personally can guide us to the future in many ways we live life. These individuals possess diverse knowledge produced by the experiences they live. If experience is not treasured as valuable lessons to be shared by others - then I do not know why any one would bother to teach from outdated scripted lessons when we have present teachers in our society that we tend to isolate and invalidate. These unproductive thoughts and generalizations of discreditation to others different than us or simply ignoring their valuable entities is why our civilization will always be two generations behind morally than the humanity we could have.

Our Veterans and members of military and their families have valuable insight into the destructions and the new creations that War, training, discipline, loyalty and preservance has taught them through resilience. They are our teachers of primary examples of the healthy or unhealthy produced by the freedom we are granted in America. Their genius is from their experiences. They have a greater teacher quality and potential to help our humanity and effectively enhance the human race more than any class of citizens. For their sacrifices to serve us still represent a community of their own that give way to how the rest of us could function, survive and thrive to live too with one another. Their isolations produced by the cause and effects of their experiences to serve us could teach us in a healthier way of life of how to prevent, stop and become aware of the prices we pay for the luxury and neccessities we share because of their sacrifices they made for us. Their experiences of where we have been can guide us into the presnet and future of where we should not go again nor should have too. They are our prime examples of a humanity to become.

Our children are our primary investments into the future. Many times, I have heard many parents, teachers, and adults quote, "I have learned more from them, than I could ever teach them." I would have to agree and factually say it is true.

For in every generation of children and teenagers that pass us by - these individuals are presented a new changing culture, social practices and acceptances and financial world they see while geography doesn't really play that much a part of it as much as the sense of community, home, and the people they are directly involved with on a daily basis. Their insight into our adult lives can teach us and guide us and direct us to the humanity that we tend to lose focus on or become unaware of because adults do tend to get caught up in building a life and one day, they wake up and realize - it is gone and passed them by. Children and teens feel our direct changes in society quicker than any adults do. I suppose it is has always been that way. For their courses of learning, social challenges, and daily impact to progress and stressful motivations done to them by parents who seek over achievers in them - it is hard for anyone to clearly define the stresses that children and teenagers endure because we are usually ill-equipped and unhealthy in our parenting roles or adult experiences to help them.

I guess more than anything, just being aware and learn. Never fear. Never become anxious by your own doings. Never lose time or focus worrying about anything. Deal with it only when  it comes. Being aware means to know that something could adversely occur but not losing a second thought about it or a good night of potential sleep from it.

Prevention can be given to all aspects of our lives to keep us safe, protected, and free from harm. But over analyzing and worrying about things that chances are - will never happen - is not healthy to do but it produces unhealthy side effects in the body, brain, emotions, Central Nervous System and Autonomic System and many more underlying processes of the mechanical and chemical productions in the body. Do not do that to your self or others.

We'll never be a perfect society where Peace is on Earth nor a humane place to be without fear of terrorism or criminal activity or some kind of circumstance that will occassionally rock our boat.

But in dedicated learning of even the smallest of healthier efforts we can do for our self and in our immediate lives to mend our selves from the survival and living of our lives - we can gain acceptance of our self, achieve greater understanding of others who are completely different than us and in the end, hopefully all achieve a civil existence with one another that will make us all more healthier and less unhealthy toward each other and a lot less stressed too.

Just as we have only one life to live - we all only have one Earth to reside up. Your land is my land. My land is your land. Your damaging of Earth will affect my life just as mine will yours. Your choices will impact me just as mine will impact yours. Even if all of this is only evident to fact in our children's lives or the retirees of tomorrow - impact from you or me - occurs just the same.

When we assume and presume to know others - without factually getting to really know them - we can never solve the problems that affect each generation. Our issues continue to increase, our social division continue to increase, our future becomes as bleak and dark as the history pages we try to progress from.

