Psychological Awareness of Mindfulness

A Person I Used to Know could comprehend the difficult realities of her individual life but the lives of others was hard for her to relate in a personal manner. She could support. She could encourage. She could motivate. But more was still lacking in herself.

For the experiences of her immediate life had subjected her to much witnessing of: oppressions, depressions, suffering, economical surviving, financial incompetence and emotional deprivation. Alot of unhealthy immaturity from adults who should have knew or learned better!

The production of events she experienced in these childhood and youthful submissions while as a delicate and impressionable development ages deprived the basic necessities of life. She grew to realize that she had no clue of who she was or who she could be.

The unhealthy environment she was natured and nurtured in was not in the specific boundaries of her immediate family abuse she endured; but it was all the harmful religious concepts she witnessed around her and learning that injustices did occur to children by society with ineffective laws that failed to protect her and other children.

This experience created many mixed reviews, emotional defending, and a huge lack of sharing trust to anyone. She had not only witnessed the worst of primary examples of what not to be and survived them - but she also felt that she never fit in.
Finding her voice, her place and making sense of so much non-sense was beyond what education could even help her through at times of her life.

She didn't fit in with the educated - even tho - she could speak their language to hold a conversation but could never really help them understand the problems that do exist in this world to solve them.

She didn't fit in with the oppressors, depressors, and those of suffering who suffered more because of their choices to heal them self using what ever they could find.

For she saw their problems - but yet would internally secretly deny her own. By seeking to help others understand the life she had experienced in survival and seeing others in oppressions as having a problem that required solutions with awareness, prevention and effectiveness to solve their issues; she escaped her own internal instabilities.

It did not make her a bad person but it made her a very chaotic, in stable, immature, irrational, defensive, and stubborn person that burnt many bridges in her life with others. This person I share to speak about was me.

For the core that I needed to be myself was never taught, catered to maturity, or appreciated where I stood in life. Not by family,friends, loved ones, religion or in the educational system for many years.

Only bits and pieces of puzzles along the way that gave me just enough hope, insight, happiness, security, trust, truth, and facts of education of good experiences to keep moving forward in my life but never enough of these external pleasures to fill her completely within when she was alone in the thoughts, emotions, and internal consumptions of her own mind.

For the damages done within me of external deprivations produced internal instabilities with medical conditions that produced real and factual scientific and medical symptoms inside of me and it was alot to endure, take as fact of who I was and even harder to find effective solutions or treatments to counteract or find balance from all the damage within me.

In being a fact seeker and self-researcher all of my life to help myself; I eventually gained the education I needed to get me on the internal path I want to be on.

The stability I would need inside to stop panic attacks, fear, anxieties, compulsive worries, and my heart racing. The endless hours of crying have now stopped. Tears are in my control and that is something I have never had in my life until learning now a tool that has given me a control inside that no one can take from me.

I found what I needed to stop the damaging of triggers produced by my 5 senses from trauma I endured. Every thing I see, hear, smell, taste, and touch now is not a constant traumatic reminder of events in my life that I had no control over but an empowering new experience that I control.

The internal peace I have found has taken away the emotional instabilities and symptom productions in my brain and internal body. I got so tired of emotional defending my life upon deaf ears and in doing so - as I did years past - it only complicated my symptoms. Now it not defending; only sharing.

All of my former self has now been replaced with more open mind perceptions, concepts and notions that perhaps - I am right and you are right. That we both are wrong and that sometimes there is no solutions or no compromises in every situation. But the broader window I use to view myself and the world around me with, has grounded me in who I am truly and factually am of complete acceptance.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy - http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/ - was my saving education to get me on the path to emotional learning and emotional nurturing and opening in the window of my mind to move past my own experiences and allowing those emotions to breath in peace now.

To let the bad I experienced become a new strength without emotional or symptom conflicts. To set a goal and achieve it. To sit peacefully and do nothing at all but enjoy the calm within.

For DBT taught me how to open myself up to the possibilities that I am imperfect too. That I can not be a teacher, mentor, humane example of anything in life without first, learning how to be kind to myself when in the solitude of thoughts of my own mind.

I went to therapy yesterday and spent the afternoon enjoying myself in hobbies that I embrace daily.

To hear the word: "Progress"; from a professional therapist, doctor, or anyone is a wonderful feeling. It would be the equal of an employee hearing: "Promoted!" or a student hear they "Passed."

Since I have sought, done, did, and still continue to progress every day in my life. I know the bitter taste of accomplishment and the hard work that goes into making progress or effectiveness happen.

I know the self-motivation it does require for anyone to move past their oppressions, depressions, and abuses to simply go on with their life.

I finally freaking get that now and it feels wonderful. I do not have to ponder if I fit in ever again. I'll accept anyone as long as they are mature, healthy and problem solvers. But that is who I choose to be now.

I spent many wasted years upon the immature, unhealthy and problem creators. I only want to help others who wish to address their problems with maturity, healthiness and a personal drive that helps their situation and not hurt them self anymore.

I will never ponder again in unhealthiness or immature thoughts and emotions anymore. I respect views different than my own for their own experiences gave them lessons and mistakes - just as mine own did - and their education of experiences is valuable too. But we must seek to become problem solvers instead of problem creators and this is so important in one's self especially when they have a medical condition.

Even in my imperfections, medical conditions, and mistakes I have made - I can always keep learning to become a better, more complete, and more humane person than I was yesterday.

The world has suffered enough hardships. Every individual out there is plagued by something of the secrets of their minds and the emotional core of their souls. Until we realize that we are as much as a contributor to the pain of others - as we are our self - by the way we talk, the tone we use, the words we speak, the emotions that produce our actions; the pain will continue. The problems will still be there even if we try to run to escape to them or avoid facing them.

Some have good intentions of what they are doing but for many others - it is like being asleep in life to go through the motions of living or surviving - without being full conscious and aware to your own possibilities and the impact of consequences we do in our individuality and what we socially produce in life. We are all factually contributors to our humanity. Some take. Some give. Some share. But each independent action affects another.

Becoming aware to all that I am and still progressing into a journey that will probably never end with complete remission of healing or recovery from these experiences of my life; has still been the final key I have found to keep unlocking safely, effectively releasing and finally saying I am accomplishing the ultimate in my life. The hope I have of my life is within and now given outward.

For this awareness of awakening progression; allows me to be as forgiving to myself as I am others. To have patience with myself as I extend to others. To never treat myself again harshly in bad or negative or hurtful thoughts, emotions and internal conscience that I would not do to another.

For in saving myself and finding what I needed within;  I am gaining how to speak the universal language that others can understand and do. To share comprehension and understanding about life's greatest moments and the harshest facts of society that we share with individuals who do not reside in visual oppressions or know what economical or financial hardships are and how difficult surviving can be through abuse or trauma. How to give advice but also to take my own and eat those words I give or share for my own reminders and my daily complete soulful diet.

I share the following of facts about all that I speak. I share the facts that get produced when a person is not aware to self.

None of us are perfect. We will never be as productive, humane or as giving as we would like. We'll always have difficult people in our life. There will always be events that arise in our lives beyond our control.

But what we first perceive of life from within the core of our heart, mind, and silent thoughts and silent emotions can make the world a hopeful place worth contributing too or a horrific geography of terrible people that makes it a depressing place to be and to survive in.

Our brains allow us to communicate internally with our thoughts, emotions, and how we feel within. But until we learn that we can control these very empowering, humbling, and valuable assets within each of us - we will go along and continue to exist while only living as if we asleep with our eyes wide open and our conscious closed to the possibilities of what could be the greatest rewards waiting for us to open ourselves up to it.

Psychological - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/psychological
Of or relating to psychology
Of, relating to, or arising from the mind or emotions.
Influencing or intended to influence the mind or emotions
Of or relating to the mind or mental activity
Having no real or objective basis; arising in the mind
Affecting the mind
of, pertaining to, dealing with, or affecting the mind, esp. as a function of awareness, feeling, or motivation

Awareness - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/awareness
Having knowledge or cognizance
Vigilant; watchful.
Having knowledge of
Awareness of your own individuality

Mindfulness - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/mindfulness
Attentive; heedful:
the trait of staying aware of (paying close attention to) your responsibilities

I choose to use a bible verse for the cause and effect of what impulsiveness to defend in speaking does and produces. Good advice. To think before speaking. Direct consequences of a closed mind.

He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him. - Proverbs 18:13 -
Folly - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/folly
A lack of good sense, understanding, or foresight.
An act or instance of foolishness
A costly undertaking having an absurd or ruinous outcome.

Shame - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/shame
A painful emotion caused by a strong sense of guilt, embarrassment, unworthiness, or disgrace.
One that brings dishonor, disgrace, or condemnation
A great disappointment
To force by making ashamed
 to activate or motivate through shame

Avoidance is the majority of advice and recommendations that medical or scientific experts tell patients to do to maintain or control their health and to keep others safe.
With diabetics, it is to avoid excess sugar intake and monitor their levels. With those who get their eyes dilated, it is to wear these dark glasses and avoid sunlight following the procedure. With many mental, psychological, and emotional medical conditions - avoidance is the primary solution they give because they want to keep a person safe but also keep the population safe from the erratic and roller coasting one may do or even experience when doing something uncomfortable to them to decrease their symptoms.

By opening a new window upon your life - instead of viewing life through the same old window - with new information to build upon the old complexities, complications or medical conditions - it may even help you so that you will no longer cling to avoidance because you can grow or mature yourself to experience a world that is beautiful indeed and worth participating and contributing in after all.