Isolation is nothing to fear but will take understanding, conscious awareness, and learning to respect the healthy aspects isolation can teach us to stop the unhealthiness that this emotion can do to a person, people, and our population as we know it. Be aware of isolation and even when you do it to yourself. But never inflict isolation upon another. For the pain of one's own survival maybe more of a burden than they can medically or safely cope with as it is. To promote pain from isolation through words, actions or ignorance is truly the worst attributes of human behaviors when we fail to become aware, learn and work to prevent the moral damage we have allowed to be done and continue to do. Try. That's all any of us can do. Keep trying to move forward. Admit. Accept. But keep right on moving by taking a healthier travel and working to make it less unhealthy for your self and others too.

The Holiday Stress of Insecurity

My daily learning word and emotional understanding of the day is insecurity. Not sure, certain or doubtful. Unguarded or unsafe or neglected. Lacking self-confidence; plagued by anxiety.

Sounds like a Christmas Carol song gone wrong, don't it? Makes one thinks of all the emotions and financial worries that Christmas and Holiday seasons can stress upon a person. Loved ones passed on that are missed. Family or friends that one misses that you can not visit or afford to spend money for gifts on Christmas. Wondering if that gift is good enough or will be appreciated or even if someone will care enough about you to gift you this holiday season.

Yes, the word of the holiday stress all comes down to insecurity in some way of fact. Tainting the emotions. Reminding one of how life changes before we are really aware and conscious that change - sometimes, good or bad; positive or negative; healthy or unhealthy has occurred.

A Person I Use to Know focused daily on the strong words of: truth, lies, positive, and negative more than any other word. For when pain increases enough in your life, even if - occurring such a time long go - as in a death of loved one while one is still enduring childhood or the adverse effects of child abuse or even divorce or anything that leaves one feeling less in their life because of shocking changes - these were the words I think that tend to become the staple of one's life or at least in the Person I Use to Know.

There was no fact or fiction. Others were viewed strictly as positive or negative. There was only truth or lies. There was no middle ground unless consent to amends or make peace was the objective in every relationship, friendship, or family ship this person did. OH - how ignorance does play and makes a comfortable, stable and yet insecure fools of us all - does it not?

Think about it. When applying and using words to observe our life - our actions and those immediately in our lives - we describe usually with judging, assumptions and speculations before we really participate actively.

It is easier to criticize the person that does something in actions than getting up the will or personal motivation to do it our self. We find it easier to do so much unhealthiness in our lives, our internal psyche and with out our emotional engaging in a healthier manner - that the cause and effect of our own lives leaves no one to blame but our self in many of our choices and ignorance as the primary foundation on which each self-esteem, emotions, and thoughts are built upon.

A Person I Use to Know, of course, is myself. For if you haven't read enough of this blog - you may have missed the summary of this blog. But I can also say through my experience of others too - that ignorance is the simplicity that does make life blissful in a sense. At first interpretation of words like: insecurity and ignorance - most will reject both of these words immediately.

The will view in their mirror that insecurity and ignorance does not apply to them. How dare anyone describe or judge them as such? But think about it.

Why would anyone want to intentionally apply these dark, specified words to them self? For sometimes, the solutions, answers, and resolutions we seek in our life are through these dark words, dark circumstances, darkening circumstances and the choices we make that contribute to our darkness of unhealthiness and in others who are in our lives.

How many have been done wrong by others in their life? Probably at least once by every one you meet or know. They know the sting that comes from friendships that crumble or falter due to personal differences, financial status that once was that is no more and even the impulsive choices that lead to irresponsible damages that ends up in divorce court or family court debating over child support and arguing over child supervision and even the simple stuff - like teens or children not being friends anymore because of life circumstances or lifestyle cultures where a parent feels another child and their home environment is not safe for their child or teenager to be around anymore.

Now - in these same circumstances and the many more that can occur when you start counting how much you have been hurt or felt insecure by a friendship, relationship or family - how many times can you honestly say that you did indeed hurt them as well? How many times did you use your words as weapons? You would say hurtful things to them and knew it would get them upset; but you did it anyways? How many times have you left them feeling insecure, alone, neglected and even used?