The Person You Used to Be is not the Person You Should be Today. For if you are the same today as you were years ago or even decades ago - where are your daily objectives or fulfillment coming from? Where is your personal or individual fulfillment coming from when you are alone? Where is your drive? Where is your passion? Who do you share with now in your life that was not there even a year ago? Who do miss today that is no longer there for difficult reasons or death? When the world steps aside and you are solo - are you happy? Are you sad? Are you mad? Are you so alone that it burns the veins that pushes your blood to your heart? Is it other's fault for your life? Is it your fault for your life? Only you can answer these.
Only you know the problems that plaque your heart as well as the effects upon your life. But the good news is that we all can keep progressing, moving forward and the individual change is the power we all have. We just can not give up finding the tools we need to help us so we may change to never be the Person We Used To Know but become the Person We Want To Be.

Is there a Solution to End the Problem of Poverty?

A Person I Used to Know was a child and teen of the state and government assistance program here in America that taught her first hand what poverty did and what it was. What has poverty taught you? 

Poverty was what she wore upon the clothing upon her body and footwear upon her feet. Poverty was a single wide trailer that was below substandard living conditions that she called home. Poverty were the vehicles she rode in that carried her to the grocery store, medical appointments and to visit family when the feast of financials were good because odd jobs had been for cash that would provide gasoline. Clothing vouchers were the only school experience she was afforded set by a financial amount by the state and government. Medical assistance was provided by the system who approved who, what, when, how and why a person could or could not receive treatment.

This timeline duration of poverty was in the 80s and until the mid-90s of this Person I Used to Know until I graduated high school.

Even then, it was difficult to break off of the system of surviving poverty and rising above it. There was no formal training, education nor information given on how to break generational poverty of surviving government assistance as your own means of financially living. There was no talk from schools, the communities or resources of DHHR and government programs of how to contribute yourself to break dependency. You pretty much did it sacrificing your time, efforts, and learning as you go when entering the world where most have never touched poverty or experienced poverty before.

For the general consensus of my rural area about government or state dependency is that once you are on the system - you will be destined to be on the system your whole life.

For government dependants would get their necessities met without effort, laboring, motivation and even in hard times - financially it did provide you enough to live and survive in the poverty.

Why would a person want to work for their own benefits when they already know how to get benefits? These are the primary generational issues of poverty as one major problem to be solved.

When famine would come with increased electrical bills during the winter and no vehicular transportation could be obtained for mobility; the feet were taught to be your only mobility to depend upon and local church food pantries would put food on the table and their free clothes would fashion you if you outgrew your new school clothing vouchers allowance during the school year.

There was no pride to be found or be worn on the exterior of fashion when you would be wearing others used garments of personal clothes in bras, underwear or panties. Poverty was the gracious gifts of other's trash or cast offs. But without these necessities of survival and for those in poverty - there would have been more famine and possibly death. But giving government assistance without seeking something back in return is no way to assist those of poverty or even help them to break out these generational loopholes that create more dependants. This is a huge program of solving poverty. To understand poverty - one must understand the origin of that poverty; get active and motivated in their own life and the lives that depend on poverty government guidelines and seek to solve a resolution that will help those who have to depend on government for their poverty issues but help people understand that poverty is not a free hand-out for someone else paid for it even the second hand items that were donated. That no one gets a free life, even in poverty, complete dependency should never be upon the government to fit the bill for. For to abuse the rights of others who care enough to try is to bankrupt us all. When you have more takers than contributors to the cause; we all suffer and create and allow poverty to continue.

This person I Used to Know was me. This was what poverty was to me. I never knew poverty could be a choice and that it did not have to become a way of life until I choose to try to do every thing different in my adult life than what I witnessed and was done for me as a child and teenager in being a government dependant. I wanted more financial control than accepting the limits of government poverty. I wanted too and was willing to work to get out of that damaging, dangerous net of government dependency that becomes a lifestyle for many in America.

I will use my own experiences of America and why I feel poverty is not always a choice - but it is still a problem that needs to be addressed and sought solutions for.

Let's start by a look at how to potentially create solutions to end the problem of poverty. If you feel like I do; you know the positives and negatives of poverty because you were experienced the healthy and unhealthy environment of poverty or perhaps, growing up as financial dependant or even used government assistance to sustain you or your home during unemployment.

There can be more done to solve the problems of poverty but we must first understand what poverty is.

#1: What are the facts of poverty? Factually defined by: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/poverty.

** The state of being poor; lack of the means of providing material needs or comforts.

** Deficiency in amount; scantiness

** Unproductiveness; infertility

Renunciation made by a member of a religious order of the right to own property

** the state or condition of having little or no money, goods, or means of support;

** condition of being poor; indigence.

** deficiency of necessary or desirable ingredients, qualities, etc.

#2: What are the ramifications or social ill side effects of poverty?
In an article yesterday and on the Nightly News with Tom Brokaw - they announced a very staggering and shocking statistic: " World's 85 richest people have as much as poorest 3.5 billion."

Oxfam warns Davos of ‘pernicious impact’ of the widening wealth gap. Oxfam calculated that almost half the world’s wealth – $110trn – is owned by just 1 per cent of its population.

It said that 70 per cent of people live in countries where the gap between the rich and poor has widened in the last 30 years. $18.5 Trillion Dollars is the estimated amount the richest individuals & companies hide away in tax haves around the world! -
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/politics/oxfam-warns-davos-of-pernicious-impact-of-the-widening-wealth-gap-9070714.html

If the 85 richest people of the world would contribute back to the poorest of our 3.5 billion people or help the ones who are at least trying to help their self with families, jobs, education and being productive in their life - what kind of humanity could we create & prosper from?

I would say it is time we had an internationally uniting of global taxation sharing! Let tax allowances and credits be given to only growing humanity organizations, individual housing for another, or contribution to food banks, provide geographical shelters, creating effective jobs with wages that pay and meet the needs of an employee above the poverty limit & give tax benefits to help people live & not just financially survive.

No more tax credits on objects, materials or possessions of the individual tax payer nor to the genetic kinship or those write-offs of individual interest & financial prosperity that produce greed.

Instead develop write-off credits and deductions that would contribute back to the people to build people up and increase our global humanity by giving help where it is needed. Give a new tax credit or deduction program that would increase financial equality of lives so they may learn and work and contribute to the overall process of giving back by what was given to help them through a fair, equal, and humane taxation system.

Evaluate homes, properties, materials, and audit the finances of tax filing for these wealthiest. Really evaluate to see if they are really being used a tax credit by having a vacant unused lot or if they are used as primary homes or vacation homes or just a loophole of writing properties off for the wealthy! Look at old buildings to see if they are really being used as the tax write off says they are or if they are using loopholes of the tax system to rip off the government they pay their taxes too! Audit the richest & leave the poorest of tax payers alone & work toward creating a taxation system that gives back to humanity - produces humanity and one that will create self-sustaining adults who will have a chance to be an equal opportunity employer instead of this gap of wealth versus poor who keep becoming poorer and more dependant on the systems the government creates!

Create tax structures that build up the people & do not divide & take away from them anymore. Give people the lacking tools they have to help increase their chances through education to increase their quality of life & not taxation programs that decreases financial equality to live and produce nothing.

If the 85 richest people of the world would contribute back to the poorest of our 3.5 billion people or help the ones who are at least trying to help their self with families, jobs, education and being productive in their life - what kind of humanity could we create & prosper from? What more potential would individuals of medical conditions have if they had someone to invest into quality medical care they need instead of simply writing a prescription to send them on their way? What if

How can anyone sleep peacefully at night knowing that their personal worth of life shouts financial shame, greed & selfishness? I hope that money buys them morality & gives them humanity while they have it here on Earth - for their day will come that they too - shall face death & they can not buy eternity - no matter what their monetary value, assets, & material worth is here.

Possible solutions to stopping poverty.

-Take time to understand why poverty exists in each geographical area in every individual that applies or gets approved for assistance. Face the problem to solve it and not merely give benefits for nothing in return.

- Find out the educational level of the adults seeking assistance. Increase educational opportunities for individuals on government or state assistance - that if a person receives assistance - then they must achieve higher education or additional training to be qualified for assistance or drug testing to stay qualified.

- Give financial training to all individuals of government or state assistance. Teach them to manage their finances wisely and why they must contribute wisely to the effectiveness of the monies, benefits or medical assistance they receive.

- Take more research time to understand the mature and immature aspects of all medical symptoms. When viewing medical symptoms as a mature or immature reaction to a medical condition - a person can be helped to learn how to help them self. They did not choose to have a medical condition but they should be medically accountable to their course of active treatment too.

- Learn when a symptom is a mature effect or immature upon the health of a person's body, brain, and mind and invent ways to counteract these immature and unhealthy symptoms to produce more mature control and effective treatment.

- The high revenue business of pharmaceutical will not solve the core of medical problems or symptoms that many individuals have. For the symptoms are there but with a fast solution of a pill that can help ease the symptoms - it will not eradicate the symptoms.

- Seek more to understand the psychology, emotional abilities, intellectual properties of individuality and the personal aspects of a patients life to understand their direct course of action in treating an individual as they should be instead of a one size fits all treatment plan.

- To invalidate any human being and the experiences they have endured with out giving them mature options or educational opportunities they need; even in emotional fulfilling and maturing; we are enabling and creating the mayhem of prescription drug addictions and forcing individuals to believe they are different and can not be helped and should be treated as such. This is inhumane and crazy!  But if we invested as much into prevention or origin of the cause of medical complications for a patient - then we could understand what happened in their body or brains to effectively help them to help them self and not create medical dependants too.

- Seek to create an effective humane education program in our school systems to improve a child and teenagers understanding of how to become personally mature, motivated, encouraged and educated to rise above the obstacles of the teachings their parents or legal guardians presented to them.  It will be more cost effective to invest into our youth the education they need to be healthier, mature and more balanced adults than it is to repair the broken adult they will become from disadvantaged homes that poverty does create.

- Seek a fair and equal taxation program that rewards incentives and credits or deductions for being a contributor to society, individuals and humanity that we globally share. Instead of making taxes a self-financial reward program.

- If our taxes were established to give programs, assistance and assist the humanity of our shared societies - then why could it not be revamped to ensure equal opportunity for all instead of the selected few? Could changing the system produce more emotional, fulfilling, and personal validation of rewards to be a good, positive and contributor to others be more rewarding than the financial gold these selected individuals sit on? Why reward those who are rich - just for being rich? Why put those of poverty into deeper poverty because we give them no options, choices, chances or equal opportunities to grow them self in a competitive, healthier, mature and educated way too?

- A generational evaluation of person's life is beneficial when detailing the medical aspects of what a person's health conditions are or could potentially be. Why do not all aspects of human life revolve around these origins of generational evaluations?
- One's life of youth can detail what they were taught by their parents or legal guardians. Their views of the world, religion, politics, financial responsibility or financial immaturity and dependency is all learned in their youth days. The adults they will become to grasp, reach or create opportunities for them self will either be running to escape all they knew to better their adult life or they become as partakers in the comfort of poverty or decreased opportunities as their way of life. They choose to living in the same familiar deprivations that their youth days taught them for the price of personal loss is harder to walk away from. They are weakened by failures of parents, guardians, and a broken system that contributes to their brokenness.

- Teen mothers. Drug addicts. Substance abusers. Domestic Violence. Incest. Child Abuse. Criminals. Educational drop-outs. Prescription drug abuse. Individuals seeking medical treatments to personal fill their self. Chaotic, erratic, destructive and sometimes deadly relationships prove the damage of poverty and the stress effects of financial hardships. Damaged children. Wounded Adults. - Where does the effects of poverty end and when will it be viewed for the serious ramifications that it produces not only in today's generation but generations from now on?

The good intentioned program of government and state assistance programs do help many survive poverty where they would have no other way to ensure they have shelter, food, medical and necessity care in their lives.

But for those who can - we need to help them do. For those who truly can not do to help them self - then we need to ensure that they do have their required necessities to live - but make sure that we have enough people who can and are willing to contribute to the cause of helping those who truly can not help them self and help those who can.

The spirit of every individual human heart has a fire that fuels their dreams, inspirations, motivations, and gives them encouragement to do something good, positive and to feel the wonderful rewards of helping others.

Usually this fire is only alive in the heart of a child or an immature teenager with false perceptions and no factual course on how to achieve those dreams. Adults wake up to the cruel reality of fighting to survive, fighting to overcome, and fighting the financial inequalities that taught us that good enough has to be good enough and there is nothing more.

Adults quit reaching for the stars and just accept what ever is in front of them. For to break the damaging cycles of generational impacts of teachings is hard to divorce and remove one's self from.

The only support or the lack of support these dreamers have are those closest to them in teaching and upbringing. The educational systems teaches the principles of math, language techniques, proper behavior of rules in conduct but does nothing to educate a person how to be an individual to seek their own goals, dreams, and give fulfilling purpose in one's life.

To go alone in a world of strangers, cold faces, hard driven hearts and non-caring people is the worst feeling in the world to experience.

Very few can persevere to reach out past the cold hands of a stranger to see the positive hearts of support they can obtain once they break their own cycle of generational impact. But to each their own experiences and what they do with them, I suppose.

For the problems we have now - will still continue to be unsolved problems tomorrow and in future pages of history because every one ignores the problems, fails to understand the problem, and no active contributors to
solve the problems.

I have always saw every being as having a beautiful talent, positive potential, and can see the humanity in their hearts that is hidden beneath the exterior of their appearance and the actions they do.

But if no one believes in them - they will not believe in their self. If no one encourages them; they will become discouraged. If they are hurting and no one helps ease their hurt; they will usually hurt them self further or those in their life.

When many are programmed to believe that they are nothing - they will become nothing.

Every one is some one though! But until we learn how to grow and invest into every one that they are some body; we'll continue to have a world where only a few are known as somebody while the rest of us are merely nobodies that are created by programs, system failed efforts and defective taxes that teach us that we are nobody.

Is that really what any one wants any person to perceive about taxes, working, and living to survive in this shared society? That taxes are only for the wealthy to prosper and the rest of us are just nobody in our small contributions?

To end poverty we need solutions. For what we have today - is not working and has not been working. Any contributors to the cause? Not many from my experience of life~I think and share. I vocally announce to the geographical politicians I can. I correspond with DHHR. To no avail. I can only share and hope that one day, some one will take today's problems as I do and want more like I do to help myself and others in my journey of life. How about you?

How does a Person Become Motivated?

A Person I Used to Know never intentionally thought about the word or action of motivation or even how motivation applied to her life. For her actions would occur naturally in her life choices and the actions she did.

She did not think of rewards, incentives or anything positive to obtain for her self. She just did without thinking, many times, seeing a problem that needed fixed and just do it without thought. Or she would completely ignore the problem at hand, to do something, that seemed more important and pretty soon - the chaos escalated into unpaid bills, piles of debt, repossessions and unemployment.

The priorities of finding and gaining responsible motivation was the hardest lessons she learned about her self and her life. Having medical conditions increased her confusions, lack to focus on priorities, and many times propelled to take the fun, happy or entertaining choice versus the serious responsible choice.

She figured since she would die anyways from her complex medical condition of seizures - so why not live it up!

Every day was a new day to achieve what she wanted, gain what she sought for daily fulfillment, and to take come what may - disregarding that she was as much to her own problems creations of her personal life as she was a solver to her problems too. She knew that applying a responsible and mature motivation to her life would be a very difficult personal struggle that not only affects her self but every one in her life. But she knew if she did find and seek change to her old behaviors and actions; that it would not only lead her to be unfulfilled but the damages of her life would only escalate hurting every one who knew her too. For she could help others to face their mirrors of their life but she could never pick up the mirror of her life and who she really was.She could not face her self. She was not a bad person but she was an internal incomplete person.

This person I Used to Know was me. It's sad that it took many lessons and experiences of my life to learn the hard way -  just how immature and irresponsible I was.

But the value behind the lessons has taught me to personally respect the value in individual responsibility and accountability. That to ever truly experience reward or individual incentive to personal growth -  then one has to admit their own faults, realize and admit their mistakes and then correct behavior now to change the course of their life to really steer it and be in control; even in the storms that arise.

Circumstances and events happen to us through out our entire life. These events and circumstances should never define who we want to maturely be or how we impulsively react immaturely.

Now, mind you, for most - it is simply easier to follow a lifestyle or learned behavior so we can continue to be accepted by one's family, friends or partners - than it is to take an individual stand for one's self to admit, accept and define what and who we are personally.

Usually by the time an individual realizes who they are or admit that they need to change to achieve what they want in life - it is usually too late. For the past has produced damage to self or to others. But it is never too late for anyone to achieve, become or grow into who they want to be now and for the future.

For centuries - those closest to us and even social majority dictate to us that biological age limits or restricts what a person can or can not do. To a degree - this is a fact about human life.

As one ages, it does become harder and presents obstacles for the brain to absorb, learn and grow with new information. Medical problems or issues can also make us more susceptible to different medical factors as we age - but nothing in impossible - unless we really believe it to be so.

In the individual core of each of us who live today is an emotional human being, an imperfect  heart, and with error to what we believe to be true about self versus the facts of what or who we really are to our self ~ as much as anything anyone ever really does to us. We cry. We feel. We experience laughter. We long for sharing with others who accept us, enjoy us, appreciate us and who are grateful for us in their life.

In being individually defined and seeing yourself as a work in forward progress through out your life. This makes it easier to forgive one's self for the mistakes or choices made; even when others are not so willing to forgive.

It is easier to have compassion, passion, and unconditional love to one's self when one is not afraid to admit their own personal motivations and imperfections too. To create now who we always wanted to be or should have been. We owe it to our self to seek change in our life. To constantly build new upon the old of our former self. Age has nothing to do with it. Our individual experiences do have everything to do with it though!

Motivation is a personal and individual journey to each their own destination to create, define and actively achieve and pursue as your own contributor. No one else can motivate you - but you. You are the source of your own fuel in life.

A blank canvas waiting for you to paint the colors of your life. A blank record waiting for you to sing the song of your life upon it. An ink pen waiting to dance the words that describe who you are or who you want to be. A pile of fabric waiting for you to sew the pieces that make up who you are as in a quilt. The mechanics, the professional, the professor, the doctor, the lawyer, the educated, or merely do nothing. For the choice is yours by what you actively contribute to your life or do not contribute to your self will primarily be what you get or do not get in life. For it really has nothing to do with others and never did!

Motivation can be achieved for anyone by anyone. There is way; where there is individual will.
Sometimes, it does come from new education - even in the simplest of elementary skills or adolescent learning - even if you are 100 years old - it is never to late to build new upon the old of your life. I speak from personal experience.

I have given many speeches and live readings of my poetry, experiences of my life, survival, living, trauma, motivating, inspirational, teaching, encouraging, and promoting learning through awareness to build community or humanity focusing that most would never realize how much I have used social media, the Internet, YouTube, Facebook, My Space, business websites, and even my own personal website maintaining years ago to keep my own self motivated in life by my creations and sharing. Sharing the learning I learned the hard way or opening doors for others who never realized they could. By sharing our perfections and imperfections; we learn how to grow from the bad and embrace the good and happiness when it comes along too.