Yes, it's very easy to dodge, avoid, and ignorantly continue in unhealthiness through life. Perhaps, it is the simplest way in many regards. If you blame, excuse and pardon yourself - then it becomes every one's responsibility or accountability for your faults, choices and bad decisions you made that affected others.

If we asked our self the hard or difficult questions that we expect or almost demand of others to answer for us - we could attempt to gain a sense of healthier security by realizing - that 9 our of 10 times - it was not only them and what they did but also how we individually perceive and interpret and engage in life with others too. It was our reactions or inabilities to healthy approach our own life that we did as much to others as anyone ever done to us.

I am not saying that we all are victims or all are survivors - but in a sense - we create and enable that on which we know, get comfortable within our self and act upon our knowledge, our experiences or circumstances we know directly.

Ignorance is the enabler of many crimes, hurt, pain, and insecurities of unhealthiness that we all secretly share. The notions of: "Normal" or "Perfection" or "Expert" is not factual about human beings or even about anyone in the human race.

For to be normal - it means we have to have standards that detail the internal and external specifications of a human being that describe, detail and medically or scientifically explain what "Normal" is. Since the human brain is one of the greatest mysteries of the human body - "Normal" - can not be factually stated to describe humans or their lives. To say otherwise is ignorance. There is only healthy or unhealthy functions in operation of the human brain or body - not "Normal."

"Perfection" is a social culture acceptance as fact and nothing more. The perfect hair, the perfect aligned symmetrical face or external attributes that gives proportion to the human body. The perfect perceived life where money is plentiful to afford life's greatest luxuries and necessities. It is easier to seek a perfection or attempt to create "Perfection" than it is to admit, accept and realize that "Perfection" is the most damaging and unhealthiness concept that individuals have introduced into the social civilization of cultures.

"Expert" is a word that we have allowed to make us feel less than efficient and demoralizing to all human beings. For every "Expert" there is out there; there is also a Peter Principle of that "Expertise" field as well.

To factually apply the words we use - we must know the synonyms and factual definitions of their many meanings and descriptions versus that in which we have only been taught through social accepting cultures or our own limited experiences.

Psychology and Philosophy are broad topics that discuss a science and medicine that goes beneath the skin of a human being and visual appearance. It makes for enlightening reading and gives a greater compassion and understanding to self and others. I call it healthy reading and healthy learning.

For ignorance is alive, well and even healthier in a sense - than any of us are actually and factually. It's not to say that we are all dumb but it is to say that we miss the opportunities waiting upon us because we do not value the potential in our self to gain healthiness and produce unhealthiness by ignorance that will always plaque any civilization presenting new problems and issues to be resolved. But until we all get our heads out of our thoughts and broaden our brain cells and body for the health they could be obtained - I guess - we will never know what we could be capable of in our lives and the world around us.

I am finding a new healthiness and new peacefulness by learning this adolescent and elementary education  that I have appointed myself upon. For when you go to and fro for decades, paying experts in the medical and scientific field who really have no clue on solving your medical conditions for you - other than a quick fix of a talk therapy, alternative therapy methods or prescription medications; it can be expensive and very bleak.

For if an expert, does not educate and stay on top of their own game of learning in the profession of their choice - they will become a Peter Principle and as ignorant as the rest of us. For their answers, will come from an old outdated book of guidelines or procedures that are not always a one size fits all.

I do understand why many in medical despair for incurable diseases would seek alternative methods or even new research that is not always ethical to help save their lives. Even if these patients on death's door have to break the law to obtain another day of their life - I understand and empathize why they do it - even if, it's not always lawful. But I guess, until we reach those moments or situations or circumstances in life that leave us with despair to our life - one can never know why people choose to do what they do.

But as I am finding my own enlightening in learning about emotions and the informational role they contribute in life versus the shield of defense or verbal offense - most use them for - including me prior to all of this - I am gaining a new healthiness that I could achieve no other way. I share hoping to enlighten others. We each are truly more alike than we realize.