Simply sharing my progresses, regressions, depressions, successes and failure - I do not share as an expert but I share what I learned of the failures to help others from enduring the same bad choices I have made or to help encourage others that they can do what they want in life too. To help others learn how to pick their self up, even when doing it alone, how it will be worth it - each time you keep getting back up.

We only live once and usually more will occur to us - than what will be of our control. But what we do with the outcome of what we are forced to accept - is where our motivation is waiting upon us to grasp us.

In learning about emotions like a child would who has endured a loving, supportive and educated home - I am gaining what I never had from my own childhood and youth experiences. I am building new upon my old and have never felt more happy, secured in who I am and even those difficult people do not appear so difficult anymore because of it. I am giving me what I needed for me.

I also realize how far behind I am in the intellectual, logical and rational reasoning of emotions I  was and how unhealthy that was to me and for me and those in my life.

For decades of my life were spent in a survival mode of living based upon immature actions and reactions. Alot of immature impulses that gave way to irresponsible and immature decisions created by a youth's compulsiveness versus that of an adult age individual.

But it is never too late for me to learn all that I was deprived of in my old life as a victim and survivor. It is never to late to build new upon the old of self!

For we are prone in society to view our biological age and prior experiences of our life as information that we pull from in how we act, react, and what we do now.

This is individual deprivation of self that any person can do and follow for their ways of life. I speak from experience.

Of all the topics I have shared in my life - talking about emotions; emotional intelligence and learning to build new upon old - is still the most complicated and complex topic - I have found yet to discuss and find others who share my views. For many of common age or older than me do see life as another problems instead of viewing self as an inquiring waiting to be answered.I was guilty of this mind set for years too. I didn't have the problem but every one else did. But when I started asking and seeking answers to my own deprivations within - I found my mature and responsible motivations as well as; filling an old unfillment I never had but am learning to gain for myself! I have never felt stronger nor more medically stable in my life.

When we get cemented into old beliefs, old certainties of who we are and what we do - we will never progress. We never change. We expect different outcomes for our life - without ever doing anything differently or being a contributor to our own self. Many get stalled in life by the choices they make, accept, and they lose personal motivation or self change.

We can change the world we live in and share together. But that change must be personally and individually catered to bettering one's self by the experiences each lives and survives. To take the old of self seriously and work to build new again from within.

It is not easy - but is very well worth the effort of time invested in learning to be the person we want to be. If you are not proud, happy, humble, appreciative, grateful, and peaceful with your internal self - then where do you think it will come from? Others? Money? It will not and can not. It can only come from within.

SO can you motivate yourself - Yes! But only if you want too. For A Person You Used to Know exists in you too. Do you like your old self? Do you like who you were 5 years ago? What about 10 years ago? Do you like who you are today? Asking and answering questions about your self and then being honest of what you like about yourself and what you do not like about your self is the only way to find the answers you seek to solve about your life. Then being brave, courageous, and motivated to do something about it as only you can.

Facts of motivation - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/motivation -
The act or process of motivating
The state of being motivated 
Something that motivates; an inducement or incentive.
The psychological feature that arouses an organism to action toward a desired goal;
the reason for the action;
that which gives purpose and direction to behaviour

Quotes of Motivation
Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. –Napoleon Hill

Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. –Albert Einstein

The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. –Emelia Earhart

The past is a ghost, the future a dream. All we ever have is now. –Bill Cosby

We become what we think about. –Earl Nightingale

Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans. –John Lennon

Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. –Charles Swindoll

Does American Taxes Irritate You?

If you are like most Americans; then you get tired of paying taxes or reading and hearing headlines about the national deficits we are in. You are tired of being aggravated by a Net income to take home versus the Gross income you should be allowed to take home instead by paying taxes.

You maybe exhausted from balancing facts about a tax structure in America that is not fair nor realistic or fair for the working Middle Class that seems to slowly be disappearing into poverty. 

You are not alone. For I feel your irritation, frustrations and constant complaining too. But without  pursuing change to solve this personal problem and actively contribute to stabilizing the national problem of finances - nothing will change. So what can a person do when frustrated about our national financial woes and personal income blows?

Get active. Get involved. The following I have written and sent to my local House of Representatives, Congress and to President Obama. 

Email contact or electronic communications makes it very easy for your voice and concerns to be heard by our government. We can only fail in our attempts to seek a positive and effective change when we do nothing at all. 

Copy and paste is a wonderful electronic feature to compose a letter email to submit your local politicians. Research who the politicians are in your district of the House of Representatives, Congress and President email contact information. Copy and paste this information in a text file that can be compiled and saved documentation of their email address. Then copy and paste your written letter to them. Hit send and it is done.

That way when something bothers you, irritates you, frustrates you or you have a country inquiry or local issue occurs that you would like to express to your elected leaders - you will have their information of contact on electronic speed dial of a saved file.

I have personally for decades written politicians on many matters regarding medical, finances, education, Veterans, children, elderly, disabled, preventing child abuse, building awareness to stop child abuse, and voicing my support of their work and suggesting ideas about my concerns to stop the national and state problems we have. 

It is never for naught. For making an effort to contribute and to seek effective change begins with only one idea that needs to be shared. Sometimes, it is will be a win and sometimes, these communications may appear to be a loss. 

But the only fact of not trying is to fail anyways. So you have nothing to fear, nothing to lose or nothing to gain when communicating to your politicians. They are imperfect human beings as we are. 

Their mistakes affect and impact all of our lives and the equality of humanity we share in America. You deserve to be heard. I deserve to be heard. 

But if we do not take a few minutes to be heard to make it happen - we get the exact country with laws & policies & finances that we consent too by doing nothing. We can not expect change to occur with being active. Humanity takes active contributions to create progression and prevent regressions or oppressions. If we do not progress in our actions to get involved - we regress our society but also our immediate lives too.

A Person I Used to Know instilled in me as a young child that it was an American honor, privelege and rewarding to vote in this country. For this lady I Used to Know was limited in resources, finances, education, and neccessities to live upon most of her life, but the contagious excitement of happiness she had by voting was a happiness expression of reward she proudly displayed upon her smiling face. 

For she had lived and survived the worst inequalities that women struggled with in her day. But her fuel to try and contribute to the political process - with even only a vote- gave fuel to my own compassions to actively vote and communicate in electronic messaging with elected politicians as my extended contributions to our humanity too. This person was my maternal grandmother. 

For our experiences maybe different, but our struggles of finances and economy are the same. For their experiences as a politician may give them another view to see life from than what we see every day - but the value of each individual experience still deserves to be shared. For education by the people and for the people of shared experiences is still the greatest lessons about humanity and socially living to share and to use to create effective change and continue effective progression from. 

I ask anyone who feels compelled to see effective changes in this country to get motivated to communicate to your politicians to seek the change you want to see or to solve the problems that you see exist. They can not know your concerns if you do not tell them. 

For the political process maybe long and lengthy but it is not out of reach or too far fetched to get involved for anyone who cares enough to share their voice. Politicians are people just like us. You may have never been a Person that You Used to Know about politics and who only complained - but once you send that first email to them - to become a Person You Want to Be to promote, seek, and actively pursue positive and effective change in this country; you will feel the rewards of contributions that my grandmother and I do too.

You may copy and paste the information below if you would like ot submit an email to your local district political leaders. Copy and paste the following, if you agree, or you can even view it to get your own composition content together of what you would like to say to them and be heard of by them. But good luck to you to get actively involved. Contributions of our thoughts, ideas, or suggestions or complaints by electronic communications is the greatest assets we as Americans have at our fingertips to help assist our America to become the country we want it to be. But without being active; it is wasted words without evidence or facts and isn't that what most of our politicians and their policies are doing anyways? Create change. Be the change. It starts with each individual in this country.

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I would like to Thank You for the job you do to provide service to help Americans. However, some of the controversial Yes & No voting you have done has created hypocrisy about the support you truly represent & factually give in voting on financial matters for our Veterans, elderly, children & disabled individuals in this country along with the Middle Class of Americans who work every day & contribute to paying taxes.

I have a few questions & enlightening financial matter to share with you about taxes in this country.

I seek no resolution or feedback. But I do strongly request a tax structure change to help our economy & benefit those who do work every day to keep the wheels of this country moving round & round. We need tax structure change to move our country forward. We have stalled financially long enough in this high debt to tax payers contributions ratio.

Our children & future generations should not have to solve our math problems that we failed to be aware of or neglected to fix today. They should not have to be the ones to work humanely, maturely & equally together in financial matters because we failed them by denying these financial problems & failing to give effective corrections to these math problems today. If we can not teach them how to be mature, equal, humane and financially responsible today - then how will they learn tomorrow? Who solves America's financial woes? Who is accountable?

Who is this tax paying system really benefiting & doing a favor?  

The way I view taxes, from where I live, is that we as taxpayers are financing a government loan program financed by tax payers with no interest on these loans to benefit the borrower. 

The standard deductions and exemptions do nothing to help American workers who are raising families who are living under $100,000 income a year.

For every $20 dollars an American employee pays out in their Gross wages to taxes - that's $20 less dollar of Net income these individuals will not have to put food on their table now. $20 dollar less of Net income to have to save to cover their medical care expenses of cash co-pays or expensive cash deductibles. $20 in Net pay they do not have to even reward their child for a good score on their report card. Tax deductions from Gross pay does directly impact the Net lifestyle of working class Americans! This does matter.

The cost of living in America increases faster than the rates that standard deductions & exemptions give  beneficial relief to working class Americans when paying government taxes to financially survive in America! The families and employees of this country feel this Net to Gross monthly burdens. Our government does not.