It is easy to get visually pleased by the genetics of another or celebrate the fun, laughter, and smiles in them and the happiness they give us. But behind every exterior of a human being there is a living, breathing, thinking and emotional machine operating beneath the skin. I guess until we can each learn this or the world of science and medical catch up to the rate of destruction to remedy that we do to each other - life will continue in the chaos of stresses, self-deprivations, ignorance and most of us; self-esteem issues and the unhealthy harm we do to each other - even if only in words and our lack to know how to use them.

I have stated for a long time that even our primary vocabulary in the English language could use an upgrade. Not to change what words mean but to broaden the possibilities of their meanings and direct application in human lives and perhaps, even help more people to help them self when the holiday stress of insecurity gets to them or just merely to take something bad and flip it not to be so worse or something positive and make it super effective.

Time is the only entity we all have to spend every single day. Time is the one value of fact that affects each of us directly in our daily life. Time is the only thing we can truly control by how we choose to spend it daily.

Perhaps, the next time, you find yourself in a frump or in a darkened state of your own silent thoughts or tearful emotions - you will realize - it is only as temporary as you want it to be or the gloom will stay as long as you focus on it. Many will read this and have no clue of relation of what I write - but for the many more - who do - this is for them.

Skeptics come in all genders, ages, and financial status. Economics of our lives play a role in the experiences of our life. Someone who has a stable, financial secure, comforted or supported life could not imagine the obstacles that a life without these valuables will endure in healthy and unhealthy regards. But for the millions who knew the hard road - I hope my sharing will help you somehow find your way back to the light of your life and allow you strength to pick yourself up when the world knocks you down or you feel that you are too insecure to keep on trying and moving forward.

For no matter what anyone can say or do to you in your life - you are the unhealthiness or healthiness that you choose to be and how you deal, cope and live through it. May all of us find more appreciation, gratefulness, humbleness and even humility can be healthy in tolerable doses to help us accept that we are all imperfectly human - just as the next person is.

Maybe we can get one day closer to finding the solutions we need and one more day closer to being thankful that we too have the choose to keep learning, stopping the unhealthiness that comes from being our own worst skeptic and if we believe enough within our self to never give up then no one can deny us our personal and individual beliefs and motivations either.

Instead of focusing on what you do not have or will not get or who you lost in grief this holiday season - be happy - that you have another holiday to see. For some one out there; is fighting to see one more date upon their calendar. If this doesn't do it for you - I could not enlighten you no matter what I write, express or creatively produce anyways.

Choose a daily Happy Holiday and make it happen. Most of the time, the only person that can ever make you feel insecure or stressed - is yourself anyways.

Financial Positive and Negatives as a Holiday Shopper

Have you ever noticed just how much mathematics play a role and factor in life every day? If you have not, give time and experience a chance to prove this fact to you too.

Mathematics is a subject requirement not only in school curriculum but one of those major subjects that you will use and apply more frequently in life than you can potentially imagine when first learning to add, subtract, multiply and divide.

In psychology and even in personality or employee assessments, a math number becomes assigned to you of your positive or negative attributes as well. Hard to believe that a number can and will label you and reward or take away from your life depending on your personal perceptions and interactions with numbers and mathematics - but it is true.

A Person I Use to Know has always enjoyed the challenges of solving math. From the earliest days of memory, math was something to be explored and conquered to solve. Math was tangible. Math was honest. Math was valuable - even if - it was only adding a 1+1 to equal 2.

But math spoke so much deeper than that. Because if math could be applied to solve numeric problems then anything that life would toss a person one could be just as persistent in learning new things to solve circumstances as well. This person was me. A math freak in a sense.

But learning to apply math in a moral or lawful understanding was the hardest reality and facts to swallow about myself. For the unhealthiness I had witnessed growing up with money taught me many things and traits I had to shed myself.