The down side to paying taxes & working is a dilemma for some working individuals from what others have shared with me. 

It appears that it would be financially wiser for some - these days to give up a full-time career employment position to take a part-time job or minimum wage job to get government benefits - to supplement their neccessity costs of living - than it is to seek a higher paying job that will deduct more from their Net pay than the Gross pay allows an employee to take home!

Net & Gross incomes comes down to filling financial necessities. Housing, electrical, water, medical, & food. This type of dilemma is not what Americans employees should have to consider. If the system was equally & fairly set by law in tax structure than it would give justice for the citizens who try, contribute & want to supply the necessities for their life. But in this unfair, unequal taxation system that we have - what would you choose to do if you were facing these same options about your financial situation for your home and meeting your financial neccessity needs?

America needs a new effective & equal tax structure overhaul to benefit our wealthiest but more importantly to benefit those who do contribute every day in working & lawfully paying their taxes who survive on the crumbs of financial survival that the government gives us.

Many employees sacrifice their time to achieve the financial comfort they want in life. This works for them.

But Middle Class Americans prefer a more stable balance of not seeking fortune or fame but value their time to be with their families to keep family & communities alive & thriving. But without benefits to survive on financially - they can not do this & the very foundation of this country crumbles with it by the disappearing of the Middle Class Americans who can not financially afford to survive. Their time becomes deprived to create a financial survival instead of a financial living with their families.

What would happen if our American government would stop taking Gross tax deductions from employee paychecks and instead allow employees to file their annual taxes with an invoice to pay their taxes in 30 days from date of filing?

Imagine if our government would stop being financed by every working individual in each payday they receive & had to wait upon us to pay them - as we wait upon them with our refunds? Imagine what our government would do then - if they got nothing until the end of the year filing time by the taxpayers?

Do you think that this would pinch their Net & Gross income pockets of their spending --- as it does the American taxpayers who frown upon their Net take home pay versus their Gross pay? I would call this financial equality in America, if it could be done.

Do you think this could solve the wasting of tax dollars in this country if the USA Governmnet had to wait upon the taxpayers - instead of the taxpayers waiting on our government to repay us for the taxes they borrow from us?

Poverty & working class should never mesh in lifestyle neccesity equality - for when it does - as it has been the last few decades - something positive needs to be effectively changed or our government will be creating more government dependants by the programs these employees have to use to supplement their food, medical and necessity needs.

Why can't taxpayers charge our American government interest on the money they take out of our Gross income that they do not use? Isn't that what any smart or wise business person would do in any loaning program?

Just several thoughts, ideas, and suggestions I have for you to ponder when doing your job and dealing with American finances, budgets and tax payer money.

Politics is employment secured by the American people. Please never forget who you work for and be wiser, braver, courageous and humane with maturity to deal with difficult politicians around you to do the right thing for the people of this country who depend on you to do the right thing for them.

There are some of us as citizens -  who do care about our politicians, pray for our country leaders & who do voice our concerns of enlightenment to you. We contribute to the process in our American lives to better our selves but also give hope to assist others in our political process.

Thank you for your time and attention. No feedback is required. Just sharing thoughts about a financial problem that does exist in this country known as our taxes and financial corruption and lack of political accountability.

 I reserve my right to use the tools of the Internet as a resource to try to voice my contributions to living an American dream about a system that I still believe in and those who work to make it possible. Thank you for your time & consideration to these concerns.

Are you Maturely Informed or Immaturely Opinionated?

A Person I Used to Know was not balanced in the individuality of her self. For she was maturely informed on many topics and subjects of life but very immaturely opinionated too.

The emotional bearings upon her life from her immature opinions based upon her emotions, feelings, thoughts and shared verbal ideas were as an eagle flying one second and as an ant barely moving the next.
For the mature information she obtained through experience and knowledge helped her achieve the goals in her life that helped her feel like an eagle flying. But the immaturity of her opinions of defending her emotions, feelings, thoughts, and actions became a roller coaster of erratic behavior, moods, and emotional instability to stall her at the speed of an ant.

For she felt that the survival of her life experiences as a victim and moving on past survival was something that she should be proud of and no one could tell her what she could be maturely informed about anything or what she could not be immaturely opinionated about. For her traumatic experiences were an accomplishment she did achieve because she survived. If she had not done all she could learn of how to survive and how to live - she would not be alive.

But no one could nor would nor should - excuse her immaturity - not even the traumatic circumstances she endured that she leaned on as an adolescent strength with her opinions of her life and the lives of others.
For accountability and responsibility of consequences must be maturely dealt with no matter what her life experiences done to her or what happened to her. For without accountability and responsibility to the consequences she choose - she was no more advanced or healthy than those who hurt her because she would be hurting others in her immature actions, words, and verbal vomit too.

This immature defense mechanism or survival skill was to protect her self from others. For she learned the unhealthy immaturity through the nature and nurture of her upbringing of traumatic circumstances. But the more she matured and gained healthy and mature knowledge; she realized that she did not have anything to defend or explain about herself anymore.

For every topic she shared or discussed with others, was her choice to do. For a long time she felt compelled to always explain her self with paragraphs when asked questions versus the simple statements of: Yes or No - that every one else did.

She did gain through her experiences knowledge of being as a teacher, mentor and inspirational state of mind that consumed her to help others to become aware about child abuse; help survivors to get help and use their stories to help others; and to support victims who were still struggling with the after effects of their childhood abuse. But she was an imperfect, immature, and destructive whirlwind at times too because of her internal mature and immature battles.

But she began to learn  how to effectively contribute to any mission, objectives, or focus of assisting others by becoming maturely informed and not use her own immature opinions anymore.

For life was not about her anymore when she reached legal age of consent. But it was about what she could do for others and still contribute to the progress of learning for her self. It was not an easy journey. It was the hardest learning lessons that she endured - but I can say this person is doing better today in balance, stability, and medical health than she has her prior  life by the new healthier and mature learning she is gaining and applying in her life. This person was who I used to be and will never be again. For every day - I have a focus to learn something new for myself to help me mature, be informed and not opinionated anymore.

A Person I Used to Know is a personal evaluation of self. To see where a person was 1 year ago - 5 years ago - 10 years ago and where a person is now. To be honest, truthful, loyal, and kind to internal self with thoughts, emotions and what you think and feel. To not be afraid to see the mistakes you made in your former self and seek to find ways to change the negatives or unhealthy or immaturity to produce more positivity, healthiness, and maturity in your life. To feel accomplished while feeling the humble sting of humility that makes us human in admitting and correcting our mistakes. Shame is only produced in a person when we see a problem and fail to solve or admit the problem exists. Shame is what we all carry because we know the mistakes, we see the problems, we know our deficiencies and our weaknesses but yet we seek nothing to change it to produce maturity, positivity and increase our health quality of life.

We become as lazy comfort takers instead of focused contributions to the family of humanity.

Many people are not informed today. For opinions have taken control of how a person should feel, think, act, and react in life. The associations we form and bond with of our earliest experiences will produce a cause and effect upon our adult life. For many adults will make choices based upon what they endured from their adolescent days. College and career choices are usually the idea or pronounced course of action that comes directly from of a parent or guardian and not the student. To graduate high school or not graduate high school becomes either a focus of importance to have in life or not viewed as important by what the adults did to secure education in a youth's life. Marriage or relationships that a person chooses in their adult life will either be by personal choice without opinions or it will be as an escape, way out or even to create a foundation of life that a person never received in their minor aged of being "home" - where ever and whom ever that home was with.

A Person I Used to Know can ask and answer their own questions they have about their life and the experiences they endured. But very few value the importance of self-evaluation; self-analysing and do not take it literally in actions to become a better, healthier or more humane person today than they were yesterday.

The medical complications of my life have taught me to evaluate and never fear to analyze my self. For the effectiveness of my healthiness or unhealthiness and my contributors or catastrophic of my health - help me to understand where I was at in my symptoms yesterday and where I am today. This medical progression and evaluation of self has probably saved my life many times because I am just as busying helping myself to become better than I was yesterday as I try to still reach out to help others who need it too; even if only sharing a blog of provoking others to think and do for their self.

We spend our whole lives allowing others to define, detail, describe, and give adjectives to who we are. Our parents or adult guardians, teachers, professors, professionals, medical, science, and even the employers who score us. But when we fail to realize the evaluation of our self - we become as every one else. We do what every one wants us to do. We become as they choose for us. Self-evaluation is the only way to ensure that you are and can be the person you want to be.

Think about the math of life. For the first 18 years (or until legal age of adult consent)- you are under the control, care, and responsibility and accountability of another. For the next 60 years after that - ( average adult life) - you are in control. You are the problem solver or problem creator. You are the primary source of your accomplishments, happiness, education, growing and maturing to be who you want to be.

For 60 years will be your years to choose to do how you want and how you wish. The accountability, care, control, and responsibility of your life fall solo upon you. You can never start new but you can learn how to build new upon the old to help yourself.

Tornadoes, hurricanes, floods and Mother Nature disasters has been destroying lives and homes for years. But what do people do upon the old when destroyed? They rebuild new again. You must find the new you need to rebuild healthier, happier, and a mature focus than what the world done for you. It is the only way to promote and progress effective changes in your life. Don't we all deserve that?

For decades, since the evolution of Social Media and the Internet has became a household familiar asset - conversations have decreased from paragraphs to one line or two line statements with printed shortcuts of acronyms. Full sentences and paragraphs or clear messages of effective communication are not embraced nor shared anymore - especially online!

Twitter, Facebook, MySpace, and text are not about the quality you share but the limited quantity. What a deprivation of communication we truly have while engaging in these conflicting, limited and useless content of opinionated laziness of our social media we do that lacks validity to the maturity of words we use anymore. We become more opinionated and less informed as this social culture continues.

The more we forget to value and promote effective communication with information versus opinions - the more our humanity toward one another regresses and will continue too. The problems increase faster than effective solutions can be given to stop them. The more we produce this type of ineffectiveness of our communication for the potentials we could be and create in life - the more our generation suffers and those after us. Who is cleaning up whose messes if we all cast off tomorrow's problems instead of solving them today?

We have two choices in life to apply to our direct life. We can learn how to become informed with facts and stop spreading the opinions that damage. Or we continue with our immature opinions and disregard the facts of being informed. We become exactly our own unhealthiness, continued immaturity and sail in life that will never be nothing but trying to escape over a wall that each individual built or to try to escape out of a box that we chose to stay in.

Education never dies - it only becomes forgotten and is treated as invalid with each generation. Education can not be beneficial to anyone's health, finances, economy or geography with out embracing it to learn information versus invalid opinions.

Do not forget to learn how to grow the Mature Information in your life to help you. Only each individual can truly help their self. For to deny self, the ability to learn, grow, and mature is to become as the social majority of immaturity and deprivations they say you should have. No one should ever do that to their self or allow others to do this to you. For every individual is a human being and deserves to be treated as such. But to treat others as a human being; we must first learn maturely how - beginning with self.

Notice the positive, healthy, and motivating words that informed produces.
INFORMED: Possessing, displaying, or based on reliable information; Knowledgeable; educated; possessing an education; having knowledge and spiritual insight.

INFORMED ADJECTIVE: knowledgeable, up to date, enlightened, learned, primed, posted, expert, briefed, familiar, versed, acquainted, in the picture, plugged-in (slang), up, abreast, in the know (informal), erudite, well-read, conversant, au fait (French), in the loop, genned up (Brit. informal), au courant (French). - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/informed

Notice how negative, unhealthy, selfish, and discouraging that opinionated is.
OPINIONATED: Holding stubbornly and often unreasonably to one's own opinions.

OPINIONATED ADJECTIVE: dogmatic, prejudiced, biased, arrogant, adamant, stubborn, assertive, uncompromising, single-minded, inflexible, bigoted, dictatorial, imperious, overbearing, obstinate, doctrinaire, obdurate, cocksure, pig-headed, self-assertive, bull-headed. - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/opinionated

Are you going to learn how to get informed? Are you going to continue to be opinionated as an ignorant or inhumane person would be?

Can Medical Symptoms Increase or Decrease with Mature and Immature Awareness?

A Person I Used to Know could read information, understand knowledge with data and then take notes and learn to apply new information she gained through life to apply to her immediate life to improve it. But she also would use her new information to be as an active contributor to others in her life and around her.

These views were reasonable and logical to absorb the information for brain retention to remember information and then apply it after the information had been retained in the brain. Every one has their own way to read, absorb, retain and use new information of their life that we either gain by seeking knowledge or lessons learned thru experiences.

But for this person - it was easier to apply the logical of what she would learn but very difficult to find emotional stability and emotional maturity from the circumstances of survival in her life. This person I share of experiences was me.

My negative effects that came from erratic and emotional instabilities with emotional ignorance produced not only harm and hurt to myself that forced me to succumb to my emotions versus focusing on logical reasoning causing utter instability in everything I did or tried to do. The conflict within me was of a battle that began long before I was an adult and long before medical diagnosis had caught up to the vast diversity of symptoms I was enduring.

I became medically diagnosed as an adult with having Bipolar, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Temporal Lobe Seizures, Non epileptic Seizures and Trichiasis.

All of these conditions have plagued me with symptoms of erratic moods, behaviors, and emotions too. Not only was it hard admitting and accepting all I had wrong with me - it was even harder to explain it for others to understand that what I felt and endured was real, factual, and beyond my control.

It was difficult, hard, exhausting, and sometimes excruciating to over come the symptoms and ignorance of my life. It took me a long time as a work in progress before I could start to understand the deficiencies within myself produced by medical conditions and neglect done to me to learn maturity and immaturity with every one else.

For I could fit socially in a room of people that I did not have to know personally or professionally and could find my place of contributions or active participant to feel I could belong - but at the core of my self and in my internal psyche; I was still lacking and voided of a help that I needed to balance and stabilize like healthy people do.

I could front normal for a little while - but all it would take would be a hypomania episode of Bipolar to exhaust me with sleep deprivation that would provoke a seizure due to the high stress of my internal hurricane.

Or a PTSD flashback, nightmares, and triggers of my 5 senses that would cause emotional breakdowns or the constant crying behind closed doors and by myself - that would inflame my eyes that would cause the eye lashes to become inflamed with Trichiasis. In public, I was normal or appeared as healthy and functional as anyone else. But behind closed doors, I had all these questions of my life to answer and no one could answer them for me. I had these internal problems that I could not understand nor could any one help me solve them even with seeking medical treatment.

I could not understand to control what I needed of these voids that I was seeking in my professional life and my personal life.

I was creative, talented, and considered smart or intuitive by others - but I always felt that if I were indeed these factual descriptions that others stated from my evidence of actions and documented proof of these things - then I could surely find and heal or help my self so I could gain control of my symptoms, understand them and not let them take more from her life than they had already done.

I must say - I am now on the effective road I needed to be on along time ago.

How is that? New knowledge and new application of information. I clung to the word truth through out my life as most survivors do.  When a victim has been hurt, scarred and medically compromised by a lie of an abuser or abusers - truth is all that most can turn too for release, escape and as a healing word of recovery that gives us something back that some one else took by their crimes against us.

Through new emotional learning as teaching myself as you would teach a child about emotions - I am gaining a healthy and unhealthy distinctions of words, emotions, feelings, and able to relay and relate better with my own emotions to control them. But I am also able to understand and relate to others more by seeing the facts of feelings and emotions and what they do in a person's life including their contributions and deductions of my own life - as well as - what it does to others too.

I have listed the synonyms of mature and immature. For even smart, wise, and logical or reasonable people can be mature in the productions and active contributions of their life - but they can also be very immature and destructive by their inabilities to admit ignorance of their own life too.

To increase maturity and decrease immaturity in one's life does take a factual knowledge that we as friends, families, or associates of each other in the human race - can not give one another - only a dictionary can fill us with the scopes of facts we need to help our self.

For the dictionary does not lie. But the dictionary allows us to have options in the words we speak, how we communicate and broadens our views, interpretations and perceptions of the person we are, the life we live and all that we share in this universe of the experiences we gain.

Dictionary learning is healing education of human life.

These synonyms of Mature and Immature were taken directly from the free dictionary. com. Notice the affiliation and vast diversity characteristic traits that humans display every day in their actions and behaviors - including acknowledging your own traits of these.

Synonyms of Mature
complete
cultivated
cultured
developed
mellow
mellowed
prepared
seasoned
settled

Synonyms of Immature
childish
adolescent
babyish
crude
infantine
juvenile
raw
tender
undeveloped
unseasonable
unseasoned
untimely
youthful

Notice how Mature produces a finalized growth process. Do you think human beings can ever reach the seasoned state of being settled or developed to maximum capacity of maturity? I do not personally.

For I feel if we would reach maturity full potential in our lives than we would have nothing new to be gained, nothing to learn, nothing to grow and we would indeed become unfulfilled with no continuing destination to be achieved.

But we can keep learning to try to achieve it and use the knowledge of maturity we gain to keep improving our lives and others in our life. Maturity isn't the goal but a continuing partnership that one should seek for their self to achieve to help our brains and body and over all healthy well-being for what we can ultimately be and not what we merely are.

Admitting that factual maturity will never occur but to learn how to gain more maturity - we help our self and help others too and never get burnt out in this personal seeking to find the answers we need to solve our difficult and personal circumstances, medical conditions or heal from events that harmed us and to always solve problems that arise by using a mature active view instead of contributing harsh or detrimental consequences that immaturity causes.

Notice how Immature represents a hard core dose of reality check of your own life and the effects of life around you. Think of the difficult people you know in your life - are they medically compromised or are they merely immature in being raw, childish, untimely, or reacting in juvenile behaviors and emotional actions?

Now think of the ways and actions that you have been immature too. Do you believe that a human being can progress in life to zero out all traits, characteristics, behaviors and emotions of immaturity? Personally I think the answer once again is No.

For I feel that immaturity in responsible management of an individual can be a wonderful asset to have. Immaturity does allow us to laugh, lower inhibitions to have fun and give a healthy release of stress through laughter from the difficulties we endure when used at the appropriate, wise timing and not in an untimely matter. So immaturity has its beneficial place in our lives as well.

Maturity and immaturity do offer positive and negative effects in our life and those around us. But learning when maturity is appropriate and immaturity is not - will always be the hardest personal and professional conflicts that anyone can seek understanding to control behaviors, words, and emotions with.

I am not going to try to destroy the medical and scientific approaches of Bipolar - but I will share enlightenment of symptoms about this medical condition that I have gained to help my condition and perhaps, another to gain understanding and control of their own complex symptoms. Perhaps, this will even help those to understand Bipolar - even if they do not have it.

Some of the symptoms of Bipolar disorder are as: Manic Mood and Behavior or called Hypomania.
Euphoria
Grandiosity
Pressured speech
Impulsivity
Excessive libido
Recklessness
Social Intrusiveness
Diminished need for sleep

The brain and body chemical secretions do create these symptoms that lead to diagnosis of Bipolar. There are more symptoms of Bipolar but I will use the experiences of Bipolar that frequently have caused the most chaos in my life. I have been depressed with Bipolar but it is the hypomanic episodes that I have more frequently than any of the other symptoms.