To admit that I could let this bill go this month and pay it next month to make up for late charges just seemed like a good, fast solution at the moments of impulsiveness until the late charges increased a bill more than I needed to be paying but it was through impulsiveness and prior bad acts that I did this for many years.

It personally took me a very long time to realize that I did not need to meet a social acceptance standard by having credit cards or irresponsible high finance charges just to have nicer, newer or more luxury materials. I didn't have to spend money to go out to socialize, for those who really cared, would meet me in the middle of geography or come to my home instead.

When in factual reality, my biggest problems for years was that I needed to accept and be thankful for what I already had and what my true figures of money were to work with and make them effectively work for me. Not in the impulsiveness or prior bad unhealthy behaviors I had done with money.

Math teaches us more than we realize about our self, family and our homes. It tells us alot about the character of who we are by the way we spend our money too. You can not be an honest person if you can not manage, control and handle the finances you have. You can not extend yourself financially by living for what you wish they were or by going in debt to cover debt that you can responsibly pay for. Dishonesty and fakeness shows it true colors more than most are aware and it comes down to how a person spends their money or controls their budget.

In America, we have become socially accustomed and economically striving to be socially accepted. Most perceive that unless you have an excellent credit rating or a high line of credit - then you are no one as a contributor to the society financial scene or economically production of social gatherings as in shopping or eating out at a restaurant. But this is the biggest calculated lie there ever was and this assumption has led to financial irresponsibility in this country. Started by a system to create failure. Enabled by a system to create financial dependency upon another.

When you have complex medical conditions that you must seek treatment for and are unable to pay your medical bills that causes bad credit ratings - you quickly realize that a credit rating has no bearing upon you as an individual and that only healthy people matter with our social system of democracy numerical ratings of your financial creditability. You quickly learn what is a necessity and a luxury and what must be paid and what you can not afford to do when you have medical conditions.

But there is another negative flip side in this social system of democracy that very few care to know or become aware of. Our taxes only work for our government and perhaps, these credit ratings and financial irresponsibility benefits are greater than we, as individuals of health or unhealthiness, realize too. We, as people, are nothing more than a money matter of numerical rating that impacts and affects us all together as a nation - regardless of who you are and what bracket of financial gross income your check box falls into.

DHHR services is the largest portion of our government budget. With Obama care, the government dependency for medical care coverage will continue to increase in dependency upon a government office financed by tax payer dollars which is exactly what the USA democracy wants.
Financial dependency upon high interest rate loans, in store credit accounts and credit cards have become the way of life by many individual citizens also. Very seldom do you ever hear of those who effectively manage their credit limits to benefit their lives instead of creating a destructive financial effect on their lifestyles.

The only financial debt that a person should seek investment into is a college degree and nothing more in their life. In this economy, it would also make more sense to rent a home than to purchase one due to the mortgage rates and high costs of home ownership too unless a person could pay cash.

I watched the movie, Keeping Up With the Joneses, on Netflix a few days ago. It was commercialism at its worst irresponsible behaviors of what people are willing to do to stay competitive financially - even if - impulsiveness and reckless choices means loss of life, homes, or living period.

In this movie, the Jones were an uncover family hired by a marketing and sales promotion company. Their home, cars, technology and everything they wore were only to advertise a perfect life with a perfect home and the finest of furnishings and visually appealing luxuries that money could buy. It was a perfect hidden retail scheme.

In the movie, many fell for it by Keeping Up With The Joneses. Fake friendships. Fake relationships. Factual commercialism and money responsibilities lessons at its finest. Demi Moore and David Duchovny gave exceptional performances that allowed this movie plot to unfold into the devastating ending scheme that this "perfect family" was anything but affecting other lives because of their commercialism employment to defraud others. Sounds like real life huh?

So sad this movie wasn't a bigger hit than it was or that it is not viewed in schools and educational systems as a learning lesson on money matters of the factual cause and effects of financial matters or even as a tool to help young adults manage their money choices better.