But as a patient of Bipolar we can be taught what our individual symptoms are, what we can do to counteract our individual profile symptoms of this condition. We can learn new information to become self-aware of the Bipolar symptoms that plaque us and learn to become aware to control them.

Mind over matter is still a powerful force to heal and mend a broken body and mind as it ever was in the history pages - but it does take new skill, healthier information, ability of self-motivation to apply new knowledge on the unhealthy internal data of our bodies and actively be a healthy contributor or mature caregiver to our self and the medical conditions we have.

I present an enlightenment about the hypomania symptoms to give an illustration of the immature symptom attributes of this medical condition.

The symptoms are real and internally provoked by an instable brain that produce extra secretions of chemicals that give hyper activity to our brains and bodies when a person endures the hypomania aspects of Bipolar symptoms.

But what we learn to do with this instability and how to control it is up to each of us to do. To react maturely to help our medical condition or react immaturely that provokes more harm to us than positive, healthy behaviors and consequences.

Manic mood and hypomania behaviors of Bipolar are my most conflicting aspects of this disorder.

Euphoria - a strong feeling of happiness, confidence, or well-being; elation, ecstasy, glee, high spirits, intoxication, and jubilation.

Grandiosity - Characterized by greatness of scope or intent; grand; Characterized by feigned or affected grandeur; pompous display of ornamental speech or language, pompous or pretentious talk or writing.

Impulsivity -  Inclined to act on impulse rather than thought ; based on emotional impulses or whims; spontaneous; acting momentarily; not continuous.

Excessive libido - The psychic and emotional energy associated with instinctual biological drives; Sexual desire; Manifestation of the sexual drive.

Recklessness - Heedless or careless; Headstrong; rash;  Indifferent to or disregardful of consequences.

Social Intrusiveness - aggressiveness as evidenced by intruding; by advancing yourself or your ideas without invitation; the quality of being bold and enterprising.

Diminished need for sleep -  (sleep deprivation - a form of psychological torture inflicted by depriving the victim of sleep)

If you view hypomania Bipolar as I do - in a sense - it is funny. Because what many pay millions of dollars for their addictions to feel the Euphoria that hypomania gives to us internally and not naturally- it's humorous and provides a laugh to say the least.

For what they want to feel of happiness, confidence, ecstasy and glees of intoxication or high spirits from substances that our brains and bodies give us in this condition. Granted this is perceived unhealthy by most - but as long as we are not immaturely hurting others or not creating our own immature instability; this feature of Bipolar can be viewed as a very motivating and inspiring quality to have when balanced and mature about it.

Grandiosity is boastful. This is a very immature trait to have. There is an appropriate time to be boastful and a mature approach to take when spewing the Grandiosity actions and contributions of your life but for many, this is one of those irritating traits that many would perceive as irritating, frustrating and it will take patience from others to understand this and a maturity in self to learn when and how Grandiosity is appropriate and when it is not to be used. I am still learning how.

Then we have the Impulsivity and Recklessness. Two peas in a pod of cause and effects when not aware of what your symptoms are and what you should maturely do with them. These two words in their self speak of immature, selfish, and harmful or hurtful effects.

Many healthy individuals have got drunk at a bar or a club and then got into their vehicle to drive drunk that either got them a DUI ticket or killed someone due to their impulsiveness to excessively consume alcohol and reckless choice to drive while intoxicated. The same of a gambler. For a gambler will impulsively become addicted to their chosen joys and recklessly give into their desires to win more money by playing immature and financially irresponsible that leads to financial devastation. When you view human behavior of the "healthy" people versus that of a Bipolar person - we are not far off from the same immature tree branches - now are we?

Excessive libido is comical to discuss and should be a very personal and private matter. But to share an enlightening point - I have learned through my experiences, my own medical issues and the sharing I have gained of others - this one is the most erratic and hardest to maturely control of Bipolar - if you suffer from spikes or continuous Excessive Libido. The urge hits you. The desire is there. You want sexual fulfillment and release when the increases and urges consume you. You become consumed in this excessive libido that feels like a storage tank that you can not fill nor empty nor stop. The thrills of libido in a stable healthy person wreaks havoc and their own carelessness when not being mature in sexual matters but with Bipolar - your brain and body hold you to a chemical sabotaging - so what can you do maturely to effectively control and release this internal demand upon you? In a person of Bipolar with this increase of internal chemicals of instability - it can be hard to control the impulse to just go out and have reckless sex and even harder to control to maintain a mature and responsible sexual relationship with any one person. For the excessive libido is a fuel of its own source that gives no discrimination to gender.

It can feel like the most controlling and most intense of symptom to have with Bipolar. But how do you really control and effectively calm or release an Excessive libido without being irresponsible, immature, impulsive and reckless in your choice? For me personally - I recommend solo masturbation with a technique that effectively works for you to release your excessive libido without creating reckless or impulsive sexual consequences of immature behavior. Sex is a very natural and healthy experience to enjoy with another human being but when we become immature with our sexual choices and exploit our own vulnerabilities or weaknesses in sex - we hurt ourselves and hurt others. So solo masturbation is the only way to counteract the negativity of this symptom without hurting your self further or any one else. It does not sound fair perhaps - but it is healthy, mature and effective when you find the masturbation that works for you to control this symptom.

For the symptom of Bipolar Excessive libido is a personal and individual symptom indeed - and without using maturity to help ease this symptom - the immature choices that maybe acted upon could not only hurt you worse - but those you do choose to have impulsive, immature or reckless sexual choices with.

It is hard for healthy people to control their libido but for an individual who has a medical condition that increases their sex drive - it will take educational knowledge to understand what is going on inside you and how to counteract the symptoms with mature effects. Most would think having an Excessive libido is a wonderful trait to have - but when trying to be a mature, responsible and give a motherly or fatherly or be a humane example - it can be one of the hardest personal aspects of dealing with a medical condition symptom as this one that occurs in Bipolar patients.

Social Intrusiveness can appear as being a difficult person in the workplace. A workaholic attribute and contribution may seem like an asset for profits - but in a person of Bipolar it is not only destructive to their health - but it will end up in devastation without having maturity, stability, routine, and continuous work ethics and focus on the job.

These qualities of being bold and enterprising can be viewed as strengths but when used immaturely or excessively - the only person you end up hurting is yourself. For every choice or assignment or detail you take in work to get ahead; ask yourself - Did they ask you to do it? Can you commit to the attendance obligations and effectively perform the job duties? What are you gaining? What are you losing? What are you maturely gaining? What will you immaturely gain? What will you maturely lose? What will you immaturely lose?

Ask your self questions before impulsively answering on anything in employment matters. There are many uneducated individuals in management positions of the work place who will pursue exploitation and promotion of your motivational drive to perform continually - but without taking care of yourself first and thinking before you act of all possible consequences to doing extra at work; Peter Principle maybe what you end up becoming. For you will escalate to a level that you can not effectively nor productively do your job requirements when you are not balanced, focused, and consistent. Quality is more important than quantity. For Social Intrusiveness can be immature, rude, and intimidating but it can also be effectively used in a healthy and mature manner to contribute to your life and those around you. Balance is key.

Diminished need for sleep creates sleep deprivation. Sleep deprivation is the most dangerous side effect of Bipolar. For with sleep deprivation - it can produce the same effects as a person under influence or intoxication would have. Inhibitions become lowered. Invincibility increases. Instabilities of rational thoughts or logical actions take a back seat to the sleep deprived state of mind and body. Emotional vulnerabilities are harder to control when exhausted. The brain's ability to routinely perform becomes exhausted with instability and the facial features will reveal the lack of sleep quicker than anything else.
Maturity is the only way to counteract this sleep deprivation. Eat healthy foods at more frequent intervals if you must to keep energy and balanced sugar fuel in the body. Exercise to release and control the hypermania episodes. Create a routine schedule to get at least 8 hours of sleep a night. Even if you are not sleepy or sleeping - at least when laying there even with your brain running rapid thoughts; your eyes and brain will be resting. Most will disagree and say that if you can not sleep due to hypomania episodes to get up and not force yourself to sleep. I disagree with this and will tell you why.

Children are the prime examples of hyperactivity and hyper moods that prevent them from going straight to sleep or wanting to go to bed at night. It takes established routines or reading rituals or even lack of television before children go to bed before their young brains and bodies of hyper activity to calm down to sleep. This mature approach helps a child to rest. Bipolar individuals who are hypomania must use the same responsible and mature approach so they can decrease their sleep deprivations and to increase routine, stability and help balance their internal brain and body.

I gave all of this to you today to represent several facts about maturity and immaturity of how these assets can be even applied to medical conditions and symptoms to deal with them in a healthy way and mature way.

Unhealthiness can be a mechanical issue in the body like a broken bone that needs a different kind of treatment than something of a chemical or software issue in the body and brain like mental illness can give a person. But healthiness of maturity can be learned and achieved to make the most of what you have to medically live with - so it does make your life no more unhealthy than it already has.

Every day I have to constantly focus and stay on top of my mature and immaturity actions - as well as be aware to my symptoms and how I interact with others and these interactions affect me. For I am learning how to view and become of their mature traits and their immature traits as well.

There is something about the values of forgiveness and increasing effective communication and the quality of life you have - when you focus on life with only a view of immature or mature only.

For it does not make something like healthy and unhealthy sound so different or abstract or unique after all. Medical symptoms can be viewed as unhealthy but in dealing with them and learning about them to control them - mature and immature is the only safe and logical way to go in controlling and managing medical symptoms to increase quality of life. It is a funny bonus to see how immature and mature others are and how they are not even medically diagnosed yet or labeled with a medical condition too. For they are healthy but just as immature or mature as we are. For we are all immature and mature human beings with individual perfections and imperfections too. Make the most of it and learn as you go. For your brain will accept anything you give it - so give it the factual good stuff already!

What Age does a Person Mature?

A Person I Used to Know was born as an adult mentally trapped in the mind and body of a child. The extreme circumstances of trauma, survival and abuse she endured left her feeling more mature and acting more maturely than the abusers and the professional adults around her represented in their actions toward her and this unhealthy life she fought to endure.

These extreme circumstances and events lead her to believe that no one is an expert. No one is ever truly mature nor an expert. That every human being out there was just as imperfect her as she was.

Each individual had their positive characteristics, skills and talents but they also possessed negative behaviors, hurtful, harmful and unhealthy decisions and choices and that not one perfect was perfect.

She came to fear no one but to try to respect every one. If she could not tolerate them nor felt safe in their presence anymore - she'd let them be.

She done this to prevent doing harm to her self or mingling with those of immaturity that hadn't progressed to her standards, beliefs, and ways of life. For she owed this life to her self for all she had endured to evaluate, witness, watch, and see their actions versus their words to get to know a person for her self. She respects her self even if no one else does. She accepted the fact that difficult people exist in this world whose problems were as equal or greater than hers. She could not change them but only accept her self for who she was and seek her changes. She could not create change for them if they were unwilling to help them self. If she could not tolerate their lifestyles that were different than hers - she let them be and kept on living her own life and to do no harm or hurt upon anyone.

To evaluate a person by their actions and not merely their words was her motto and still is. To enjoy the world and all individuals in it as human beings. To see society as team players and everything she actively done or participated into was a contribution for the team objectives.

Oh the pain, heartache, hurt, harm and constant vicious cycle of unhealthiness she provoked and brought on herself with her childish yet mature ways of viewing. This person was me.

Which leaves me to socially ask the question - What Age does a Person Mature?

Many would speak intellectually through science or medicine of what the internal brain and body is doing to reach maturity. Personally, I do not feel a person ever reaches a full maturity age until they die for their balance of mature and immaturity must be recognized from with in and change sought to create a balance of both. For some, death will never find them with maturity.

For the brain and body are so much more than mere instruments to be understood of the chemical, blood, and computer processing that lies beneath the skin.

For each process that occurs in the brain or body has a cause and effect that disrupts the mental, physical, psychological, emotional, rational, and logical actions that a person does or what they think to them self in the silence of their conscience thoughts.

So with that said - we are all internally imbalanced with our mature and immaturity too. Until we seek out that of our deficiencies and learn how we are defective or not mature in our ways or thoughts - then and only then - may we seek to grow a maturity balanced.

I have met and enjoyed many colorful, vibrant, adventurous, entertaining and wonderful qualities of fun and happiness in others through out my life.

Adults who were younger than me or even older than me that were matured in their professional lives but their personal lives were in chaos - more so than my own life and history were.

For their levels of development in their childhood and youth may have offered them finances or luxuries or opportunities that I was never afforded but they were void inside too. Deficient and defiant with immaturity even when fronting as a mature professional. I guess that is why there were a hoot. Because we all had the same immature and mature ways that fronted very well. But inside, we were a pile of individuals that had more going on underneath the skin that we cared to admit too or discuss. Sometimes, sharing is even off limits to those closest to us. For if fun or happiness can be increased versus solving a problem - most will take the fun happiness instead as their first choice.

These individuals were honestly immature about their professional and personal life as I was. A rainbow of clueless people who only wanted to escape the unhappiness or stress of their life - as I did - when pursuing fun.

Immaturity of attending school days make it fun to skip out on attendance obligations for young ones that skip school. Adults who escape or skip out on their adult responsibilities, obligations, or their priorities from their children or their spouses or families; do the same thing. Immaturity follows us in different ways. Actions tell what those immature ways are.

You could say the company we will keep and are usually drawn close too are those who share our own personalities, characteristic traits, talents, skills and levels of maturity and immaturity too. In an immature or mature way - the association we keep will deepen the human bond or relationships we feel for those we have closest to us but at the same time - these close bonds can create havoc, produce immature choices and destroy not only your life but others in your life as well.

When close associates of friends, family or partner do advance in maturity or chooses to regress to immaturity in the choices and actions of their life - then relationships, friendships, and even families divide, separate, or forever destruct because of immaturity and maturity issues. Not health. Not finances. Not economical losses. But many actions or choices makes and creates are done with an invisible force known only to be described by facts to be immature or facts of maturity in their actions.

Immaturity and maturity look very different in each person and can only be distinguished by their actions. For what they may excel with maturity and choices that reflect wise, logical, or rational actions could very well be - the immaturity of their emotions, impulsiveness, reckless and careless choices that demise them in life.

When one views immaturity - it should be stated as an unhealthiness. For immaturity makes mistakes and never learns from them.

However, maturity teaches to be aware to the mistakes created and work to solve these problems - so they do not become repeated thus making an individual healthier and the choices they make as well.
Their balance comes from a healthy dose of maturity to counteract the unhealthiness of their immaturity and working or seeking to change this to solve their problems or correct their mistakes.

Once again I refer to the free dictionary online again for facts. Facts of a dictionary give the presentation of words. Not affiliations of words through heritage, history,opinion, biased or prior knowledge learned  through nature and nurture or experiences of our lives. But the dictionary breathes new life on old words to give a person a new view, evaluation, and application of these words to use in a healthier way but to give relief for the many definitions a word represents but also to help assist in solving problems.

Let's look at the Facts of Mature= http://www.thefreedictionary.com/mature
Having reached full natural growth or development
Composed of adults
Having reached the limit of its time; due
To evolve toward or reach full development
Relatively advanced physically, mentally, emotionally, etc; grown-up
To make or become mature
Fully developed in body or mind.
Develop and reach maturity; undergo maturation
Accept and make use of one's personality, abilities, and situation
Grow, progress, unfold, or evolve through a process of evolution, natural growth, differentiation, or a conducive environment

Now, let's look at the Facts of Immature= http://www.thefreedictionary.com/immature
Not fully grown or developed
Marked by or suggesting a lack of normal maturity
Deficient in maturity; lacking wisdom, insight, emotional stability, etc
Not mature or ripe.
Emotionally undeveloped; juvenile; childish.
In an early period of life or development or growth

The medical and scientific industry would have a person to believe that they are mentally ill, medically sick or deficient in their body, brains, and imbalanced so it require medications, therapy or expensive treatments to correct or heal or recover from ailing symptoms.

But what if it only comes down to maturity or immaturity in a person? What if the real symptoms an individual feels or possesses is not an actual symptom but a lack of knowing better how to deal or cope or manage their brain, thoughts, emotions, and these immature deficiencies give production to the body to produce the initial symptoms?

Does this sound extreme or wrong? Does this sound impossible? Well you tell me.

For I know my stance of what I feel about myself. I understand all that I have been medically diagnosed with in my life. I understand the mechanical failures of the human brain, body and chemical imbalances.
But I also admit, accept, and realize how nature, nurture, family heritages, history, biased, old information and my experiences has taught me valuables lessons of who I want to be and who I do not to be. I am learning about my own maturity and admitting my own immaturity to change it.

These personal analysis contributes to the process of what an individual person is and who they become too.

Do you seek insight into yourself by asking questions of your own life? Do you seek out information you want to know in others by their opinions or biased comments or do you seek facts to solve the problems of your life? Are you a contributor to your own happiness and production factors to how you live your life or do you merely accept it as such - never feeling like an individual but only a spawn into another's wishes for you and about you?

Maturity and immaturity are very facts about all human life. The questions now left is to ask is: "What ways are you mature? What ways are you immature?" Only you can answer these. Now what do you need to change about your immature ways?

How mature were you yesterday or last year or in the Person You Used to Know of yourself? How immature were you yesterday or last year or what changes or creation would you like to do to become the Person You Want to Be ?

We seek support and others to solve our problems or give us answers that we need to help us. What many fail to be aware of is that usually the answers you seek are already in you but you are afraid or do not ask the right questions of your self and others.

When inquiring of questions to seek answers too - many adults fail to understand the importance of asking questions.

For questions engage. Questions maybe viewed by many as immature or admitting that you do not know something. But in fact, asking questions is maturity growing, progressing, and contributing to the process of individual advancement. Not producing regressions, oppressions or depressions that accepting answers only produce.

Instead of viewing people as healthy or unhealthy with their medical conditions or the issues they speak of - instead - focus on their actions. Are their healthy actions producing maturity in them to help their conditions or are they merely unhealthy contributors to their unhealthy medical conditions in handling their diagnosis with immaturity complicating their life?

Medical diagnosis have evolved and increased over the last few decades due to research, technology, and the expenses has escalated with it. The knowledge of gaining medical and scientific information has not only improved individual lives but it has also created a market for profit.

The prescription drug abuse has escalated with it as well. So be careful. Ask questions. Seek yourself for the answers you require and never be afraid to ask or speak up for yourself.

No one is exempt from being mature or immature - even professionals, documented experts and those you feel intimidated by. We are all immature and mature human beings who process life by our own internal workings and the thoughts and emotions we use to fuel our actions.

No one is perfect. All are imperfect. When you view others in this manner - you can learn how to fear no one while respecting every one and gain who you are and what you will tolerate or will not in your life. You become who you want and not what others wish you to be.

You are the ultimate physician to how well you take care of your self maturely or immaturely. So learn the facts. A dictionary is the only source I would recommend for factual information that you seek answers to about the questions you have of your life and no topic is off limit in the dictionary too.