We have become a spoiled financial careless nation America. A land where quick impulsive choices fuel our motivations immediately that we will regret later especially in our financial matters. Good enough is not good enough anymore. The math of money is not enough and will not be enough by the lifestyles we seek instead of simply appreciating what we already have.

Desperation does make us wiser especially in matters of math and money. It is usually through bankruptcy or some other unforeseen circumstance that comes along that a person begins to realize, admit and question their current financial spending and the chaos of their past before they learn or seek a better way to financially control their money.

It does not take a financial expert to produce control and savings in your life with your money. If you can not save up cash or pay on a layaway for something in manageable controlled payments - do you really need it or want it that bad that you are willing to pay 3 times the retail price for it?
High rate loans or high interest payments like Rent-To-Own or Rent-A-Center will increase your final price paid when making payment arrangements as this for items you purchase. Those rebuild credit gimmicks that lure you into a buy a new or used vehicle will only leave you paying for 2-3 vehicles for the price you will pay for 1 on these types of finance terms- is a higher cost really worth it to you in the long run?

How many turn their thermostats up in the winter to 70 degrees or beyond only to turn a fan on to cool it down or open your doors or walk around in shorts to keep from burning up? Have you ever thought about wearing joggers or warmer clothing and turning down your heat to save on electrical costs?

Have you ever considered using a Buy Here Pay Here car lot to purchase a slightly used but in good operational condition to purchase a vehicle? Most of their interest rates will be lower than a major car lot that finances would be.

But before you sign into any legal and financial agreement - think about the cost now and what it will cost you when it is paid for. To admit that you will pay 2-3 times the price of retail for something on credit; is not always worth it to make a purchase on an item that you may find other cheaper short term and long term costs. There are options out there - even on the tightest budget but that venture is for your learning to do.

Savings and investments take a little bit of knowledge about math and learning ways to accept practical living with in a budget. It really takes a lot more common sense of awareness than most would take the time to figure out until it is too late. It takes prevention homework before deciding to make that final purchase on any item with finance rates too.

I have learned my fair share of money errors more than anyone. To have those luxury items or to go on a trip that I knew I could not afford to do and the many other impulsive choices I have made with money. But I have found and learned that simplicity, being honest and practical about what I can and can not do on a budget is where the most peace I have ever gained from money matters are.

Money provides survival basics to life and necessities and that is it. Anything beyond that it to risk making impulsive choices and chasing an social acceptance illusion where irresponsibility gathers that most can not afford simply afford to do. May I recommend the movie, Keeping Up With the Joneses for you to watch - if you do not believe me?

With the Christmas season upon us and the money flying out the door quicker than it is coming in with shopping - try to be smart. Be wise.

Create a positive and negative list of gift ideas before you venture out. Think about it like this - will the person you are gifting really appreciate and be grateful for your gift purchased or if it will honestly merely be a waste of time and money this time next year? It is an investment of use in their life or merely a luxury that will be tossed to the side a year later?

To gift a person of how much they mean to you does not always require expensive gifts or a luxury they will not use anyways. So think about making a negative and positive list before you venture out shopping. This is one way to stop the impulsiveness and careless spending that holidays do provoke in a person.

I know it sounds absurd but maybe in the social game of financial matters one does need to  consider financially responsibility with gifts this year too. Cause when your ship sinks from financial matters - who will pay your bills? Who will help you out of bankruptcy? Who will assist you when you have no pennies left? Who will help you to gain financial control when you impulsively, reckless and irresponsible spend?

We all must learn how to become more responsible with our money. If our government can not control and manage their costs - at least we can try in our bills, our finances and controlling our own matters.

The economy will continue on as it always was. But the biggest contributions to the costs of living and bill increases of supply and demand come directly from us as consumers. So be wise and prevent yourself future worries of money matters by starting today and this holiday season to be wiser and more responsible than you have in prior years. Those who value financial responsibility will appreciate your efforts to be a wise shopper and those who do not, will not value your gifts anyways!